Living a positive life

No, this is not a blog about how to stay positive, think positive, lead positive or act positive or even talk positive instead of using negotiations. 

It's about the HI Virus. Something we still deal with. No, it's not the worst disease and also not the most dangerous one. I already wrote a several times about that. Still we see a rising in numbers of infections after all the years. Still no way to avoid it with a vaccination. But the med has become much better and people live nearly normal. Nearly as most hide the fact that they are one of those who are taking the pills or at least are under the eye of a doctor. Thought still it did not went through to many people that those are the safest contact you may have as they are controlled and most of them are very looking to not bring anyone in danger. Thought those who take the pills mostly nowadays have undetectable virus status. Means there is no safer way as this one. But yes using condoms still is something you should do with sex with strangers as to protect yourself from other diseases who are actually more easy to get and if they are not discovered after, they can cost much more damage then you believe. They can also lead to dead. But in a relationship with clear borders and truthful talking it is most safe to have sex without condoms with a positive human. 

But the backlash those peoples get nowadays from media and others is a sign, that we deal with a lot more then just a disease. It's the image of sin, of hate and weakness, of -Only the others can get it but me!- believing. It's the try to point a finger to others and call them shameful names and make them victims and outsiders no matter what. 

It's the ignorance that each can get it, that you don't see it in peoples face if they have it or not and after all it is still the sign that we do not talk when needed about it. It is because we have hard to talk to each other about sex and all the things around when it is earnest, when it is private and mostly when you are in passion. We fear the stigma, we fear being pushed away. We fear to be called names we are afraid of. We are also often afraid of being true to our self and that is because most of us do not have safe sex each time. 

Talking about HIV and AIDS in public is talking about sex, thought this disease has more then one way to come to you and sex is just one of those many possible ways, but there are no stupid mistakes. 

Most afraid are those who should know better. Nurses. Far to many still fear to much and know to less and try to ignore the theme. Far to many would not like to work with someone who is infected as they are afraid of getting it. Stupid. No logic. Yes, but it has to do with fear, wrong pictures and preconceptions who are hard to destroy and it is also the sex thing. 

It would be much easier when we take it like cancer. But no, we still make a big fuss about it. More then it should. But industry and politic makes it even harder to get away with stereotypes. They want them alive for the sake of money and pride. 

In the last year many publishing organization and helping organizations have changed the way they talk to people as they have understood that reaching them is not to get with one advert. Even less with the same for each and everyone. We have to go to the streets, to school, to conferences, to radio and clubs to reach each, as they are different, in their own way.

But it is still hard to get people who are infected to talk openly. They still need a strong back and background. They still need self confidence and must have had already some kind of career as being open pushes you in new directions and can cost you your job. 

So I'll understand that nurses don't tell but know they should but can't. But times are on the side of being open as the medicine makes it clear that you are no danger as a nurse for no one. Your treatment will protect them and you. 

Nearly 35 years now since the first contact. 
First there was the wonder what is it. Then they fought the stigma it's the gay cancer. Then they fought the time as many died so fast and medicine became a question of dead and life and money. Laws made life harder and new investigation showed other ways to get infected. Then it was to stay alive as long as you can. Then, when living longer, maybe much longer made us wonder what to do with your time. Now we have time and a chance of a longer survive, we wonder how to make people less afraid and take the situation serious as numbers of infection rises again, but we also wonder how much is politic, how many lies are still on our way and what can we do? When will it get to normal, when to something some get some not. 

When will people be able to work no matter what? 

Nearly 35 years and still fighting. Still we die. But don't we all. 

Still we fear sex and the talking about it.

Still we deny the truth that life itself is risky. 

When do we leave all that behind and let fear, fear our positive mind. 

I remember the dead. But I also live with my positive friends side by side and love them and are fearless. 

How are you doing?

Be true to yourself. Don't be a shame. It is naturally you have doubts. It is the first step to go around and learn and let lose. 

Make being positive a positive thing.

A lesson of life and dead. 

Not only at the World Aids Day on the first of December.

Each day.

Each time.

LOVE & LIGHT