Love me!

Haven't we read this many times? Have you not heard about loving each other and love yourself? Have you not heard and read about to close your eyes and stay in silence? Have you not heard to eat this and that and which food is good and bad? Have you ever wondered about when to know you can trust those helping books, those yoga session or promises of meditations lifting up your spirit?

Well, there is one book to give you a guide. One book to read and clear your mind. One book to be astonish, to smile and be afraid of when reading, while you long for more to read in the same time. One book to make you understand what does your path means and why do you live the way you do and how it comes you never reached your destiny yet. 

Yes, it's an old book and from a time where people did the same as we do today. Searching for answers, searching for peace and searching for easy ways. 

That book, very light written, but in no way boring, playing in another time and land will show you with its story how a man can change back and forth and finally understand, what he's up to and how he wants to live. 

This book tells you about a man who is giving up again a life style one after the other. A man who really tries everything to master silence, peace and to be without wish and to be therefore happy and wealthy. This man and his story shows you that you can go many ways but each way can lead to nowhere and anywhere, because it is up to you. 

This man is called Siddhartha.

Hermann Hesse has written many books but this one I recommend warmly as it is about us, you and me and the truth we still not live after. 

A spiritual book, not being spiritual like in our days, but just being a book, a story which   makes you feel the spirits nature. 

It's not a big book, nor a book with many sides. But it contains a lifetime. 

In a language which is smooth and soft, but growls into you. 

This is my second recommendation for the autumn of books.

Yes, another old writer, which is also dead but should be known still, again and again... and again.... 

Take Siddhartha home!

Love & Light

Workin' monday through friday

After a hard works week many of us try to calm down and get some rest and want to feel peace. 

But there is often not much time for it. We have to keep up with the housecleaning, buy the food for the next week, wash our clothes and then we have family and friends. 

How do we manage then to get some energy back, as we are working it of from monday to friday? Not to mention those who work 7 days or more in a row. And always the money problem in the back, the question what to do next, what to buy and what to plan and so on and on. Sometimes it seems other people have it more easier then you, but actually most of us have it the same way more or lesson. 

Sometimes we even wonder how big families make it through the day itself. Working all day and then working home for the children and that nothing breaks apart. 

How will we reach a peaceful moment? 

We try it with sport. We meditate and do yoga. We do it as much as we can and often make it a competition. Most time with ourself. 

Many people believe to get peace and be yourself is only possible on special places and just to reach on holidays. Even then they make it a competition, something they plan they have to, they must achieve. 

But they all forget that getting a minute to breath in and out and feel relax is nothing you can enforce. The more you try it, the less success you will have and the more you are on the way to depression and bad mood. Exactly what you don't wanted. 

So, many flee into religious. And make it a sport to pray and live after some rules they don't questioning. Maybe after a while some of those people are convince that they have found inner peace and the right way. Religious often does and have this effect on people. Especially in the beginning. 

Even when you try to be a monk you can be wrong with believing that you are in the middle of yourself every time. The truth is- no one is and will be, but that is o.k.. 

Most then say they do fight to keep control and to stay in the middle but fighting just cost energy and gives you hopeless depression on it's way. 

So one thing is to understand that you have to let go fighting, which does not mean to give up everything and yourself, it is more to let lose and enjoy the moment and take it as it comes and try to avoid to name it or even if you do, so name it and put it away and get back to the present, the moment you are in and search for the best and positive.  

And no, you don't need a place without noise, traffic, work, people surrounding you. All you have to do is to let those things gone buy and take them as a part of your reality. Then you will feel peace. Then you will have the way to relax and calm down and get energy back. 

So taking a walk can have this effect. Sitting in a coffee, and taste the drink for real and smell the air and maybe just close your eyes for a moment and let things just pass buy. Then trouble can be around you and you will still feel good. 

We have to remember more often that all is in flow and nothing last forever and you always have a choice, even know that it is not always the easy way and sometimes it is just to vote from two bad things. But when we did, we can go on and have the next chance. 

Also we should remember whatever bad happen, we can catch good moment by our self and if it just to buy and ice cream and enjoy the moment of luxury. 

This will then also be the secret to make it good in your job and to find always a best way to get through tuff times, even know this also sounds more easy as it is. We are humans and have learned a lot to make it hard. This won't always leave us so easy. 

