Freitag, 29. Mai 2015

The sexualization of children...

I have friends with young children and some family members too. We talk about them, we watch them and we make pics of them and remember our own time and take all the old pics out of the box and laugh but we also have something in common. As all who are with children, who love them, we worry. But today it is something different as it used to be. 
See, there was a time when we looked at children when they played and that was all we saw. Nowadays this has changed. We look sharp what is appropriate and what is not. And it is not because we think so, it is because the world has become crazy. We think about what others see or might see. 
It is not only how we dress our children, it is also what is a child allowed to do in playing. Yes, we don't let them play as children do, because we interpret the play in an adult way despite the fact that a child is not thinking the way we do. 
You don't understand? Well, take a child, a young boy who wants to play a baby and therefor goes to his mothers breast and plays as he is drinking milk. Once this is all we saw a boy playing a baby but now many see a women abusing a boy or a boy being sexual with his mom. Sick? Yes, it is, as it is so far from the truth but then, we became those crazy people! 
Many times I like to see the pictures taken from the children but always I have those scissor in my mind. I know it is just a normal thing I see but then a pic on Facebook can be obviously more. Others pretend to see something sexual. But it is just a son sitting on the knees of his father and play. I write my friends if I see such problematical pics and with this I try to help them to avoid bad problems as I know they are good people. Thought I don't feel good for needing to do this.
I remember it all started long ago. Years ago I was wondering how in the USA it was forbidden or not good to have his children playing outside naked or make a picture of them under the shower eating a sausage. It was all sexual content for them and you could be arrested for being a pedophile. 
Now it has landed at our homes here in ol' Europe and that scars me! Those pics were once quite typical for my generation and non had a problem with that. 
And no, I won't make it a smaller problem that there are in fact pedophiles outside. And sadly most of them believe they can deal with this alone when in fact they need help and therapy to avoid making what they should not. But it is a tabu and it is always a hunting when people believe you could be- so it happens again and again that children getting abused and hurt.
How less adult sometimes think it is a problem is seen when you have a lawsuit. People react no logical and this is a problem and the devil takes it for his own to make things worse. 
How I mean that? See the conservatives and the church all hunt a pedophile but never really cared about the children. They seed fear to get power and tell people this will help and so we've lost our instinct what is o.k. and what is not. 
Finding a child cute is not a sexual thing but we have learned that it is or can called like that. Even worse, the conservative and many man in the church are those who abuse and abuse and get away with it to much to often. The net of lies is above us and we must cut it down! 
But also all those porno chic in spots and on TV, News and Newspapers and magazines must stop. We even show very young girls as little women just because of money and make them a sexual object. Already little boys and girls learn how to harass each other. 
Why can't we let children be children again? Let them play and look like they do when they play. If the trouser is going down let the child correct it self not run to it scream and shout and put it on in order because you interpret this as sexual. 
Children do not have sexual thoughts as crown ups! But yes in some countries children get prison sentence because adults have told them so.  

I worry about our children and their own look on their own body. The porn chic made it already more miserable then needed. Now they live in a forbidden fruit. They have something bad, they can't get away from and how can a man deal with that? I worry what they would think if they have children and look at our pics and wonder why we could be so free in our own childhood but forbid them to be likewise. 
I worry our inner scissor will become bigger and make things worse.
It's an unhealthy movement. What's next?
Tell me... !

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Carnival of cultures Berlin

The carnival of cultures took place again in Berlin. A festival and a street party, a demonstration of the different cultures living in Berlin. Since a lot of years those carnival has become famous and much bigger then we thought in the beginning it would be. Many years we had rain, but people never were afraid to come and dance and celebrate that we can live united. 
Also this year people came from other countries and are living now in Berlin showed something about their homeland, together with people from here. But we also saw clubs who help children and teenagers, disabled people and groups of several dance styles. 
Thought it was a hot day again and after a while you really needed the shadow to hide and not to burn in the sun- people came and came and came to be part of it. 
The food as typical at such festivals has become expensive but most seemed not to care much about it. 
I arrived to meet a friend on lunchtime and there it was nice and still quite enough space for each to walk, talk and see what is happening and who is showing up on the parade. 
But as this festival has become very popular it quick was much to many people and many times there was no coming further, or taking a step back. Of course the garbage on the street became much bigger and our walk became a zick zack. 
The carnival is no political parade but there are always some who try to make it a place for politic. Thought culture is part of politic some make it more then that. 
I must say that I disliked them very much as they played a game under the umbrella of culture and showing that we can live together in peace. So some are not fighting for this goal, instead they fight for killing like gays or israelis. Some more clear, some less but far to many people overlooked that fact or what they saw. 
But above this negative thing which made me feeling less happy, it was interesting to see how the carnival has changed. I was by myself part of the parade many years ago, when it all just begun. 
Now 60 tracks/ member groups were marching and it was far to many. Not only it takes to much time, it is simple also that the route has become much shorter. I guess because of the very warm day it also took very long before they started, which I know from other parades but then the distances of cars/ groups have been much to far. Thought after so many years they should be able to do it better. 
Well, a lot of music, dances and many colorful members on the parade have made it quite easy to stand the time and have fun. But I must confess. I saw the last train starting at five, an hour before all should be finished, because I went to the beginning of the route as I had no patience to wait any longer and it became very uncomfortable to be in the crowd. No matter where I have been, it was no fun anymore to stand or walk. Maybe I am to old for such a big crowd. Maybe I had it to many times. Who knows but I can't stand it any longer. 
Yes, I think this carnival should go on, but maybe change some things. 
How about a longer route and less members (which will take a strong person to decide who comes in and who stays out). 
I also think the message should be made more clear as nowhere it was seen what it stands for and all the parade members only showed themself, but has it a motto, has it a massage more then what you see? As a tourist I could not see it. Why was nowhere to see that we stand together. Everyone was only focussed on its own. You saw all the difference but what do we have in common? Why was this no one seemed to point out as this is what this carnivals of cultures should show and was made for? 
I do think this is one of our times problems. We look at the difference but forget our common ground and so we fight each other more easy then we stand together. Sadly.
Especially in Berlin it is needed to focus on the common ground as this -me-me -me thing has become very typical and weakens everyone. 

