How will I know

Thought I wrote a several times about how press is having it's way and how it changed and what the problems are, we still face the situation that we all have to ask ourself while reading a newspaper or watching the news: How will I know this story is true? How do we know this demonstration they show is big, when we know it is a question of ancle to make a small crowed big and a big crowd small? How do we know this is important to our life what we hear, when we find on the internet the question of why this and that has not been shown. Is one more worth than another?
But let's be true, this world is full of information. When you want the people to know all of them you'll never reach the end of day. So you have to decide which will makes its way and the thing is, there is no neutral way to decide. It is simple impossible. So when a shooting has been happen, another will be there too and you have to decide what will make the prime time news. This is all about politics, which country we are living in and which system we are part of. Sadly the press is making lines not stories in most ways and this has always been part of the whole thing but became more the common thing now.
Why? Money! Less money, less journalist who got job at the press company and so more are freelancer and therefore have less time to research and are in need to sell. So that's why we lost many of the good stories and neutral sights.
But there is another thing. How do we learn to read a newspaper. Most of us don't and that is why they have so easy to sell, to rule and make people think in a certain way and that is why populist have easy to reach out. It is actually nowadays a paradox we live. We know much of what we read is not the way they write or even true to the actual point and what politic and moneymakes say is mostly beyond the truth. We know that but we love to believe the stories we read as we want to believe, the world is not all lies. Psychology is saying this since a couple of years, to explain the reason why we fall for the lies even when we see it, even when we should know it and why we decide to stay blind, even when you should not miss it, as things are obviouse. The Brexit is the youngest example of how stupid we have become and how less we believe the press and politics. You know they claim not having the information to know the truth, but it all was out there, they did not listen. Simple as that, people just don't listen anymore and the speeding up of lessen the concentration has start with private TV. Sience has last year shown with studies that the averrage concentration time is now max 8 minutes and we had once 12 for one news. Sounds not that much but as you know we can tell a lot in one minute. So the stories has to be told in a much shorter time and became more or less bad and less exactly and to the true point. You have no time anymore to show both sides of a thing.
This is another reason why it feels again, that the world is going down, thought there are so many good things going on and also getting stronger, while the hate and negative things also get clearer. But remember this is part of a process and we are far from the end. We have to focuse on the positive. But how do we know them?
Instinct. It's in yourself. How can we change to a better? Be smart and start with yourself and the people around you. And learn questioning what you read. Why do they just now talk about this and that, what is the reason, who is behind and what is going on in the same time? And yes, we have to take the time to search by ourself as many so called -true free press sides- are fake and spreading lies and hate and want to make people angry and unsure about others and at the end everything, because when you are upset, you are easy to lead.
I see this on Facebook. Those so called shooking news and question why no one is writing or talking about this or that drama, why it seems that press is only showing up when a special group is doing something bad and not the other one. The truth is often very simple. The story is false or it is just that--> We decide it by ourself and so the press is following the way and even more in many parts of this world the press has no way in the name of the readers. It goes the way of money. You know... No consequenses are on the way for them. So it is of course easy to use them.  And populist and extrem people and oranisation sure do.
Just lets take the fact that "muslim" are one week good, the next week bad and no one really takes a closer look and no one really comes to the point and say how it is. Clearly this does not sell, but you got upset and your friend to and for two different reason on the same object and as you both claim the press has shown the truth or facebook, you believe to be on the right line, but the truth is- both are and non is.
Oh for christ sake! How can this be?! Simple. We are humans, many times stupid, know far to less, got more information on our way than we can handle and have never really learned to search by ourself and then the things with wisdom, which is not we get by just saying hi. Wisdom is not information, it is the life that makes you know what could be right and wrong and what is important. We forgot actually to remember what is really important.
We focus on things we don't need. And we know that. Crazy, isn't it!

So how will I know? I just try to take more than one newspaper to get information and use my brain, search on the internet and read books and after all listen, listen to what people say and try to understand and listen to myself.
The rest is hope, as all we do hope for a better, no matter what the reason. If we learn and we always have to learn, we will know we are never perfect and never will be finished, but we will be able to open our focus and the way we see the things, our world.
So.. Let's put together our head with the body, as it is never functional if only one part rules. This is our seekness this time. The body is ignoring the mind and the other way 'round. Disconnected.
But things are much better than we hear and it is always the right time to start again.
Everything we need we have. So let's use it!

Love & Light

Let's have a positive start!

Happy New Year and welcome to 2016. Another year and another chances to make the world a better place. 

Yes, in the end of last year we had quite sad thoughts about what was happening but also some nice one. Not all was and is bad and hope is still around. 

But maybe you need some more to feel more comfortable as you maybe know five positive words are needed to clear off one negative. 

So let's take in the good things in life and see what I have found...

More people then ever have access to drinking water. 1990 it has been 77% now in 2015 there are 91% all around the world.

More people then ever live longer then ever. 1990 the expected lifspan was 65,3 years and now in 2015 we arrived to 71 years. That can't be bad. That means we did some things right.

