Thinking about that day always leaves me to memories how we did celebrate when I was a child. I am grown in the GDR, which does not exist anymore. There each 8. march was an important day and not the mothers day. The ideology has it that all are equal, but reality was different. Equality was for sure better then in the other countries, but women had not been equal to man and never got the chance to the highes position in a job. They got a day of in each month for housecleaning and things like that, but never did the man.
But as a child you don't see that as clear and do what your teacher says to surprise your mother and other women with gifts. Mostly flower, mostly the red carnations, as they has not been another choice to be true. Some times we made things like oven cloths or similar, thought they have been not that nice and I am grateful all those women never showed this to us, always the smile, always a thank you. They knew far to well that children don't understand the need of the celebration of womens day, what it really meant.
Now I know and wonder. What do we celebrate? Did we come far? Did we succeed? Do we have equality? Women can vote in many countries but not in all. Women are allowed to work and learn in many countries but not in all. Women are treaten as same is still in no country the case, only with some people. Women earn the same salary as man- no, in no country is this the case. Yes, in some jobs they do and also bit more but even the women stars fail to get equality.
Women can choose to have children is also something which is only a reality in some countries.
But it did get better, just in very small steps.
Man help women with the children. Mostly not the case, just in some countries with democracy. It is still the duty of a women to care for children, but then in some countries where the sharia law is the case, women have no right after the marriage and after a divorce about themself, their children or over money. They are second class people.
It is still the case that women cannot wear the cloths they want as man say they are the victim of womens sexuality when they stand alone on the street, when they show their beautyful face, when they wear short cloths. They are victimes and therfrore must and cannot let it be to rape women, to beat women, to hate women, to torment them. That's why they have to wear as much untill you see only a tend over them and even then they are like a wild animal for many man if they travel alone.
Crazy.. and sad and...
It is still more important how you look as a girl and women than what you do, what you know and how you can be part of this wonderful world.
But the look is a reason for man to treat them without respect, no matter what they do. Women do provoke with their look they say but it is man who cannot show respect and see that they are humans like them. Still if a women raise her voice she is seen as a bitch. If the women is young, she must be stupid. If the women is older but refused to act like that, she gets bashed and bullied. If a women these days enjoys sex, she is a tramp and if she refuse - she is frigid. And if a women loves a women she just has not found the "right" man.
Women are often working these day, but if they expect community care for children, they are called selfish, even in Germany. Maybe some man take off a year for the new born, but that is seldom.
If women still stands up for their rights they get beaten, called unfeminine and aggressive and even badder. But if they don't stand up for themself they are called weak and stupid and all is their own fault.
The play with those make them feel guilty is against women, when they do what they want and can, when they show it is all possible what they think and need, is a long and wrong play.
So man have to learn a lot, no- mankind has to learn a lot. Equality comes not just like that. Mothers and fathers have to teach their boys and girls about equality. Society has to avoid clichés like girl is pink and boy is blue.
Yes I know parents who try really their best to give their kids the choice they feel they want to make and they really try to teach their children, that they can do whatever they like as long all gets respect. They even try to make the childrens room neutral or just colorful but avoid clichés. But it is hard when uncle and grandmother lives up to the cliché, even when the parents have told them to let this be. But nevertheless mothers and fathers, teachers of each gender have to tell, have to teach the children, that all are equal and should be treaten alike and that empathy and love and helping each other is the right way.
We can only change the way we treat us when we start changing ourself and let our children grow in/ with the right mind. All man have to respect women, but all women too.
Equality does not mean to make it likewise, it means all have the same chance and possibility. It means not to tell each other that someone is weak because of its sex, gender, if the person has breasts or of the sexuality or the knowledge they have.
Yes it is about power that the rights are still not the way it should be, that women are worth less and have harder to get education. Politic is one reason, religion is another one, the wanting of seeings things just black and white as the world is more and multidimentional and complex- is another one.
They therefore say that ecomomy will break if women gets payed the same, which is untrue. And yes, a war is more easy to have with stupid people and with fear it is easier to lead people. It is also easier to tell them what they want so they can keep the power and make sure they don't ask, don't see, don't realize the truth behind.
We do not celebrate the success, but we have to take this day as a reminder. A reminder that it is our choice with words and the way we act. Just take a look at yourself. How you call women, how you treat them and how you think about them.
Love & Light
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