I know that as I have to face many times unpopular situation and discussion in my job and also I must be able to take into not so nice situations. I also have to remember myself to let lose and find something different after the job to get back to the energy I need for a hard work. But also I try to have it good at work as much as possible with keeping my empathy, mood and try to stay relax as I have learned that nothing breaks down immediately. You always have time to relax and can always make it go round again if something went wrong or another way as expected. It's the challenge I take as such and then I always try to see that I work with people who stand on their own place. Not judging is a part of that. 

Not always easy. 

Communication is also very important. They need to know. Whatever you do or it is- talk and talk and stay calm and have a minimum of understanding but also I try to be truthful in how fast or how much we can change things in the situation we are in. 

In these days when things get more and more unclear, unsure and stressful it is so important for each to remember to relax as we feel in our shoulders when we have stressed our self to much, when we expect to much, when we rush to fast and we feel it with other sorts of pain. 

It has a reason why I recommend massage and physiotherapy. It is why I spend money on it, even thought there are other things I would like t spend money to but health is so important and we learn this far to less and far to many are not really aware of the importance. 

And yes do your sport, meditation, yoga etc. but do it freely, do it without hesitating and let lose of competition. Just do it and try to have fun. And if you have a bad day, make a break and try again or another time. Not everyday is a good day to meditate.... but the more you practice, the better you'll get, the easier it will be and even then be aware there will be days you just can't make it. There will be days your meditation is a hard try and that is all. Don't worry, like with sport and yoga, just take it as it is and go on. Next time it will be better again.

Love & Light

Smile- Mediation

So if I write about burn-out I should maybe write also about what you can do.
I think I did mention once or twice in my blogs to take five minute each day to enjoy something simple, or to give you each day a little present (and that does not mean to buy something... maybe but there is so much more..). Alright, but if you don't have the time for sport, yoga or an everyday walk in a park, then maybe mediation is your way. Those meditation can take 5, 10 or 20- 30 minutes... Sure in the beginning it won't be much more, or you are the one who can do so from the beginning. But for the rest, 5 minutes can feel like an hour.
Mostly it is good to start in a group of people but if you want to do it alone at home, then just know... there are no right or wrong, just find out how. And... it's absolutely normal if you lose the focus and start thinking what you should buy next day. Just make sure you get aware of that and then go back to what you wanna do- meditate. 
First- how you sit, or lay is up to you, no matter what they say... you should feel comfortable and this must be because you need to stay it that way a couple of minutes. But to be true, when you start with laying down, there is a high risk of sleeping at the end... But-again- if you lay down, then you should find a good CD where they lead you the way, so you can calm follow and rest. 
Otherwise, sitting on the ground or the chair you can start with watching yourself breathing- be aware how the air comes in and goes out. An easier way is to chant. The most popular is the "Om" which just means in easy words- you are ready. The sound of mantras has a deep frequency and it will help you much to calm down and also ease pain. To start with the "Om" is the most easiest way, then later if you are used to, then you can take mantras with more words and just look on youtube or in special stores and you'll find them and also the meanings of those or look on this side: 
" http://www.beyondsinging.com/de/interact/sing-along.html++/devotion/13/ "
This is a project Tina Turner is a part of and there you're on the right side. 
But as I did try a lot of different meditations I can recommend another one at least for the end of each meditation setting. The "Smile- Meditation". To be true in the beginning I was thinking that this is stupid, is just something people came up to make money or to make a  laugh stocking out of you. But like Julia Roberts in the film "Eat, Pray, Love", I started to smile next to each day after my meditation. To smile with my face, then with my mind, then heart and bladder, then with my lever and so on... It turns out that one day it was not only easy to do so in meditation, it also is now very easy in my everyday live, just to smile out of no reason. It's relaxing, feels good and no matter what people think- they surely mostly thinking nothing at all or just wonder why I seem to be happy. But all I actually do is relaxing my muscles and making my body bringing out and producing all the good things which your body needs to stay healthy. I mean we all know that smiling needs the most less muscles to get done. Easy, but we forgot and learned to use muscles to look unhappy without being aware that we can have it another way. So maybe you give it a try and smile and maybe one day you too just do.

