The sexualization of children...

I have friends with young children and some family members too. We talk about them, we watch them and we make pics of them and remember our own time and take all the old pics out of the box and laugh but we also have something in common. As all who are with children, who love them, we worry. But today it is something different as it used to be. 

See, there was a time when we looked at children when they played and that was all we saw. Nowadays this has changed. We look sharp what is appropriate and what is not. And it is not because we think so, it is because the world has become crazy. We think about what others see or might see. 

It is not only how we dress our children, it is also what is a child allowed to do in playing. Yes, we don't let them play as children do, because we interpret the play in an adult way despite the fact that a child is not thinking the way we do. 

You don't understand? Well, take a child, a young boy who wants to play a baby and therefor goes to his mothers breast and plays as he is drinking milk. Once this is all we saw a boy playing a baby but now many see a women abusing a boy or a boy being sexual with his mom. Sick? Yes, it is, as it is so far from the truth but then, we became those crazy people! 

Many times I like to see the pictures taken from the children but always I have those scissor in my mind. I know it is just a normal thing I see but then a pic on Facebook can be obviously more. Others pretend to see something sexual. But it is just a son sitting on the knees of his father and play. I write my friends if I see such problematical pics and with this I try to help them to avoid bad problems as I know they are good people. Thought I don't feel good for needing to do this.

I remember it all started long ago. Years ago I was wondering how in the USA it was forbidden or not good to have his children playing outside naked or make a picture of them under the shower eating a sausage. It was all sexual content for them and you could be arrested for being a pedophile. 

Now it has landed at our homes here in ol' Europe and that scars me! Those pics were once quite typical for my generation and non had a problem with that. 

And no, I won't make it a smaller problem that there are in fact pedophiles outside. And sadly most of them believe they can deal with this alone when in fact they need help and therapy to avoid making what they should not. But it is a tabu and it is always a hunting when people believe you could be- so it happens again and again that children getting abused and hurt.

How less adult sometimes think it is a problem is seen when you have a lawsuit. People react no logical and this is a problem and the devil takes it for his own to make things worse. 

How I mean that? See the conservatives and the church all hunt a pedophile but never really cared about the children. They seed fear to get power and tell people this will help and so we've lost our instinct what is o.k. and what is not. 

Finding a child cute is not a sexual thing but we have learned that it is or can called like that. Even worse, the conservative and many man in the church are those who abuse and abuse and get away with it to much to often. The net of lies is above us and we must cut it down! 

But also all those porno chic in spots and on TV, News and Newspapers and magazines must stop. We even show very young girls as little women just because of money and make them a sexual object. Already little boys and girls learn how to harass each other. 

Why can't we let children be children again? Let them play and look like they do when they play. If the trouser is going down let the child correct it self not run to it scream and shout and put it on in order because you interpret this as sexual. 

Children do not have sexual thoughts as crown ups! But yes in some countries children get prison sentence because adults have told them so.  

I worry about our children and their own look on their own body. The porn chic made it already more miserable then needed. Now they live in a forbidden fruit. They have something bad, they can't get away from and how can a man deal with that? I worry what they would think if they have children and look at our pics and wonder why we could be so free in our own childhood but forbid them to be likewise. 

I worry our inner scissor will become bigger and make things worse.

It's an unhealthy movement. What's next?

Tell me... !

Love & Light

International Day of Friendship

Not only is it today a day of friendship, but it's the 30. of July and that means it is the international day of friendship as this is to remind you what it is about.
All should have minimum one real friend in life. Many have none. Thought in time of Facebook some seem to have a thousand. But science has already made it clear years ago that near friends are hard to find because a near and dear friend is more then just a friend, more then just someone you know or share one or two interest. Although what a friend is actually is not to tell in one word. And some of us know very well that we have very different kinds of friends. Some are like family, some are just for the funny things and some are work friends and some are friends to travel with or some have friends to play a game with. You see, all this kind is real and worth sharing and caring for. But how does the deepest friendship look like? Is it like Bilbo and Frodo in the "Lord of rings"? I guess kind of. 
You have a true friend if you can confess whatever you did without fear. You have a good friend if you and your friend are doing things just because of love and respect and without expecting to get something in return. You sure have a dear friend if you can talk about anything and especially if you haven't seen each other a long time you still understand each other- those also without much words. Because your truest friend understands you without words. Sometimes it's like a marriage, sometimes you're like brothers and sisters, sometimes your best buddies and sometimes you're even more then lovers. 
It would be nice if each of us had minimum such a friend, but many have friends which they can have fun with but never can trust all the time or with whom they can talk about anything. Many have just companions which is in no way bad, but that means they can feel lonely and sad sometimes. Many people can share with others but will never be totally part of a circle of friends. Some don't even know how to do this, though you can learn from TV and cinema. 
And in times of Facebook there is the question, are internet friends true friends because they can share everything and read everything from you? I read that they are true friends but I think, this is just companionship. I am not saying that this is unreal or nothing worth. Actually friendships of all kind and ways can be cherished that way and keep warm and it's a fantastic way of keeping in contact to those you care, but be aware the internet is just the surface. Maybe you already know that and as we like to update us and make us better and as we like to tell things a bit more interesting, the internet will never be more then a medium to work with, but can never replace the talking on the phone, the meeting in real life and as I realized it not long ago- we even don't have the chance to follow all of our internet contacts, which is nothing bad but can make you confuse and forget that things stay out of sight and so sometimes you wonder why someone writes a statement you can't relate to. It's simple that the internet is unable to let you follow all and maybe this is a sign, a warning too... to all of us to remember that we can live with not knowing everything from each other. 
So let the emotion calm down sometimes is a god choice.

