Workin' monday through friday

After a hard works week many of us try to calm down and get some rest and want to feel peace. 

But there is often not much time for it. We have to keep up with the housecleaning, buy the food for the next week, wash our clothes and then we have family and friends. 

How do we manage then to get some energy back, as we are working it of from monday to friday? Not to mention those who work 7 days or more in a row. And always the money problem in the back, the question what to do next, what to buy and what to plan and so on and on. Sometimes it seems other people have it more easier then you, but actually most of us have it the same way more or lesson. 

Sometimes we even wonder how big families make it through the day itself. Working all day and then working home for the children and that nothing breaks apart. 

How will we reach a peaceful moment? 

We try it with sport. We meditate and do yoga. We do it as much as we can and often make it a competition. Most time with ourself. 

Many people believe to get peace and be yourself is only possible on special places and just to reach on holidays. Even then they make it a competition, something they plan they have to, they must achieve. 

But they all forget that getting a minute to breath in and out and feel relax is nothing you can enforce. The more you try it, the less success you will have and the more you are on the way to depression and bad mood. Exactly what you don't wanted. 

So, many flee into religious. And make it a sport to pray and live after some rules they don't questioning. Maybe after a while some of those people are convince that they have found inner peace and the right way. Religious often does and have this effect on people. Especially in the beginning. 

Even when you try to be a monk you can be wrong with believing that you are in the middle of yourself every time. The truth is- no one is and will be, but that is o.k.. 

Most then say they do fight to keep control and to stay in the middle but fighting just cost energy and gives you hopeless depression on it's way. 

So one thing is to understand that you have to let go fighting, which does not mean to give up everything and yourself, it is more to let lose and enjoy the moment and take it as it comes and try to avoid to name it or even if you do, so name it and put it away and get back to the present, the moment you are in and search for the best and positive.  

And no, you don't need a place without noise, traffic, work, people surrounding you. All you have to do is to let those things gone buy and take them as a part of your reality. Then you will feel peace. Then you will have the way to relax and calm down and get energy back. 

So taking a walk can have this effect. Sitting in a coffee, and taste the drink for real and smell the air and maybe just close your eyes for a moment and let things just pass buy. Then trouble can be around you and you will still feel good. 

We have to remember more often that all is in flow and nothing last forever and you always have a choice, even know that it is not always the easy way and sometimes it is just to vote from two bad things. But when we did, we can go on and have the next chance. 

Also we should remember whatever bad happen, we can catch good moment by our self and if it just to buy and ice cream and enjoy the moment of luxury. 

This will then also be the secret to make it good in your job and to find always a best way to get through tuff times, even know this also sounds more easy as it is. We are humans and have learned a lot to make it hard. This won't always leave us so easy. 

I know that as I have to face many times unpopular situation and discussion in my job and also I must be able to take into not so nice situations. I also have to remember myself to let lose and find something different after the job to get back to the energy I need for a hard work. But also I try to have it good at work as much as possible with keeping my empathy, mood and try to stay relax as I have learned that nothing breaks down immediately. You always have time to relax and can always make it go round again if something went wrong or another way as expected. It's the challenge I take as such and then I always try to see that I work with people who stand on their own place. Not judging is a part of that. 

Not always easy. 

Communication is also very important. They need to know. Whatever you do or it is- talk and talk and stay calm and have a minimum of understanding but also I try to be truthful in how fast or how much we can change things in the situation we are in. 

In these days when things get more and more unclear, unsure and stressful it is so important for each to remember to relax as we feel in our shoulders when we have stressed our self to much, when we expect to much, when we rush to fast and we feel it with other sorts of pain. 

It has a reason why I recommend massage and physiotherapy. It is why I spend money on it, even thought there are other things I would like t spend money to but health is so important and we learn this far to less and far to many are not really aware of the importance. 

And yes do your sport, meditation, yoga etc. but do it freely, do it without hesitating and let lose of competition. Just do it and try to have fun. And if you have a bad day, make a break and try again or another time. Not everyday is a good day to meditate.... but the more you practice, the better you'll get, the easier it will be and even then be aware there will be days you just can't make it. There will be days your meditation is a hard try and that is all. Don't worry, like with sport and yoga, just take it as it is and go on. Next time it will be better again.

Love & Light

confession of a scarf addict...

