Let's have a positive start!

Happy New Year and welcome to 2016. Another year and another chances to make the world a better place. 

Yes, in the end of last year we had quite sad thoughts about what was happening but also some nice one. Not all was and is bad and hope is still around. 

But maybe you need some more to feel more comfortable as you maybe know five positive words are needed to clear off one negative. 

So let's take in the good things in life and see what I have found...

More people then ever have access to drinking water. 1990 it has been 77% now in 2015 there are 91% all around the world.

More people then ever live longer then ever. 1990 the expected lifspan was 65,3 years and now in 2015 we arrived to 71 years. That can't be bad. That means we did some things right.

Fewer starving people then before as we know. Just take a look at 1990: 1010,7 million people did starve. Then in 2004 it was already 961 million people and the number went down again and so we had in 2015 around 795 million people. Sure still far to many, but significantly less.

And another positive thing we achieved: Less children die. The infant mortality has fallen from 12,7 million in 1990 to less then the half in 2015 with 5,9 million. Thought it's still a tragic number and could make you shiver. All those little souls but then, less have to die. More stay alive and get a second and third and fourth summer and so on. Let's hope this continues.

And the fifth thing I will give you is that you could see the internet rise and in the last years also in good ways as people started to connect and get aware that you have a place to share positive thoughts, to remind each other in the good in us, that you can share positive words and pictures and that we can help each other and give trust and faith, that we can understand things and ask, and last but not least that we should use this medium to make this world a better place. Just IMAGINE.... 

Five positive things... well it's a start, isn't it? Let's be grateful for that.

LOVE & LIGHT for 2016

Listen to my words! European Day Of Language...

Today is European day of languages and I guess we all have in on one or another way experienced the importance of our words. 

Words matters as we make ourself understood for others but also words are the reason for a lot of misunderstanding and even the tools for lies and harm.

Just your mother languages is so important that you have hard to survive without being able to communicate. Lucky are we to live in a world where we can write words down and even the sign language is more common and known. 

Language is also your way to success or fall. Just in my nursing job I have to watch my language very carefully, not only in the way how I speak to people, what to tell them, also what I write down to report or when I write to the doctors, as I am not allowed to diagnose, but to give the doctor a clear wink. But I also have to watch my words for potential lawsuits. 

These days I work many times with nurses and other staff from other countries and so language has become more then important as I have to remind myself to speak clear, easy and slow as possible. 

I lived in Sweden and also worked there and so I learned swedish and could therefor work quite well and understand my patients, colleagues and had a good connection to the doctors and many times by phone, which is in a foreign language all but easy. 

Language is also culture. The more we speak, the more words we use the more we will understand our own culture and those of others. That's why reading is so important. 

Even when you believe you know enough, be sure that one truth is always out there- you'll never know enough! You'll learn that when you start to feel ambition to become more then you are just in the moment, when you want more out of life and when you realize that you have the ability to be better and bigger. At least when you become a leader of a crowd you will quickly understand, that your words not only matters, those words you tell are the communication and image you send out and this will give to people the impression if you are right for your position or not. Never underestimate the need of other people to hear your words and to be listened and get answered even if the answer sounds similar. And never believe it is not such a big thing to put a talking a week later without need will do no harm. 

Remember language is also the reason for gossip and preconceptions. They will possibly believe you are not earnest with your project. Or worse that you don't take them seriously.

In my job I have to talk a lot to my people and also to relative of our patients as again and again can get the impression of wrong understanding or better said; they may understood it right first, but remember then all wrong or part of it, so I have to make a correction. I also try then to get an answer which shows me if they understood or not. This does not make sure that they will still remember the right understanding next time we meet. Especially when you work with your staff, make sure to talk and talk and talk about similar things as many listen just the moment and then forget. That's why many staff members believe they did not get the mention of a project or change or they should have been asked, or they believe you did things without informing them. Many bosses forget that or are unaware of that problem and the challenge that means. 