But to come back to the day of friendship. It is also a day to say thank you to yourself having friends. It is a day to be grateful to have friends and maybe tell them that you are happy to have them. You have every day of the year to tell how much you care and relate to them but sometimes we take them for granted and forget that they are a precious thing. 
So... no matter where you are my friends. I am very, very grateful and happy to have you. All of you- no matter how deep our friendship is, no matter how long it last, no matter what we share at last- thank you, THANK YOU for being there and being a friend and I hope I am good as I hope I can be for you.  May we share a bit of our lifetime, may we share things a bit longer and have some more memories. May we be there in hard and in good times for each other and when the time is over, let's hope we are grateful for the time we had and may we remember the good hours we had together.

LOVE & LIGHT

A walk in Hamburg

Remembering a walk I did in Hamburg, that little town in the north of Germany, with a whole lotta history on it's back. Starting as it has to be with a bit of autum rain.....and then let's see what I've got.  Oh yes, having arrived in Hamburg I was near the main station to get my breakfast which was needed to be strong all day long and to talk to a very nice friend... :-) But always you have to start to show around and so we came to the Alster- how can't we... if you are in Hamburg you have to take the underground and see what is going on with the "Hafenstadt" and the "Elbphilharmonie". Lot's of ships and new buildings around and oh they still build on the "Elbphilharmonie" which actually you can see quite good but it's  kind of a mess you watch... now this building has a problem with statics and cost around already 800 mill. Crazy, isn't it?  But it's much bigger then it looks on the pic. Not only in real this building is far bigger, also who's fault it is with all this going on and on...

But don't worry, just do your walk and enjoy the fire boat, or the view because of all the old buildings around and some new. Yes walk to the "HafenCity"- kind of a little town in the town, with the "Dungeon Doom" or restaurants or shops and even when they have the water on the streets - Hamburg people don't care and go on living and making the best of it.  
But also you can ask about the "Speicherstadt"cos it was and is a place for the warehouses.

I mean it's the second biggest town of Germany and has the biggest port of the country. So actually big. So watch out!
So no wonder you'll find a lot of new apartments at the port and houses in modern style there. You walk along them and just think that you will not want to have a flat there because not only people can look inside your bedroom, also it's just too expensive. 
Although if you're interested in architecture it's very pleasant and you can get exited. 
From the "Jungfernstieg" Station you also can see two of the Musical halls, which Hamburg is very much known for. A night at the musical theatre is easy to have in Hamburg. There are a lot of choices. You must know Hamburg has over 60 theaters. But I must say the newest building looks in my eyes like a coke bottle on the top.

Anyway, let's go on to see what this town has to offer you. Our harbor walk is going behind the "Elbphilharmonie" and we come to the Underground station "HafenCity Universität" from the U 4... a light show with music will welcome you. Very beautiful to watch and when your going up to see what's outside the station, go to the bridge and there on the other side you have a little tower to climb on and what do you get? A view over the town and what is going on and will be done in the next years.

