The sexualization of children...

I have friends with young children and some family members too. We talk about them, we watch them and we make pics of them and remember our own time and take all the old pics out of the box and laugh but we also have something in common. As all who are with children, who love them, we worry. But today it is something different as it used to be. 

See, there was a time when we looked at children when they played and that was all we saw. Nowadays this has changed. We look sharp what is appropriate and what is not. And it is not because we think so, it is because the world has become crazy. We think about what others see or might see. 

It is not only how we dress our children, it is also what is a child allowed to do in playing. Yes, we don't let them play as children do, because we interpret the play in an adult way despite the fact that a child is not thinking the way we do. 

You don't understand? Well, take a child, a young boy who wants to play a baby and therefor goes to his mothers breast and plays as he is drinking milk. Once this is all we saw a boy playing a baby but now many see a women abusing a boy or a boy being sexual with his mom. Sick? Yes, it is, as it is so far from the truth but then, we became those crazy people! 

Many times I like to see the pictures taken from the children but always I have those scissor in my mind. I know it is just a normal thing I see but then a pic on Facebook can be obviously more. Others pretend to see something sexual. But it is just a son sitting on the knees of his father and play. I write my friends if I see such problematical pics and with this I try to help them to avoid bad problems as I know they are good people. Thought I don't feel good for needing to do this.

I remember it all started long ago. Years ago I was wondering how in the USA it was forbidden or not good to have his children playing outside naked or make a picture of them under the shower eating a sausage. It was all sexual content for them and you could be arrested for being a pedophile. 

Now it has landed at our homes here in ol' Europe and that scars me! Those pics were once quite typical for my generation and non had a problem with that. 

And no, I won't make it a smaller problem that there are in fact pedophiles outside. And sadly most of them believe they can deal with this alone when in fact they need help and therapy to avoid making what they should not. But it is a tabu and it is always a hunting when people believe you could be- so it happens again and again that children getting abused and hurt.

How less adult sometimes think it is a problem is seen when you have a lawsuit. People react no logical and this is a problem and the devil takes it for his own to make things worse. 

How I mean that? See the conservatives and the church all hunt a pedophile but never really cared about the children. They seed fear to get power and tell people this will help and so we've lost our instinct what is o.k. and what is not. 

Finding a child cute is not a sexual thing but we have learned that it is or can called like that. Even worse, the conservative and many man in the church are those who abuse and abuse and get away with it to much to often. The net of lies is above us and we must cut it down! 

But also all those porno chic in spots and on TV, News and Newspapers and magazines must stop. We even show very young girls as little women just because of money and make them a sexual object. Already little boys and girls learn how to harass each other. 

Why can't we let children be children again? Let them play and look like they do when they play. If the trouser is going down let the child correct it self not run to it scream and shout and put it on in order because you interpret this as sexual. 

Children do not have sexual thoughts as crown ups! But yes in some countries children get prison sentence because adults have told them so.  

I worry about our children and their own look on their own body. The porn chic made it already more miserable then needed. Now they live in a forbidden fruit. They have something bad, they can't get away from and how can a man deal with that? I worry what they would think if they have children and look at our pics and wonder why we could be so free in our own childhood but forbid them to be likewise. 

I worry our inner scissor will become bigger and make things worse.

It's an unhealthy movement. What's next?

Tell me... !

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Make the yletide gay oder auch- Überraschung zum Fest- a movie

X-mass time is coming up and again we long for our films we know. But what about a new one, a funny and lovely movie about two young people, falling in love and trying to grow as the families have their own idea of the realationship of them. A story about coming home for x-mass and trying to be yourself as we all know when we are away from home, we do change but parents don't or can't see it.
This movie is charming, has speed and a very funny and good storytelling. Some drama of course and some surprises. Some words spoken you never heard before and parents who are normal, but normal. A cameo from an "Enterprise" actress will enjoy you but all above this, you will watch new members of your family as those people are just brilliant and crazy and hilarious in the same time. It shows, as it plays in the USA, typical decoration and x-mass feelings from that country and will make you sure drop a tear of joy now and then. This film is kind of a secret tip, though this film should be seen of much more people no matter where you are from and how your family looks a like. Because as I said, those characters will go straight to your heart.

Refreshing and sentimental, lovely and shiny, corny and honestly- yes you should take this little risk and watch it! :-)

As alsways..

LOVE & LIGHT

Baby mine- what does a child need?