Fewer starving people then before as we know. Just take a look at 1990: 1010,7 million people did starve. Then in 2004 it was already 961 million people and the number went down again and so we had in 2015 around 795 million people. Sure still far to many, but significantly less.

And another positive thing we achieved: Less children die. The infant mortality has fallen from 12,7 million in 1990 to less then the half in 2015 with 5,9 million. Thought it's still a tragic number and could make you shiver. All those little souls but then, less have to die. More stay alive and get a second and third and fourth summer and so on. Let's hope this continues.

And the fifth thing I will give you is that you could see the internet rise and in the last years also in good ways as people started to connect and get aware that you have a place to share positive thoughts, to remind each other in the good in us, that you can share positive words and pictures and that we can help each other and give trust and faith, that we can understand things and ask, and last but not least that we should use this medium to make this world a better place. Just IMAGINE.... 

Five positive things... well it's a start, isn't it? Let's be grateful for that.

LOVE & LIGHT for 2016

The holy family

Every christmas, many people gather together to sit on the same table no matter what. Every year we want a very warm and cosy christmas and celebrate life and the holiness of family. 

We want love, we want to enjoy the time between the years, as we say. 

Yes, the gifts are a big part, mostly for children as they really are looking forward to them. 

But as a grown up, we don't need to give away gifts we can buy ourself- most time. 

So no wonder disappointed faces are many times the results. Thought we should be grateful for each gift as it is the thought of another human for or about us. Hopefully filled with love. 

But oh so many times it ends in chaos, alcohol and heavy talking,  in having dispute and anger argument. 

Same story every year- sitting with your siblings on the same table you don't like. The bigger the family is the more it is to expect that someone will fall out and be loud and you wish you would be anywhere but home. Sadly. 

So the question is, why do we keep on going that way? Do we really need to come together for a day to celebrate and play a game we don't want? I mean that is not the idea christmas is about. 

Yes, it is about family and the holy family being Maria, Joseph and Jesus have been refugees no one wanted to let in and therefore they had to hide in a shed. The church makes it look so romantic every year, but it is not a nice picture. 
But what is true is, that it was a little family being together, happy for what they've got and cherish what they have. 

It was and is about to be grateful and not about shop till you drop. 

It is meant to be together with those who you love. If you are able to do that. But it is not meant to be stress and a force. 
Why not just having a merry little christmas as they sing.  Just some people, not the whole bunch. Just those people you want to be that very special day, to eat, to chat, to play nice games and to give each other love, hugs and gifts and to talk about everything freely. Must not be the family you are born in. Can be friends, can be your own little family, can be a mother with her two boys. 

Must not even be at home. Be on the place you wanna be. Make your own very special christmas. Make your own tradition and if your young, don't worry, try out and that way you'll  find out what you like and what you don't. There is no rule to do so and so. But remember it is about the spirit of christmas. That what Dickinson was writing about in his novel. 

So, like if you feel as the person being to much in the room, then change it next christmas and find your own way to celebrate. It is no fun and no need for that. Christmas should be beautiful, not a commercial at home. Christmas should not be a reason to get drunk and hold back because you cant talk like you want as your siblings are problematic. 

So maybe you got an Idea of what it could be, a very little and nice christmas ( or a bigger one, but just with those you love- wherever you are.)

Love & Light

Let there be light!

Since a few years each October you'll find thousands of people on the street when it's dark in Berlin.

It's the festival of light and goes three days but actually starts a week before with the weekend of lights. So artist and other people use the open space, or streets and buildings to put light on them and then to change over to put projections instead. 

Many famous buildings are the victims but also bridges and unknown houses get lifted from a colorful ray of light. 

This weekend since friday, you'll see moving pictures on the wall, or changing images. 

It has not only become very popular to take a walk through dark Berlin in autumn until the morning drops. It also has become much better now. 

The pictures you are going to see are more amazing now and even surprising. Of course most buildings who got a shine on are at -Potsdamer Platz-  or -Brandenburger Tor- and on the street -Unter den Linden-. These are the main places, if you like it to call them. Even the famous -Ku'damm- is with. And many more and so you have to decide which route to take. Tourist shops and information places and hotels will help you for sure to find out what you want or is best for you as you also can be on a boat tour. 

So if you are in Berlin do that walk and discover! But be aware it is cold and even when you can buy the first "Klühwein" you are going to feel cold if you have no scarf and other cloths to keep you warm as you have to wait on some places to watch all the images. 

This year I did a 2,5 hour tour and it is much colder as last year, otherwise I sure would have stayed longer. But maybe you are stronger. Just know until tomorrow midnight you are able to enjoy this event and next chance is not before next year October. 

Still not sure? Well, look at the pics I made... they may give a little idea and feeling to you.

Love & Light

near Potsdamer Ptlatz

a game of cards and a hotel in fruit

Brandenburer Tor

our wonderful Staatsoper- colors like music

August Bebel Platz where the "Progrom night" took place 1933 and the burning books have been

even chines art is to see

our Univeristy- Humbold Universität

the University and Humbold himself in front of it or better an image of him

on the corner of the Deutsches Historisches Museum near the Museumsinsel

Deutscher Dom and even my mobile was able to make a good pic as Love is all we need

The bloody moon and six pumpkins

Yesterday, afternoon, we're having dinner and I suddenly think what a coincidence! 

