purple rain

Yes, it is October the 15. and the day to wear purple in the rain or even sunshine as this is the day to show to other people that you are against bullying. 

Just a couple of years ago this idea grow out of the fact that we still have to deal wit death caused of being bullied. Yes, still people kill them self because some people treat you bad or take you as a walking joke. 

To be true, those people know mostly very well what they do to you but ignore that you are human and have fun or do it to have fun and feel stronger, bigger or show of power. 

Bullying has many faces and many times you are not seeing it clear, many are not even aware that you are a victim of such a try. 

So let's take a deeper look on how bullying can be.

First the very obvious. You can already experience this in Kindergarten. There is this boy or girl, looking not exactly what others do and some start to make jokes on you, call you names and sometimes also beat you up, sometimes more, sometimes less and unseen for others, when you are standing alone in the corner. They steel your clothes, bags or put them in unreachable places, they look you in the toilet or leave you with a mark which made you look like a stupid one. 

Another is to stalk you or treat you over Facebook and catch you just in front of your door at home and tell you, you are worthless and get a punch if you do this or that. They don't want you to feel strong, be good or make things right and eat your fear and loves you unsure and feeling weak. But some also go a step further and burn your house or car or throw things at you. 

Bullying is not only to make a joke, it is treating you bad and sometimes to death.

Most who are the reason why people feel sick and weak are in no way aware of the impact this all has on a personality of the victim. How much they can destroy a happy life with just a few words. They believe being harmless because it is just a joke but inside they know it is always more, it's the which to harm and do bad things without calling it that way, as most people will not see it that way or just say exactly the same like those who do you harm and if some victim stand up they first laugh at you and try to put you down until they fight back and show them how much it can hurt but many are to afraid and many have already understood they would not be better then those who inflict the pain.

So this day is also a chance to talk to others when to stop and to be more aware that doing so is not a sign of being stronger, better or powerful. It's the other way 'round!

Also bullying is not to find just in school, Kindergarten or working place, it is also very common in politic and private life. Sadly, less people call it what it is and most people are very unsure when does such thing start to be what we call bullying. When is it just a joke, when not and how do I know if this will hurt? 

Of course first of all it is the victim who tells you the border. But then you can be smart enough and take to empathy; then you'll know very clear when to stop. It is also the indent of why you make a joke. Is it showing of, or show a mistake? Is it to harm or to remember? If you call someone names, why do you do it and what names are you calling?

And it should be clear that giving out a false statement and false information about another person to inflict some action or because you don't like the other one or you want to put yourself in a better position, that this is bullying. A very common thing colleagues do. Telling things which are not true or they know they are most likely untrue. It's a pity that they do as they weaken the position and make things harder to change.  But some do as they are not happy with their own situation, but instead of being true they go that way and I hope in this case that life will show them this is wrong. 

It is also bullying to deny others people right because you feel unsure or have not a clue or just a bad feeling. And we know people still do because of your skin color, gender, sexuality or because you are disabled. They believe you are weak or want you to be. 

But what can we do to stop this? 

Of course talk and write about that problems. Wear purple to give the possibility to other people to talk to you and a chance to change or find a way out of their situation as many victims have to learn to change the way they think about them self and how others look at them. The change of habits and believes are the most successful way to get rid of those  who hurt you as you let yourself be hurt and the more negative you are, the more weak you let yourself be, the more you will stay or be a victim. You can change the situation by thinking positive of yourself and find good things about you and for you. It may take time but at the end, just remember you are stronger then them because they have the need to act that way to feel stronger but they will let go if you are visibly stronger as them and if its just having a strong back again. Look out for friends who think as yourself or better who have the same interest. It's not about changing them, it's to change yourself and then they will do or just leave you alone. 

You know I am hard of hearing and people assume that I am stupid or not good at work and some try to talk behind me and tell I am weak, not right and so on, but I never cared about that and after years I always experience the same, that after a while some people tell me what they did believe but are happy now that they have changed their mind. That's the way I do, let them get their own picture of me and make own conclusions and if they like it or not is their problem. My decision is my reaction to what they do. And before I react to fast I take time to think and let things come down and I try to see thinks from different sides.  

So now... go out, wear purple, talk and look out for situations which are clear to make a stop and show your courage.

Love & Light