The holy family

Every christmas, many people gather together to sit on the same table no matter what. Every year we want a very warm and cosy christmas and celebrate life and the holiness of family. 

We want love, we want to enjoy the time between the years, as we say. 

Yes, the gifts are a big part, mostly for children as they really are looking forward to them. 

But as a grown up, we don't need to give away gifts we can buy ourself- most time. 

So no wonder disappointed faces are many times the results. Thought we should be grateful for each gift as it is the thought of another human for or about us. Hopefully filled with love. 

But oh so many times it ends in chaos, alcohol and heavy talking,  in having dispute and anger argument. 

Same story every year- sitting with your siblings on the same table you don't like. The bigger the family is the more it is to expect that someone will fall out and be loud and you wish you would be anywhere but home. Sadly. 

So the question is, why do we keep on going that way? Do we really need to come together for a day to celebrate and play a game we don't want? I mean that is not the idea christmas is about. 

Yes, it is about family and the holy family being Maria, Joseph and Jesus have been refugees no one wanted to let in and therefore they had to hide in a shed. The church makes it look so romantic every year, but it is not a nice picture. 
But what is true is, that it was a little family being together, happy for what they've got and cherish what they have. 

It was and is about to be grateful and not about shop till you drop. 

It is meant to be together with those who you love. If you are able to do that. But it is not meant to be stress and a force. 
Why not just having a merry little christmas as they sing.  Just some people, not the whole bunch. Just those people you want to be that very special day, to eat, to chat, to play nice games and to give each other love, hugs and gifts and to talk about everything freely. Must not be the family you are born in. Can be friends, can be your own little family, can be a mother with her two boys. 

Must not even be at home. Be on the place you wanna be. Make your own very special christmas. Make your own tradition and if your young, don't worry, try out and that way you'll  find out what you like and what you don't. There is no rule to do so and so. But remember it is about the spirit of christmas. That what Dickinson was writing about in his novel. 

So, like if you feel as the person being to much in the room, then change it next christmas and find your own way to celebrate. It is no fun and no need for that. Christmas should be beautiful, not a commercial at home. Christmas should not be a reason to get drunk and hold back because you cant talk like you want as your siblings are problematic. 

So maybe you got an Idea of what it could be, a very little and nice christmas ( or a bigger one, but just with those you love- wherever you are.)

Love & Light