Where to draw the line?

A question I ask myself from time to time. 

Just yesterday when I watched the final of the - melodifestival - from Sweden and Måns Zelmeröw became the winner with his song "Heros", I also got remind of his drunk talking about Gays. He showed a homophobe side and afterwards he has regret it and said sorry. In Sweden for the most people therefore it is settled that he is o.k. again now. 

Question is, is he? Because we tend to show our true side when we are drunk. Or was it just a stupid mistake and we should take it as such? 

Or the other day when I read about Russel Tovey and that he was talking about liking his muscles and being happy not looking feminine. He got a shit storm and people called him racist agains feminine boys and man. They called him having a problem with his feminine side and man who are less strong build. I found nothing like this in his speech, though he pleased for forgiveness and said sorry. But I though why does he have to, as I did not felt offensive. Actually I wonder if those people accusing him of being racist are those who have a problem. It is not a  secret that many gays have a problem with drags, feminine boys and like this as they don't feel comfortable with their own "women" side. Mostly surly they only do feel unsure for a short time as they get comfort of being out as gay man with time and so also with the other side. 

Discrimination is often something very difficult to tell as it is much about the other person who feels being discriminated or offend like a colored man can feel himself as a victim of the joke you just made. 

Just now we also have a backlash in sexuality and the freedom we got since the 60-70`s. 

I mean now a painting from a young boy from Caravaggio is called pornography as it shows a nude child and so a man or women is a pedophile liking this kind of painting. 

It reminds me of a time when giving as a boy a girl a piece of candy in her mouth with your own hands was a reason to get suspended from school.

Our political correction of thinking, our you must never discriminate in no way anybody, our many rules against making people offensive have lead to a big problem and got us to a line we have hard to see. A very thin line and our black and white thinking and - only I'm right- thinking, have lead us to a very questionable place. The place of the questions when is it to much, when is it true what you say as people use to swing in their ways. 

But then we also got a problem with the healthy way of being able to change your opinion and being able to learn from mistakes. We have learned to not to trust them as certain people misused them.

So where to draw a line? 

One may think a healthy human mind is able of thinking self and being able to see it. But we have become so unsure that even when we try it is hard to find a point to be sure that what we heard is what we can believe, thought we want to believe it is true, like when Måns is telling he has no problems with gays and does not know why he told such a stupid thing. 

But the thing is- I do not know him in private. So how do I know he is what he was telling? How can I make a joke about a colored people without that anyone gets offend? Is it possible? 

The truth is maybe, you can talk and act in a common ways but when you look over your own fence and therefore risk more, you won't be sure but can hope. 

Which does not means we have borders we should respect and except and there are things absolutely going to far, but though it seems so clear, sometimes we come them near and then we reach those line. 

A line we can cross or just touch like Johnny Depp in the movie "Into the wood" where he plays the wolf and in such a way that he is in danger to cross the line to be a pedophile but he never did. Thought some may already be offend. 

No, the world has not become to complicated but we have become to afraid to react calmly and first think before talk. We must learn again and teach each other to not immediately kill people when they tell what they see or believe. We also have to teach each other again more about meanings of words and to use our words more wisely again. I really do believe that many people mean no harm and just use the wrong words. Also many people overreact to much. 

Sadly the actual situation makes it much harder to discuss with people about certain themes. As we, because of those reaction system, judge to quickly. But here we have to, no we must get aware of the backlash which is just going on! Our actual chain reaction is helping those who lead the backlash. Far too many also like it as it feels comfortable and makes some people more powerful as being back in the old conservative times means people are more afraid and easier to lead. 

So I feel we have to take it more seriously with the question- where to draw the line?!

Love & Light