Some people buy clocks, some people a hundred socks, some people buy watches and others glasses and some people buy paintings and others bags. I like to buy scarfs and have always to keep me away from it not to buy another one, and another one as there are so many and most are not that expensive, thought I look more and more out for where they are made and from who. When I put my spring and summer scarfs on the ground it does not look that much but I have already more then 25. Not a bit better is it with the autumn and winter scarfs. I really like to put them on and enjoy the colors, touch as most are made of very good quality. Silk, cotton and other mixes are to choose each day and of course kind of what clothes do I wear. I am not a fashion people but a bit of style do I call mine. 

And as I said I could buy much more if I would not stop myself from doing so. 

Those scarfs come from everywhere. Bali, Sweden, England, Germany and with this I don't mean where they are made, it's where I have bought them and will buy them in the future. Of course each new place is a potential treat. 

As my friend and family knows my love for such, they also make me happy giving me them as a present. It is never wrong. Almost never. 

I wonder when to stop buying as I see so many I would immediately like to have but space is needed and I already have less of all, there is simple no place left to keep a scarf, even thought they don't take much and can be put in every spot if you want- but I like it not so messy. 

How is it with you? Do you have similar things you collect? How do you deal with that? 

Put them all on the wall? Have extra furniture for them? 

It is sure all easier when you live alone- maybe- as long you have a flat or place big enough. Or do your things land in the garage? I could not do that with my scarfs as I wear them much to often. Who would not?

Now just two pics to get an idea what it looks like having a bit more then the average amount.... :-)

And as always do I which you a lot of Love & Light and this was a very easy going post ;-)

The bloody moon and six pumpkins

Yesterday, afternoon, we're having dinner and I suddenly think what a coincidence! 

Life is such a mystery and a beauty and many ways are just surprising. How should have one know that all matches in the end?!

But let's start from the beginning.

Making pumpkins means you have to buy them first but where? Must be easy one may think, if you live in Berlin. Well, not really but as it was, a friend of mine was talking about a flea and food marked the other day I never have been. So what better reason to try this one, as we needed a lot of food and vegetables. The market being in the famous Kreuzberg and near the Yorkstrasse is a turkish market. And we found all we wanted. Well, next to all but most of the food was way cheaper and in better quality as I use to get in stores. Here you must know that food markets in Berlin do not use to be cheaper then the food store in your street. 

It is therefore very easy to imagine for you, how lucky we have been to discover that place and immediately we decided to only buy there once a week for the whole week. 

So pumpkins have landet in our bag. Six to make it clear. Six small but very nice one. And a lot of vegetable - all we have been able to bear. 

Being home it was one was cooking and the other one was cleaning. We expected guests. And we also have hung pictures on the walls as it was time after all. 

But I am drifting away! We beheaded the pumpkins, took out the seed and then made a mix of rice and herbs which was going to put into the pumpkins. An hour before the first guest arrived we put them into the oven as they need a minimum of one hour to get ready to be eaten. 

Skewers with peanut sauce was the next thing we made. 

It all looked very nice at the end and I learned that you actually can eat all of a pumpkin and it was food porn on the table! It tasted wonderful. And I was even dressed in orange without thinking about that this could match. 

Funny thing was we have been three couples on the table and it felt like a classic situation from a movie and the first time that I was not the only single on the table. 
Then it came to my mind that this all look very much like the meeting of the dog owners, as each couple has a dog and so three dogs, three couples and six pumpkins. Sure it does sound like a movie, doesn't it?

And then the fruits on the wooden cup made me feel very rich and of course all those happy people around. 

Later when everyone was gone and my other half was in bed I went up the stairs to the roof garden and watched the moon become a blood moon and it is said that the window of possibilities is closing and the time of results and choices for the future is coming and that compassion is the key for a better future as we are on a crossroad in history and mankind. 

Thought in the moment I just watched to brown/ read moon and this is special as we don't know if we still live in 2033 when the next is to be seen. 

Now the moon looks great and as the moon used to. Like a planet who shines. 

I did not made a picture as I already knew that my mobile is not able to catch the magic and some things should be just to be taken as the moment it is and enjoy. Thought today the internet was a moon walk.... ;-)

If this is a beginning of a new time, then let's make it a good one but one thing is for sure- autumn is on it's way...

LOVE & LIGHT

Listen to my words! European Day Of Language...

Today is European day of languages and I guess we all have in on one or another way experienced the importance of our words. 