Once we think about having our own family, the questions comes up. What does this mean? What is family? How should it be? 
People out there have so much to say...
People out there think in different ways... 
What is family? What was it once, what is it now, how do you do and what is it in your country?
Solutions are more or lesson to see. 
How could it be? What does a child really need?
Just now in some countries we discuss the possibility of homosexual and transgender to be parents. 
Some people think that this is wrong and keep saying things like what if the child will be mobbed, what if the child turns gay itself, what if the child needs the view of and from a woman... ???
Well, if the child will be mobbed or not is not about the child is about the parents.
First, children do not think bad about other unless they learn it from their parents. Children are "weak" unless the parents teach them to be strong and believe in themself. Children can be beaten unless they learned from parents or others how to defend. 
Cos you can be beaten because of everything. So it does not matter why... cloths, hair, skin color, believe... look.... No matter what. It's us the grown up who makes them do that cos we show them by living these things. 
So what we can do and should do is to teach them how to respect others.
Next... 
No child can turn gay because the parents are and gay children by the way come from heterosexual parents... so... 
What I know from science is, that it is in everyones gene but the way of becoming it is after your mothers egg and fathers sperm came together... along that way the biological makes you turn gay or not... and this is since the beginning of mankind ... Seems also it was always more or lesson the same number of percent of the world population and in fact it could have saved mankind more then the other way round to survive... think deeper.. Anyway... Next...
It's in my eyes the most stupid thing to say a child needs a mother and a father.... Why?
Well, first... When you grow, you have man and woman around you all your live.. so... To get to know how to do things or better not.. you have every chance... To understand your body, sexuality and the sex of others... you have every choice.
Second, I can't say that all the children of divorced parents are mad.. or? Am I wrong? No!
Most nowadays have a nice life and are happy and each generation learns by itself how to build up a relation in love to another person... Cos we must, though looking back on the generations of our parents and grandparents, living was always different to the generation before, cos time is always changing and so the way of living and understanding the nature of mankind... and the world itself. 
Then.. I could not say that a child living only with a mother, or just with his father, or even if it was the grandmother and grandfather or uncle or or or.. must have ever felt less beloved then a child who had a mother and a father. 
And that's the point I think we should look on to most... You can be wished, but that does not mean that your parents will love you when you grow older because you act different to what they imagined...
But being loved is all, well the most important thing for a child no matter how rich, how strong, how big the family. 
You can have a father and a mother and not feel beloved, not that this is common but it is know from many. 
I felt always beloved from my mother and the only thing she wished was me to be happy. She never told me to be the best in school, just be best as I can be... She never was mad when I got a bad note, just said.. guy you know why... she did not need to tell me I was maybe to lazy or had a bad day... She always only told me and my brother when we where fighting against one another that it can hurt. But she only told us twice. Then she said: "Well go on, do what you need and when you're finish, we go to the doctor." Guess what... ! We stopped... :-)
She was  a single mother, divorced in a time where this was not that easy and she worked full time. But when she was home, she never gave us the feeling of not being loved. 
And after all the years now who have passed by and all the talking I had with friends and other people... This is what most say in common... If parents loves you.. there is no need for much more... I got my positive role model from so many man around me, cos as we all know when we become teen we start to look around and family does not count much or less then most wish. I had teacher who though me. I had uncles and so I saw all the man on the streets, on Tv and papers. Enough to learn, to see and look back at myself... who was I and this is a process going on forever in each lives.. 
So... if a child has a mother and a mother or a grandfather and an uncle to grow at.. It can be a very happy child as long it is loved and save. Get space to try and learn to ask and see. Mankind would not have survived if we only could crow if we had a mother and a father. Just think of the past where once was no childhood known.. A child was a little adult. Tt can work, it can speak and go. Not much love, not much to teach about man and woman. You where on earth and well exist... and survive... after all... family was all around and this is still a fact.. though family structures have changed, but a child can always find someone to ask... and children always had in all times sometimes only a mother or just a father or the grandparents or two mothers or it was just the sister who though you the living.
And many "old" people should know better... I mean... if you are strong or not.. It never was a question of two or one or four parents. Not the numbers, not the sex. It was how your parents acts... "Your actions, speak louder then words, your actions, speak louder then promises, unless there're true..."
And I also wonder sometimes that the loudest speakers agains gays and trans as parents are mostly divorced and never cared much about their own children. The ex- woman had and have to deal alone with the children. Where are they? And how is that a positive model? Well, a model who shows how to not liv up and better not lie... or so...mmmh! Yeah..maybe that..somehow is the positive thing... Anyway...!
So, is the child missing a second parent? Only if the adults say so... Remember, children learn from the older.! That's why most missed the second part, because they learned they are not round if they would not have two.
To be true, the only good thing with two parents is -you can go with one problem to the one and with another problem to the other part... ;-)
Of course... it makes living with children more easier t.ex. to share things, care and the money... two adults can make the childhood double save and beloved... If something happen... and if you need a break... like this... 
But to say... you are not family if you are a single parent, gay or transgender... Please...! That's stupid! 
If it is about the children? Well then... let's make the circumstances the way the children can feel save and beloved...!

LOVE & LIGHT