That was just my point of view and of course you can tell me yours. Just write on the comments or on twitter under: @SebastianisLove

Now enjoy the pics :-)


















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Dienstag, 5. Mai 2015

Human Nature

It's a human nature to be homosexual. Yes, it is. Proven so many times but then again, so many people still believe what they heard, that it is not. The claim comes from the interpretation of the Bible, the Koran or somewhere else. From a book who claims to tell the only truth, though no book is written from the only one- god itself. So it is a claim and no one has proven it right till today it is therefore a miracle, a history, a story some people take for telling others what to think and feel and ignoring the fact that you are born this way. But how to talk to people who don't want to listen or see another view or are ready to change their own or even question their opinion? I cannot make them change if they don't want it but what I can do is always and always talk about it, taking the facts, taking the reality, showing it, and asking them, asking again and again and again until they start moving and then I can try to give them things on their way so they can work it out for themself, because it is the only way to understand and change can be made.

So it is May and the http://dayagainsthomophobia.org/ IDAHOT Day is coming. To show and remember others we are still here, we are still human, we are still worth the same and we want it and we call for it- the same rights, the same love, the same possibilities. 
This day is an international protest day since 1990 when homosexuality has been taken away from the list of diseases.  
In Berlin I will try to help a group of people to tell about t.ex. Homophobia. 
A word wish is invented from New York Psychiatrist/-therapist Dr. Georg Weinberg and it makes that you call those ill who claims that homosexual are ill. 
A phobia by the way is an irrational fear of something but here it is not so much the fear as we can say today after all those years of fighting, talking and showing, outing and pouring. It's a combination of lies, wrong talking and of course it is mostly to see therefore with those who are unknown, religious and ignoring. The education is important when it is about being against homosexual, because if you don't know it is easier to believe a false claim. It is easier to fall for lies. And when you did not meet someone who is gay or lesbian or bi or trans you never saw a people and all you know is maybe from TV which shows just a small peace of the fact that all those people are like you. Normal too, crazy, lazy and also can be rich and colorful, but they even can be so much... as like you and me. 
The religious people are not all against gays and those "crazy" people. But some are blind because of religious. They take the brain out of mind and let only words of madness rule. Well, it is mostly more simple. They decide not to think and pick a line from a book even known if they take this one, they should know the whole sentence and even known they should take also the rest seriously but that is exactly the point. They try to avoid that reality. Sadly they try to get blinder. If such is possible and it sadly is. Forgetting love and all that stuff and putting hate instead and intolerance, but praying to respect each other... it is a paradox which makes it so dangerous. 
But here we have also the same things like with the unknown as many of them have low education or never meet anyone of that other group. Because confrontation in every day life use to change more to the positive and use to take out the hate and put in the understanding. Sure not always from day one but it is a process going on. Then they understand that we don't fight for a special privilege. We just want the same rights and taken seriously as human as we all are.
Here we come to ignorance. The devil lies in it. Homosexuality/Bisexuality and Transsexuality always show people their own face, because you have to ask yourself about that. What are you? Who are you? Am I week if I am those? No- you are not. But many believe that. So ignorance is the choice they make. Dangerous is this as it will lead to lying to themself and so they can become more easy victim of false play. 

That means we are putting role models in your lives so that everyone sees, we are the same and each is an own personality like all the rest of us. Because it is still much to say and show and many, many people to reach. 70 countries forbid homosexuality, even known it is natural, a human thing, that we are born this way and in 7 countries in this world we come to life and will be sentence to dead just because we are born this way, even known we harm no one because of being what we are in our sexuality. 

Isn't crazy that such a small thing leads to so much hate and what could we be if the world focus of real important things then what is happening in our beds?!
It is time to end the time of fear!
Let the sun shine in your hearts! 
Let love finally rule the world as we have it in all our songs!
Let there be a love revolution! 

Under the #IDAHOT2015 you'll find where we are the 17 of May or a day before. Ask us. Help us. Be with us. Read and learn. Tell and talk. I don't want more dead people on my bed.

In Berlin you'll will find us at the Brandenburger Tor, look for https://www.facebook.com/enough2014

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