Home is where the heart is?

The other day a friend of mine posted something about how language can change your feeling of beeing home in a language. 

Most of us are used to one, two or max. three different languages. Most will also just speak one perfect as it is the mother language. Some will also achieve a higher level in the second language and therefore most have no problems to identify with the mother language as their very own. 

But then there are people who learn more then three, they learn four, five, six or even much more different languages and all more or lesson good. Some can actually speak most of those learned very well. 

But people learn also there is a price for learning more. 

You lose your mother language. Even more, when you travel a lot and more when you also work in another language. The common sence makes it necessary in many ways to use another language as the main language to speak with. 

When you then come back where you are from you change your point of view you have from the place you're from. It's the adventure you have started. A lesson in seeing things different as with each language you learn, you think also different. 

Science has not long ago found out that this is actually the case, that language is not only culture it defines your way of thinking. 

Another common experience for people speaking more than in one main language is they also think in those other languages and when they speak in their mother language they sometimes know the right worth in all the other languages but their own mother language. 

So feeling home on the place you are coming from is something which becomes lesser. Everytime you return to your old home you say goodbye to it. More and more it does not matter where you live. You are no longer home in the language and therefore the palce you stay can be anywhere. 

Each time you learn more about the new and old places, you learn about you something new and each time you do, you get away from what was important and what did indeed define your personality. The focus on what is important change and the place you will feel home is literally the place where your heart is and this means also for most of those, of us, who travel much, who speak different languages, that it gets harder to find a place to settle down as this is not an option for us like the common human. We have harder to imagine staying in one place all our life. We don't see the need for that and we need the chance to grow as you learn that growing is part of your vision of life. If you feel not home in a language you can't settle down ever again. If you think and dream in different langauges, you maybe start with having two hearts beating in your chest and then the places you are, become places you just simple are. 

Seeing all those possibilities, all those chances, all those things to learn and see and touch makes you the adventure under your friends and with time you discover that the most important friends you collect around you have become the same. 

Another thing is, you will never be really part of a group like the common people know it. You can get inside but will be always outside in the same time. Different languages makes you see from the inside and the outside to your self, your situation. You have easier to leave, but decision are all but easy to make. You know better what you want but always have to ask you more and exactly. You take the harder way, as you need to come through, thought you take the easy going way at the end, as you know things can get only better and nothing is forever. 

So after all, yes speaking more languages can give you much for your personality but you will lose the feeling of feeling home in one and also feeling home on only one place and vene find the place to feel home.  You will be richer in every way but you will also leave the save place of being sure how to talk proper all the time. You simple lose the ability to know, to remember each word you've learned once. It is simple impossible to speak all in the same time. 

Life will be different and the challenges maybe bigger, but you will discover beauty, wher others never will see one or even catch the chance to se it. 

Love & Light

Relax- just do it

This would be so nice if all days would be like that and particularly when it is about certain things in your life you do. A new job t.ex. We all know the first day when we arrive and start with new colleagues, who still don't know our potential and therefore judge you by prejudices. As I had this several times, I am less nervous about those first days at a new place. I kind of know a bit of the game, so next challenge! 

Easy said then done. Having moved back from Sweden (which I already miss) to Germany/ Berlin I have moved a couple of times, as I did not had a job and no job no flat and also I had given up my own flat, which I don't regret (as some may think and have ask about). It is a bit exhausting this moving but what has to be done, has to be done if you want to come further. 

Relax- just do it and I did move with my little luggage. Thought it became more as I needed things. You know that very well by yourself I guess. 

Moving together with stranger is not always easy and when you have lived all your life (not in the childhood of course) alone. It turns out it was something I could make and lucky as I am I had quite good people around me in those flats. But also I realized I can't do this all year long and needing my own bed was also a fact. 

So being in search of an own home was what I did in the last months. But relax- we have just too less rooms in town and I have a high expectation. Simple because I feel it is time and worth my person to have it nice and of course it will be healthy at the end to live on a place you like. 

