Living a positive life

No, this is not a blog about how to stay positive, think positive, lead positive or act positive or even talk positive instead of using negotiations. 

It's about the HI Virus. Something we still deal with. No, it's not the worst disease and also not the most dangerous one. I already wrote a several times about that. Still we see a rising in numbers of infections after all the years. Still no way to avoid it with a vaccination. But the med has become much better and people live nearly normal. Nearly as most hide the fact that they are one of those who are taking the pills or at least are under the eye of a doctor. Thought still it did not went through to many people that those are the safest contact you may have as they are controlled and most of them are very looking to not bring anyone in danger. Thought those who take the pills mostly nowadays have undetectable virus status. Means there is no safer way as this one. But yes using condoms still is something you should do with sex with strangers as to protect yourself from other diseases who are actually more easy to get and if they are not discovered after, they can cost much more damage then you believe. They can also lead to dead. But in a relationship with clear borders and truthful talking it is most safe to have sex without condoms with a positive human. 

But the backlash those peoples get nowadays from media and others is a sign, that we deal with a lot more then just a disease. It's the image of sin, of hate and weakness, of -Only the others can get it but me!- believing. It's the try to point a finger to others and call them shameful names and make them victims and outsiders no matter what. 

It's the ignorance that each can get it, that you don't see it in peoples face if they have it or not and after all it is still the sign that we do not talk when needed about it. It is because we have hard to talk to each other about sex and all the things around when it is earnest, when it is private and mostly when you are in passion. We fear the stigma, we fear being pushed away. We fear to be called names we are afraid of. We are also often afraid of being true to our self and that is because most of us do not have safe sex each time. 

Talking about HIV and AIDS in public is talking about sex, thought this disease has more then one way to come to you and sex is just one of those many possible ways, but there are no stupid mistakes. 

Most afraid are those who should know better. Nurses. Far to many still fear to much and know to less and try to ignore the theme. Far to many would not like to work with someone who is infected as they are afraid of getting it. Stupid. No logic. Yes, but it has to do with fear, wrong pictures and preconceptions who are hard to destroy and it is also the sex thing. 

It would be much easier when we take it like cancer. But no, we still make a big fuss about it. More then it should. But industry and politic makes it even harder to get away with stereotypes. They want them alive for the sake of money and pride. 

In the last year many publishing organization and helping organizations have changed the way they talk to people as they have understood that reaching them is not to get with one advert. Even less with the same for each and everyone. We have to go to the streets, to school, to conferences, to radio and clubs to reach each, as they are different, in their own way.

But it is still hard to get people who are infected to talk openly. They still need a strong back and background. They still need self confidence and must have had already some kind of career as being open pushes you in new directions and can cost you your job. 

So I'll understand that nurses don't tell but know they should but can't. But times are on the side of being open as the medicine makes it clear that you are no danger as a nurse for no one. Your treatment will protect them and you. 

Nearly 35 years now since the first contact. 
First there was the wonder what is it. Then they fought the stigma it's the gay cancer. Then they fought the time as many died so fast and medicine became a question of dead and life and money. Laws made life harder and new investigation showed other ways to get infected. Then it was to stay alive as long as you can. Then, when living longer, maybe much longer made us wonder what to do with your time. Now we have time and a chance of a longer survive, we wonder how to make people less afraid and take the situation serious as numbers of infection rises again, but we also wonder how much is politic, how many lies are still on our way and what can we do? When will it get to normal, when to something some get some not. 

When will people be able to work no matter what? 

Nearly 35 years and still fighting. Still we die. But don't we all. 

Still we fear sex and the talking about it.

Still we deny the truth that life itself is risky. 

When do we leave all that behind and let fear, fear our positive mind. 

I remember the dead. But I also live with my positive friends side by side and love them and are fearless. 

How are you doing?

Be true to yourself. Don't be a shame. It is naturally you have doubts. It is the first step to go around and learn and let lose. 

Make being positive a positive thing.

A lesson of life and dead. 

Not only at the World Aids Day on the first of December.

Each day.

Each time.

LOVE & LIGHT

...she calls out to the man on the street

... sir can you help me.... Those lines are well known for many, as they are from a song from Phil Collins song -Another day in paradise-. 

Still people are sitting on the street and beg for help, money and a home. The reasons are many and it is not a new sight. Through centuries, we had people falling down and living on the streets. 

But I wonder as in the western world many social systems are made in a way that no one should be on the streets anymore. Still they do fall down and are not saved from the system. Is it the fault of the system or them self? I guess it is the system of morality we build up as many people simple don't want help and money from the government or are ashamed if they fail in seeking a new job or learning enough to be able to get one. Some sure waited to long before seeking for help and some fell down and instead of seeking help to stand up, they took alcohol and other drugs. We humans like to run away for sure sometimes and here I think it is also because of the morality we build up as a community. 

The paradox is, we learn that we should help each other, but then we make those people second class people or less. 

Living in a big town also means seeing people laying on the street because they are drunk or hearing them selling papers and others who play bad music. Most people look away and many of them in disgust. I try to smile at them as I believe it is hard for them to live that way, but that is just an assumption. For most of them it is not a new way of living and they have got used to it somehow. 

Which leads me to the question of how can you help and do they want it? Is there a chance of that? They are not used to our way of living anymore. Except maybe the musicians. They look much like they know the way we do. Thought there are those who make truly good music and those who are just making bad music to get money and avoid other jobs and ways of living. In the eye of many people this group is part of a music mafia. And they really are unnerving. They use to play the same two songs (never to the end) and so wrong, you never want to hear those songs again. Sad as it is. 

The musicians who clearly play god music- I and most people I see- we have less problem with them. We give easy our money as we respect and like their play. 

But there are those others, who come along with the papers made from homeless and their helpers and those who just want money and those who sit on the street- that is a challenge. The paper sellers are mostly those who want to survive and catch up again and they in most way want to reconnect with the system they fell out. But if I buy a paper from them. I am sure helping for the moment but am I also helping the system who let them come down? I suspect- yes. That troubles me sometimes more then I want as I feel  empathy with those people but also know, they have to go the path they have chosen. 

Yes, it simple is a sad sight but all I can do is keep an eye on them, so no one is beating them and in winter to give them the possibility to get help from the organization who can give them food and a warm room. 

Otherwise it is talking about the problem and telling people that there is help they can get. If we are lucky, they will listen. But not all are able to do that. So we have to let them chose their way. 

But many people who have a good living choose to overlook and ignore. That is also a sad truth and one of the reason why people struggle. I guess we as a community have to open up our eyes and soul and also to get aware of our moral system. 

But just now, after this very thoughtful and not so light post... I wish you a very nice week and lots of Love and light...