That's why I try to make team meetings as often as possible and try to put in as much as I can, but not to much, as people can get tired. Also I make sure to take up stuff which is not so nice and put the truth as possible on the table. Your people will more likely believe in you and be with you. 

And then let's not forget to keep in mind, when you work with people from another country to get to know how they use to communicate. It makes a big difference and that is something we almost forget. 

And if you want to work in another country- please read all the books and ask your friends in the countries how people use to be and communicate. It will spare you a lot of bad luck and more important will keep you people friendly and helpful. The mistakes are so easy to make, even if we are quite international these days. 

But don't be afraid, it is not all hard work. Get to know a new language and also therefore the culture is a lot of fun and amusement. The joy you will be able to achieve is worth all the learning and awaken nights. For me it is also very interesting how much it helps me to understand other countries, if I can read the press, understand the TV and News and cinemas and books. I also get another view on my own country and our habits and image we have and what we believe we are in your eyes. 

And even my friends in other countries help me to understand the world, myself and a lot of whys, hows and so on. 

I am heard of hearing and so happy to have hearing aids and feel a little helpless and out of this world, like when I am not part of it, when they are not functional. I am also very grateful to have met people who shows understanding but also take me the way I am and yes with a little help of humor it all got me far and will bring me further. Misunderstanding is therefor something I really know for sure. 

In that way... we have a lot to think about the potential of our languages and can be happy that we speak and so lets use positive words and try to avoid negative talking. If our future has to become better, then it depends of the use of strong and positive words. 

Happy european language day and I hope I could make myself understood. 

LOVE & LIGHT

good feelings and a good mood...

Last week I saw my dear "Dr Who" again and there was the part when the Doctor is landing in the future New New York... People tried to sell "happy-happy" buttons to put on your skin to be happy and in a good mood. As if we need that... But sometimes we have the feeling we need that. How come?
Actually last week I also read a book where they wrote that science has found out that the evolution had made this negative mood of fear and to see what may come up in a dramatic and dangerous way in our personal future really the most successful part in surviving as mankind. We use to think first negative. That's our nature. Crazy though. But actually seems to be very true. Also they wrote that we know that thoughts become reality. Cos they have energy and that lead us to happenings which are also what we feel and think. More interesting is, that we will not live better with less negative thoughts, but we can catch up the positive thoughts and make them bigger and so our reality will follow, even we have bad days and sad moods too and as I said they are no less negative moods, but being a human means you can change your thoughts. So little, but so hard. Right? Isn't it?!
Can we change so fast? What about three months to try it. Three months of daily meditation- just ten minutes per day? Or three months of only visualize a positive and productive future? Just three months to try, every day? 
Science has showed that this would be enough to change to brighten and broaden your mind and personality. Does this sound good? 
Well, I learned that my body is changing next to every day, every part. Most body cells live just a few days. Your taste buds just lives some hours. Your white blood cells lives about ten days. Your muscle cells are to change every three months. 
Science says that we change about 1% of our body cells every day!
So... after 3- 4 months we have changed our body cells nearly 100%!
Even your brain cells die and there will be new ones.
Your lifestyle also gives kind of a signal of how fast cells changes. Are you mostly sitting passive then it makes the cells die faster. Are you more active, then  more new cells will be born. 
So having positive thoughts can lead to an easier live, thought that sounds not possibly for many. 
But science has also shown the last 20 years that positive moods can give you a better health and a your stress hormones become less, also you surely all have heard of people who where very sick but survived or lived much longer with their disease. 
Kathleen Light has showed in her work that just a simple hug or another body contact between people every day can make your health stronger. Do you give or get every day a hug or better some more or some other body contact- like hand to hand... then your Oxytocin is getting up, which is good for your health. 
It also helps to touch the neck or the shoulder warmly from your partner and this will make you stronger, even know that a cold will come from time to time too. ;-)
So positive feelings have helped also to survive for mankind. Cos this way the possibility to find new ideas, new ways was much bigger, cos your mind is brighter and more open then when you are sad.
But those positive thoughts makes you stronger for the storms in life. The negative moods and all the fear and hate and shame won't be less they are part of our life, but we can take the power away from them. So... won't you try? Maybe you start watching after the name Barbara I. Fredrickson and the you read about the numbers of results so many scientists have got. Maybe that makes you believe it more. 
Or maybe you think of a day which went bad and then tell me how you feel and then think of the same day, how everything went well or turned out another, positive way... Like: you could be angry that you woke up late and the time is short and your kid is screaming after you and you just think, why me and shit and how many times do I have to tell my kid not to scream after me.... Or: you wake up late and smile you have slept well and longer and that it was time for that 'cos so long ago that you woke up not too earlier and now you see the sun outside the window and so you smile, although the time is short you just change your planes for the day and while you hear your child scream you ask yourself what's wrong and go to your kid and hug it and say that everything's o.k. and maybe you cuddle a bit together before starting the rest of the day...
What if....?
Maybe...!