Now back to the place we've started and we stand in front of the building called the "Landungsbrücke" next to this building is a tunnel. It goes to the other side of the river and is just now under construction and will be rebuild and renovated in the next years, but don't worry, they let you use it! Just one side of those two tunnel routes. Do it, take the elevator or the stairs down and go through the tunnel. It's so nice to walk under and inside a very old thing and maybe you meet a couple too who has just married. :-)  Like I did with my friend, after we have been on the other side, watching the people, the sun, the harbor and feeling very good. It's a romantic place in some way and you have easy to talk to each other no matter what. 
Well, going now to the "Speicherstadt" which is actually next to the "Landungsbrücke" feels very well and you discover the beauty of this town and much more when you try the underground which partly drives overground. Hamburg can be very nice on many places. And yes if you are hungry try fish.... it's good and fresh. 
I had the luck to have a friend there who had spend some time with me and I really appreciate that. It's always funny and much more delighting when you know someone from the place you travel to. 
It was a short trip and I will sure come back in time. Yes it was much the typical tourist places this time, but as I was only two or three times there, it was the right thing to start with. And somehow I can understand this way the longing for the north. Enjoy the rest of the few pics...

Love & Light

Nate and Margaret - a movie

Another movie to talk about. 
It's quite a different story, although not that unknown. 
What is it about? Somehow two people becoming friends. The young Nate and the lot older Margaret. 
No this is not another version of Harold & Maude.
Hr is a young and open guy, while she is a little prude and closed. She tries to be an easy person and is doing stand up comedy. 
They talk about everything and go together out, as Nate doesn't care about what other people think of them, not like Margaret who is following but looking around what other may think.
But nevertheless they seem to catch up from time to time and feel good together, have fun and share a lot. Seems they have much in common till one day- and we expect this- something new arrives and their friendship come to a test. Both have to come out of their bubble and shell and so ways getting apart. 
Now you could expect corny story telling or a lot of cliches coming up but this is not happening in this movie. 
The drama is told in a very smooth and soft way, although it is not like touching it like it is a vulnerably thing. The fun comes often unexpected and is kind of gentle. 
So it is not a loud movie and will not bring you to tears without end, but you want to follow the story to the end, knowing how they cope. 
Cose you see in some ways yourself, your own mistakes and stupid acting you do sometimes. You hope there is a way out and you know their can be. 
Well, this movie is one of those you will like watching, and afterwards you will think a bit about it. Not bad for a movie, as we have a lot where you feel nothing at all afterwards. 
Thought it's not a magic and magnificent film you will watch. Yes best to watch it with friends, maybe your best friends. 
If I had to rate it would be 4 of 5 stars... 

Love & Light

Common Sense

Today I would like to recommend a book I have read... took me a while to finish it, 'cos I simple had too less time to read... anyway this book is from a friend and no I'm not gonna say - oh it is sooooo gooooood you haaaave to buy it!!!! 
Well, true is, the book is good... 
Why is it that?
To start with the style of writing... it is easy to read and simple but in no way boring. He clarifies and has examples who are good to see... although sometimes you need a bit patience 'cos he does not always take the short way to tell you what you should know... This is not because he is writing without use, it's because sometimes this is simple needed. 
What I like it's a book for business and private life to learn how to deal and manage things.
He writes about which way you can go and why... Yes he declares and gives you reason to understand why things work out or mostly not and what you can do, although last thing comes quite late in the book because it takes a longer time to describe the background for the ways you can finally go. 
I think most of you will be grateful for this, 'cos mostly we don't think much about it. If you have already learned a bit about this you should read it too, 'cos it can make you remember and ask yourself.. Am I doing it right now? Have I learned from my mistakes... Am I taking it seriously? 
You know to manage sounds more easy but we trap and fall often, which is no shame but why are we sometimes doing it over and over again and here we are with this book... It helps you to see it. Remember it. And because it has capability for private life it is also very helpful to understand all that what you do or should do. 
Just now I hope he will remember his writing very well 'cos there is a child coming and he has some examples about that too... Good luck with the practice... have patience and remember! :-)

Another reason to read this book is, it shows you how different we are and how easy we condemn others without really knowing them and in fact we are more and more having connections worldwide, so we should remember this... and he also makes you being aware of it with examples to try by yourself. He gives you question to answer... and you will laugh about yourself... how stupid we can act, although we though we never did it that much.. right... And he knows very much about it as a traveler and a man who speaks several languages...
The book is in english and that's why I think this is another good reason to take the lesson with it. It's a language which is common to most of us but let him explain this by himself.... search for the page... !
Third thing.. the book is in chapters, not too much -so you can deal easy... He catch you in the beginning and holds you and let you go with a final though... Which is always very good for you feel save with this..
And now... why not you read it... 
It's easy to read, helps you to understand and gives you something to work with in business and life. 
It's not too big and not boring you... gives you a lot of information and examples which are easy to find and understand... It connect practice and theory... so it is useful... 

Here are the facts you need:
Common Sense- in Business & Life
Hans M. Hirschi
TU Förlag AB
www.tuk.se
ISBN: 978-91-86419-08-0


Have fun and

LOVE & LIGHT