Words matters as we make ourself understood for others but also words are the reason for a lot of misunderstanding and even the tools for lies and harm.

Just your mother languages is so important that you have hard to survive without being able to communicate. Lucky are we to live in a world where we can write words down and even the sign language is more common and known. 

Language is also your way to success or fall. Just in my nursing job I have to watch my language very carefully, not only in the way how I speak to people, what to tell them, also what I write down to report or when I write to the doctors, as I am not allowed to diagnose, but to give the doctor a clear wink. But I also have to watch my words for potential lawsuits. 

These days I work many times with nurses and other staff from other countries and so language has become more then important as I have to remind myself to speak clear, easy and slow as possible. 

I lived in Sweden and also worked there and so I learned swedish and could therefor work quite well and understand my patients, colleagues and had a good connection to the doctors and many times by phone, which is in a foreign language all but easy. 

Language is also culture. The more we speak, the more words we use the more we will understand our own culture and those of others. That's why reading is so important. 

Even when you believe you know enough, be sure that one truth is always out there- you'll never know enough! You'll learn that when you start to feel ambition to become more then you are just in the moment, when you want more out of life and when you realize that you have the ability to be better and bigger. At least when you become a leader of a crowd you will quickly understand, that your words not only matters, those words you tell are the communication and image you send out and this will give to people the impression if you are right for your position or not. Never underestimate the need of other people to hear your words and to be listened and get answered even if the answer sounds similar. And never believe it is not such a big thing to put a talking a week later without need will do no harm. 

Remember language is also the reason for gossip and preconceptions. They will possibly believe you are not earnest with your project. Or worse that you don't take them seriously.

In my job I have to talk a lot to my people and also to relative of our patients as again and again can get the impression of wrong understanding or better said; they may understood it right first, but remember then all wrong or part of it, so I have to make a correction. I also try then to get an answer which shows me if they understood or not. This does not make sure that they will still remember the right understanding next time we meet. Especially when you work with your staff, make sure to talk and talk and talk about similar things as many listen just the moment and then forget. That's why many staff members believe they did not get the mention of a project or change or they should have been asked, or they believe you did things without informing them. Many bosses forget that or are unaware of that problem and the challenge that means. 

That's why I try to make team meetings as often as possible and try to put in as much as I can, but not to much, as people can get tired. Also I make sure to take up stuff which is not so nice and put the truth as possible on the table. Your people will more likely believe in you and be with you. 

And then let's not forget to keep in mind, when you work with people from another country to get to know how they use to communicate. It makes a big difference and that is something we almost forget. 

And if you want to work in another country- please read all the books and ask your friends in the countries how people use to be and communicate. It will spare you a lot of bad luck and more important will keep you people friendly and helpful. The mistakes are so easy to make, even if we are quite international these days. 

But don't be afraid, it is not all hard work. Get to know a new language and also therefore the culture is a lot of fun and amusement. The joy you will be able to achieve is worth all the learning and awaken nights. For me it is also very interesting how much it helps me to understand other countries, if I can read the press, understand the TV and News and cinemas and books. I also get another view on my own country and our habits and image we have and what we believe we are in your eyes. 

And even my friends in other countries help me to understand the world, myself and a lot of whys, hows and so on. 

I am heard of hearing and so happy to have hearing aids and feel a little helpless and out of this world, like when I am not part of it, when they are not functional. I am also very grateful to have met people who shows understanding but also take me the way I am and yes with a little help of humor it all got me far and will bring me further. Misunderstanding is therefor something I really know for sure. 

In that way... we have a lot to think about the potential of our languages and can be happy that we speak and so lets use positive words and try to avoid negative talking. If our future has to become better, then it depends of the use of strong and positive words. 

Happy european language day and I hope I could make myself understood. 

LOVE & LIGHT

a short way to understand... less meat is good...

A video even if it is in german shows in a simple way what would happen if we eat 80% less meat and flesh: 

Was passiert wenn wir 80% weniger Fleisch essen?Einige mögen nicht ganz darauf verzichten wollen, aber für deine eigene Gesundheit, das Wohlergehen der Tiere und den Fortbestand der Natur wie wir sie kennen, ist es notwendig, deinen Fleischkonsum zu reduzieren. Du kannst vieles allein durch deinen Konsum verändern, lass deine Trägheit dem nicht im Weg stehen!
Posted by Wach Auf on Freitag, 18. April 2014

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