LOVE & LIGHT

Do you see what I see?

When I walk around... in town or somewhere I am often someone who catch little things with his eyes... No matter what it is... a flower which seems in this moment perfectly nice and make my day or the ballon flying somewhere... or bubbles some people pop up to enjoy the working and rushing people to make them stop for a moment and rest, and think and say... Hey, there is more in this world then this you've done today...! Or I see birds in the underground when it's rainy and they try to eat but we walk next to them and watch 'em... also I see often art on walls ... mostly on houses... most of them stay just a short time, some stay longer for a little while and we can smile about it, if we see it, getting aware of... I also like the fact that in a town you are able to see old times, new times taking over old times or renewing these... Many houses shows more history the most of us are willing to take a look at and think about it... in better or worse... So now you see some pics of all this I took while taking a walk or when I was on the way to somewhere....

LOVE & LIGHT

EUROPE

Hej folks, it took me a while again.. am I just to lazy to write? NO. I just really want to write about things I care and not about something else... or like about the newest clothes, even know that those bloggers have often much more followers as I, but that is not something to care about... right...?!
This time the newspapers write a lot of the EU... that countries think about leaving the EU. Well they also write they leave in the same time Europe, but that is pure nonsense. You can't leave Europe. This is impossible, because Europe is an area, a connection of countries and it's culture. 

So they think about leaving the EU a organization a union who was made once under the idea of coming together, of getting stronger and of putting the best together and help each other more easier and also to be more powerful in economics and political culture. But it was never the idea of only being there for the banks and the rich and to teach and tell people what to do, how to live and what is aloud and is o.k. ... but this is what it went out.... 
The Idea is sold for money and even the bureaucracy became much bigger instead of smaller. 
That is what the common people are shouting at. That is what more and more little countries don't like and more and more people realize that it became an instrument to keep people stupid and quite and to make a human kind who has to obey and be slaves... modern slaves... as we aren't already those... in many ways... 
But yes, as much I like the idea of an union to get together I think it's more then late to start to change, although this is always possible, but as it seems for now, the union won't change in a healthy way..so I can understand very god if people start to talk about leaving the EU but stay part of Europe. 
We have an overregulation and so many rules which are too crazy and not really understandable... What is this god for...? 
And yes again, the last years the EU started to change its mind in what it is for us... seems like they became teachers... They act like people don't know what to do and are helpless, but they can decide and have all a mind... they can say if they want to smoke or not, if they want to ride a bike that or this way, they know the risk and the danger but forbid them and always warn them?! Please!
The funny thing is they warn and forbid and are inconsequent in the same time... Well money makes the world go round and people wonder... No doubt this action does not help much and makes people angry and getting ideas how to change things in a way so that they can go on with what they want.. like smoking... showing pics of ill and a black lung... well they just by a little baggage to put the cigarets in it or they by all those old cigaret case...
And then you can't vote for them direct neither vote them out or say that they have to leave... 
But can this be really something we want? That we try to find  something to deal with the stupid rules..? 
Last time I read about the question of cost when you live out all the danger and somethings happen... the cost of a free life... Well, did they ever done this when it's a bout people out of work.. the poor once, who gets money from the country, like Hartz IV in Germany... Did they ever ask them if its their own fault that they lost their job...? Where you unreasonable? But yeah the sooner someone dies the cheaper it gets... 
The freedom my dear is cheap but expensive are the old... the once who are around 100 years... ;-) 
We know that politics lie a lot but Brussels lies a very lot to us... and the EU is less workin' in the way the old idea was and still is and it is so sad that they go on making it worse.... Therefore I vote to leave the EU and stay in Europe... We will survive this better then we think and sometimes to make things little again helps more then to make 'em bigger...