with a big smile to you....
LOVE & LIGHT

The Secret

Did you saw the movie "The Secret"? The one where a woman told you about how she found out what the secret in live is? Well there are some.. and it's better to watch the film more then once and really think about what you saw and heard and the same with the book with same name... Do it more then once to read it... But also this is to be with things like this.. 
I mean meditation, reading Laotse, or words of Buddha or a sanskrit shant... all these things gives you the chance to stop... and think...  and change yourself, but the thing with those thing is.. 
It's nice to stop for a moment and think about it and see where you stand actually and then do some moves. 
Oh it's absolutely nice to be aware of your habits but this makes you no better. Neither if you really change your habits in one way or more. Well, to be true for most of us it's just like make a break like a holiday and then... we go back to all the old ways we went before. 
Most of us do so easy and so quickly and even more of us don't ever get aware of this... not in the first time... 
We feel it coming back and one day, when we're in big trouble again, we remember....Ooh...oh.. yes... Mhh and feel bad. 
That for sure is the most stupid thing we can do, but we have got to learn this. 
Yes, a very long time in our live we learnt to react like this. 
So again, are you aware of your negative habits? Are they negative? Are they? Or are those habits just pictures you learn, way of reactions you learn... I mean look around... to be a free man is a challenge...! Why.. are you free? Really? Mostly we're not, even many of us think we are.. How come..?
Once more and again... look around you... what you see?
Cars...
Nice cloths..
Latest News..
Something you must by...
Eat, drink and try..
Oh Cinemas... Music... Shows... You are getting entertaining all the time.. even your bank is entertaining you... 
And all are using the words "free, freedom, peace, love and god, make a holiday, you are worth it, you are beauty, you can do it, you need it to be better...and so on, more and more positive words"... to poison you..
Why is that?
Isn't it clear?
To keep your mind away from the real thing..
What's the real thing..?
You!
You?
How?... Don't understand it?... 
O.K... then again... remember..
You need nothing - none of those things, even those entertaining you is out of sense... !
But all those entertaining you makes it hard for you to change your habits.. Because you see the surface and only this you should- if it's about them, who do entertain you... Because behind the surface there is a not so nice truth.. The price we pay for living the surface... It's a big price and you have learnt to be ashamed of it, so they make it easy for you to look away... 
You know it's no god somehow, but you do.. and getting afraid of feeling more of your shame next time...is also something they thought you. Yes...! Fair is everything for them to keep you little. 
Because there is nothing to be ashamed of but you will forgive and all the victims will forgive you at the end. Cos you did not know better to be. But you have a chance..always... always... Now and tomorrow...
Time is not the question... It's always the right time.. Well, the price is another question... Will it be a hard one..? Doesn't mean to be.. can be.. I can't tell you your way... But trust me.. starting it is the most important thing... and no- I don't tell you to change from one to a 1000%... 
Just start, do as you can, get aware, change step by step and as much you can... 
Start wherever you want.. Keep an eye on your mind, what are you thinking.. once in a while.. and with time you will do it more often and then there will be a time you just do... The same with what you eat.. start with what you by and what is really god for you, what is made in peace and without harm, and so on.... just go on... on and on and on... till you just do... the same with meditation... just do... no matter how god you are, the masters have had the same start as you... now... 
That's what I am trying to do... and since I know that it's o.k. not to meditate every day, not to do my sport every day, since I know, everything has it's own time.. I more and more stop to be in a hurry...  That really makes me feel better... and more and more I see why I should stop old habits, why they are not god or better... why I want to change- because the price I have to pay... well I will not pay every price, I don't have to... why should I..? But so I start changing little things... learn.. forget, remember, learn again, see it more clear and then try it again... No matter what theme it is... pic one and start... 

Mood, your feelings will show you the trace.... If they are not god, your on the wrong trace... simple... If you feel sad, bad or something negative then just ask yourself what is the reason and then change it... What are the patterns who brings you where you don't want to be..? 
My pattern, my old pattern don't leave me that easy... likely to most of us.. we have loved them too much, cherish them and feed them... but have patience... you get rid of them, just be aware when you are on the old trace.... stop for a moment and say "Goodbye"... oh this sounds silly... foolish... YES... it does, you're right, but then.. again... remember... think, think, think... see and see with your heart... You know the answer already.. You always knew.. the answer lies in us... 
That's the way to make the world a better place

LOVE & LIGHT