Are we expecting to much from LOVE?

Love, a big word and oh so many thoughts around it. 

Love is something we hear many times in our life.

Our imaginations from this word are endless as each has it's own version what it means.

Of course it is common sense that it is a positive thing. A feeling. Something we should have in life, give and take.

The ways to love are so different and so diverse it brings many people to their limits. 

Why is that?

Well, don't we sing about love a lot? All those songs how high the love must be, how deep the love feels and how life must be and how we overcome fear. Mostly we sing about the love of two people who are also sharing lives together and everything. 

We also have movies more and more about the same way telling us and then all the TV-Shows... no matter what kind of and where it playes- Love is the unique theme. 

But you can love a sun, a mother, a friend and an animal, the flower or the garden. Yes, we love things too- sometimes to much. We even love our life sometimes. 

But these ways will not be what I will write about now.

So the love between two people as we romanticize is the reason why we can feel so deep blue and having a dark time. 

Mostly when we lost a love. 

But we forgot in many ways and times that love is not only meant for two people having the chance of making a family. 

But as we are thinking about this version of love. How did it changed over the past 100 years?

Once we married because of economy and blood. Now we marry also because of love. 

The movies in the cinema are giving us pictures of THE ONE. 

Many songs are telling us it is all or nothing now. 

We learned very god that it seems to be only black and white. 

Thought we know reality is not made of only beautiful people inside and outside. 

We hear that we always have to tell the truth and love always find a way. 

But if love is only a one way street- I assume it is better to keep your mouth shut. It does not lead to something god telling another one that you love him deeply, when he is not. 

But reality has also shown many times, that love maybe sometimes never find its way. 

We also say it is a feeling, it is so much more and above. But falling in love is first just a reaction, a chemical reaction and the result of our picture we have in mind, why someone is right. 

Maybe.

From what we get to know and then start to build up something we call relationship. Thought most of us nowadays don't come this far. Why?

Looking in our minds we get one of the answers. 

We have an ideal picture of how it should be. 

Once people also had an ideal picture (even if it was different) but they knew it was an ideal, nothing they will live up to, but can take as a guide. 

Now many believe that the only love, right love is to find someone who is exactly like that ideal picture we made up our self. Funny thing is, that we are god in making up something we believe is best and right but is actually wrong for us or not exactly what we need.

But then living up to an ideal is next to impossible. 

Question- Should one wait until we reach and got that ideal in real life?

Looking at the reality it seems to be better to advise not to do so. 

I mean can it be a wonder when people giving up hoping for the love, when we try to reach an ideal?

Fat people have hardly the best results and people who are disabled and also those who look too normal or so won't have it easy or ever the possibility. 

And why are we believing that out there is someone as exactly the man you dreamed of in character. It is not a doll we search. 

How then can we believe someone will be exactly like our dreams? Thought mostly or dreams is how someone looks and what he/she works and some things she/he does but the rest we blend out. 

Following the ideal leads mostly to getting disappointed as I have seen it many times. But we use to be it about another person instead of our self. When we are the ones who expected something from another human he/she has never ask for. 

Looking at how life goes on with many people it seems that actually some things we read are true.

Like when they write about that we search someone for the bed and someone for raising a family. It mostly means also to find someone for both is impossible. But alone this leads to a question many should ask them self. 

What am I searching? What am I needing? Someone for fun or someone for life?

And what should we do with our picture in mind? This beautiful illusion.

You are allowed to have it, to feed it, to love it but maybe we should keep in mind that what we find will just be close to this picture. 

So, are we hoping to find someone close to that picture we have - close as possible?

Should we be just lucky about that? Or should we wait and how close is enough? How close can we get, when we don't know our future? How save is actually a relationship we start, when there can be another human closer then the one we know? 

But then it is god to remember that the biggest love can be the worst relationship and some real big love is never meant to be more then just a moment. 

All those movies about the biggest love of your life is the one you will marry. Telling us, then you will be happy.

But happiness has nothing to do with it and the biggest love in a relationship can lead to depression as it can come out totally different as you may have dreamed of when you fall oh so deeply in love.

Shh, shh- did you hear that we discuss here something called a propaganda? 

Shh, shh- did you know it all is just a game at the end!?

1913 did Arthur Schnitzler say: "We all play. Who knows, is wise."

With all that in mind it is no wonder that we should ask our self--> Are we expecting to much?

What do you think? Are we? Write me here or go on Twitter: @SebastianisLove

LOVE & LIGHT