The other day I posted on Facebook a picture of me older then 15 years. It was part of the "Fotochallenge" where you have to post for five days each day one picture of yourself from a time 15 years and longer ago. Quite funny as most of us have to actually look out for the real photos and make a pic of them to get them on the computer or laptop. Yes, there was a time we only could make the pictures that way and we have been more careful in the way when we made one. It was to expensive to waste a photo.
Anyway it made me think again of how a family is made and how much we discuss this these days and that some people still only call the so called traditional family a family- meaning : mother, father and a child or two. They say only this version leads to a lucky and happy life and only this way makes you a good human.
Of course this is such bullshit as you always had different family constellations and those have been all good and children are able to enjoy life.
I mean what is important for a child? Having two parents like mother and father as such or ... having a loving parent and someone you can trust and look up to. Someone who teach you important things in life and will listen when in need.
Is it bad for children to have a father and a mother who are working mornings and evening and nights and have not much time left? Is it bad when a girl grows up at her fathers house with only him to look up to and he works full time? Is it bad when both parents travel along and take the kid with them and each time it has to get used to a new school? Is it bad when a grandmother or aunt takes care of you instead of a mother and a father? Is it bad when you grow up in a children's home?
No, all children can have a happy time, may it be hard sometimes and may they see the person who takes care of them not that much, but as long those people give love and really care and listen and teach and see you as a precious, you will become a good human of course.
Thieves and murderer have come out of functional families and so called traditional families.
They are in no way a guarantee that a child will be happy, a good human, someone we will look up to.
And no child cares itself about who the person is, if the person is gay, women, man, old or young. All they want is to be able to trust you, to find home at your side and someone to ask and please for help, someone who will show and teach them.
Bad things happen in every family, no matter how the family is made. Yes, that means that no version is the best. No version is the only one and right one and as many call the traditional family of mother and father and two children- they forget that the first family they say they look up to and is the role model (Maria and Jesu...) they live after- actually has two dads and a mother who got a child in no typical naturally way (no sex) and had only one child. The model those people claim is actually very young and the most time of mankind we had all kinds of families.
So... to all with different families- let's stay happy and never let anyone tell you, you are worth less, worthless or not real.
LOVE & LIGTH
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