But then things this year always come different then thought. 

I moved in, I moved together, I found a flat and someone to share it and a dog. 

Two people getting together and it came so fast that even I am still surprised how this went on. Sure no own flat, flexible as my things have been in self storage and no special place in town was wanted. Well, not the area but sure some districts have been a no go. Funny thing is some districts have not been on my wishing list as I thought them not right, mostly because they have been to far away from the centre. Guess where I have landed. Quite on such a place, thought I can see the TV Tower from my window and as it is my new job is not in town. 

Anyway, moving into a flat where your beloved one already lives sounds easier then it is. My things and then those which are already on place must come together somehow and of course some things are double and so we gonna talk, what to sell, what to put into the basement. Oh boy what a chaos! What a lot of work and what you have to throw or give away! Thanks god you never know before how much it is! Moving in, also means buying some new things and discuss what paintings are to be on the wall. Of course it also means to respect the feeling of the other person, as it is a challenge for them too. New cloths, new habits, new books, music and dishes and a taste which is maybe slightly or more different from yours. 

Relax- just do it, is the memo I give myself and also to take it calm, easy and give ourself time. 

So I got more then I expected and love it and also it is work. Building up a future I have no experience with is my new challenge. What is yours? Do you think moving together is hard or does it more feel like natural and easy for you? Tell me, write me... you're welcome!

Love & Light

Terror of a mobile...

To be true it's the terror of many... owners and their very own mobile... or better the newest one...

Well I like to have my own too, it's a very nice little thing you can call and write with and make some pictures...it's absolute something I think which can make your live easier but then... It's everywhere.. seems everyone has one... also the children... why do have 5 year old children a mobile?

 My nephew, when he was not even two years old, he knew how to scroll, how to touch, how to put a mobile on and off, how to find the pics and how to make pics with an iphone. 

And then everywhere I am, no matter is it in a tram, on the street, in an restaurant, in the cinema, in the closet, waiting room... just name it... there is someone with a mobile, talkin' or playin'...

Even at work the stuff is using these things. And I wonder, can't we really, can't we live without them anymore???? Seems like these things became a part of our body and we wonder how and when the computer will tell us how to live? I mean we are so afraid of computers being out of control, having there own "mind" and thinking, that they learn.... and then we could be victims of them... Well, we already are... the computers already learn and think, it's just a simple way they do, but they already do and no one is afraid and even aware of that.. seems like that... 

I mean why in gods name do we have to write an SMS in our workin' time? Why do we write them when we talk to each other, no matter if it's part of the work or in an restaurant? Why is this thing more important then the work you do or the people on the other side of the table? Why can't so many leave their very own mobile home the time they work? Mankind had always survived without these, so why do you thing you could not anymore????

And then, why must it always be the news model? I mean look at the pic down, millions of old cell phones are landing somewhere. We have more of them already as garbage as people living on earth.

Seems the industry has made us very stupid just to follow them and do what they say.... oh we're such slaves... must be bit stupid... blind and lazy... 

Oh I am sure you have a lot of reasons why you have to do what they say and act like a fool. You really have enough to defend yourself but let's be honest... and true... no one needs them... simple -and all the things you can do with them.. well the most you don't need and oh those apps... do we really need them... ? Most of them absolutely not! I mean... why must everyone know where you are? Why do you need a weather app? 

Test have shown, that the most are not even sure to keep you save when you walk around... you know, all the numbers you have inside them, all the massages you have not delated, all the secret codes you use... most apps don't protect them sufficient. 

Well, these are just some though I have,, especially when I drive to work or when I see some of my stuff... or when I am on FB... 

I for myself have not the news model and mostly my mobile stays home. I only have it with me, when I wanna meet someone after work. Well my live is functional and I never really miss my mobile the most time and instead of playing on it and waste energy I read. 

LOVE & LIGHT