Life is such a mystery and a beauty and many ways are just surprising. How should have one know that all matches in the end?!

But let's start from the beginning.

Making pumpkins means you have to buy them first but where? Must be easy one may think, if you live in Berlin. Well, not really but as it was, a friend of mine was talking about a flea and food marked the other day I never have been. So what better reason to try this one, as we needed a lot of food and vegetables. The market being in the famous Kreuzberg and near the Yorkstrasse is a turkish market. And we found all we wanted. Well, next to all but most of the food was way cheaper and in better quality as I use to get in stores. Here you must know that food markets in Berlin do not use to be cheaper then the food store in your street. 

It is therefore very easy to imagine for you, how lucky we have been to discover that place and immediately we decided to only buy there once a week for the whole week. 

So pumpkins have landet in our bag. Six to make it clear. Six small but very nice one. And a lot of vegetable - all we have been able to bear. 

Being home it was one was cooking and the other one was cleaning. We expected guests. And we also have hung pictures on the walls as it was time after all. 

But I am drifting away! We beheaded the pumpkins, took out the seed and then made a mix of rice and herbs which was going to put into the pumpkins. An hour before the first guest arrived we put them into the oven as they need a minimum of one hour to get ready to be eaten. 

Skewers with peanut sauce was the next thing we made. 

It all looked very nice at the end and I learned that you actually can eat all of a pumpkin and it was food porn on the table! It tasted wonderful. And I was even dressed in orange without thinking about that this could match. 

Funny thing was we have been three couples on the table and it felt like a classic situation from a movie and the first time that I was not the only single on the table. 
Then it came to my mind that this all look very much like the meeting of the dog owners, as each couple has a dog and so three dogs, three couples and six pumpkins. Sure it does sound like a movie, doesn't it?

And then the fruits on the wooden cup made me feel very rich and of course all those happy people around. 

Later when everyone was gone and my other half was in bed I went up the stairs to the roof garden and watched the moon become a blood moon and it is said that the window of possibilities is closing and the time of results and choices for the future is coming and that compassion is the key for a better future as we are on a crossroad in history and mankind. 

Thought in the moment I just watched to brown/ read moon and this is special as we don't know if we still live in 2033 when the next is to be seen. 

Now the moon looks great and as the moon used to. Like a planet who shines. 

I did not made a picture as I already knew that my mobile is not able to catch the magic and some things should be just to be taken as the moment it is and enjoy. Thought today the internet was a moon walk.... ;-)

If this is a beginning of a new time, then let's make it a good one but one thing is for sure- autumn is on it's way...

LOVE & LIGHT

Why such a hate against Gays?

Is a question many of us ask and in this case I don't mean just the hate against gays, also lesbians, transgender and so on.

Queer people face hate again and again in so many parts of the world and on so many levels.

Why is that?

This is just to collect some of them and if you know more or have your own opinion so write me or comment! Or write under @SebastianisLove on Twitter.

O.k. Let's see where this hate comes from.

Mostly it is sure it is learned. Since childhood or when someone got a bad experience in life and don't want to take the fact of his own fault. 

Religious is sure the biggest reason, thought many just heard from some extreme thinking human that hate was the answer but truly have never read the books. Hate is not such a part, but interpretations makes it happen. To deny the truth to become a hateful people is the common way. The truth of Love and listen to your heart. 

But could it be also the denying that heterosexual don't want to talk about their own ways of thinking and acting about love and relationships? We have dating portals. We have naked date shows on TV. We have people marry each other with the first meeting just for a TV show. We have the man with his 5 women and he is celebrating polygamy and calls himself a true christ- how can he? We match people with question and other methods on TV shows. We have the bachelor where women fight for one rich man- giving up all their credibility. We have more divorces then ever and still man and women beating them self up in their marriage, some many years and in such bloody ways that you just wonder. And we have all those married people without children- but some of them deny children for others. Oh yes then - We have all those big, dirty Sex scandals and the politic but foremost the church is most part of it. In some areas we do not respect the women and kill them because they have been raped and are fighting back- how can they tell to be true believer or act in the name of a god?!

So a lot of reason to look away and instead take the gays and hate them, thought it is lying to them self. 

How can you hate someone who loves? 

Is it the fact that open gays don't play the holy game? That gays seem to take what they want and like. That they are more true to what they need. That they mostly live in open relationship because they take the truth of human sexuality for real. 

Can it be that Sex and forbidding it makes people more aware of the fact that they are humans?! Yes, animals a like we do have the needs and then above that we can enjoy it. 

Forbidding because religious says so, makes people just building their own prison cell. How can you not then hate all who is walking free outside that cell?! 

Exactly.

So one way to lose hate is to open your heart and mind and then your soul to sexuality. That does not mean you have to fuck around like a dervish, but can enjoy it without fear, because without it you would never fear another humans sexuality. Be comfort with yourself and tell your religious preacher to shut up telling you to stay uncomfy and unhappy just to be a fellow sheep. 

Well, folks tell me your thoughts...!

Love & Light