LOVE & LIGHT

looking back at the year

Looking back at this year.. It's time again... Yes it really is and therefor I have to take a deep breath and now I can start telling you.. it really was a year with many changes... many challenges... and many things turned out another way as planed.. but this is common... most time they do turn out in an other way then planed, right? ...

When I think back, first of all, I am so grateful having such good friends around me, no matter where they live now.. because a lot of my friends have moved and so I can really say in the name of the word.. they are worldwide... Oh I got to know a lot of new people and also did I met some old again, I have not seen for a while. 

I really must think hard to remember all the things that happen... The year stared with an job in a hospital, which turned out not to be my place to stay and so I went back to my old job. Did not work with the same people there together but then it was a new challenge...  and I also started learning something new to get a higher position in the house...which I will end next year and hope to pass the test in February. It turns out to be the best thing I could ever have done and I had the chance to start this work much earlier as planed. It's still a lot to learn and to get through with the new position and I never though it could be so much work.... made me realize how less a "normal" worker does know about the job in a higher position. You must know, sometimes I which I could have more time for my stuff at work to talk with, to cherish them face to face, but because there is so much to do, it is hard to stay on what you which... 

You know, I really care about the people I work with, I have warm feelings for them. Usually you think that people in higher position don't care much about you... and many times this is true, but not always. 
It is also nice to see some people grow and getting stronger with the time no matter if it's the "normal" stuff or the chef or someone another... Yes we have a lot to deal with and we all know that next year will be a big challenge to, but we can make it as long as everyone tries to do it's best and to become a better person. It really is that simple, just try to become a better person and most of the problems will be gone at the end.

I always use to have much warm feelings for people I just meet once in a while... just because they are... So I really enjoy seeing them no matter where we met.
Yes, like so many others I did let myself open for an affair or better for some love... but well... Just now I can say, as much as I kind of love the people I met, no one was the ONE... Well, that was because I was also thinking a lot about my own expectation....and had to change some.. let lose some... because sometimes, you walk in the right direction but still have pictures in your had you don't need, when you want something different as you still get or as I still got...

Letting lose got me ill sometimes, but then it felt much better, so much easier.
And again, I am so grateful to have my friends and also I can clearly say, I have a second home in Sweden and my second family there. It was such a pity that I got ill the moment I wanted to fly back to them last time I had planed.. but that's the way it is sometimes.. you gotta deal with it. 

I also was thinking much about my future... not in a way how it exactly should be and not what will I have in five years.. it was more like, what if... I mean... I always wanted children and many people around me got one or will be parents next year.... It is so exited to see them, to listen to them.. and I am on an age where you sometimes think about the possibilities of not having children. I would not be the first and sure am not the only one... I surly can deal with this but as I can remember, I never wanted to be much older then 40 or 42 to become a father.. For the child and for me.. I never thought of being older then this... So not much time left....

Anyway this year was also a year I started traveling to other parts of the world again and it was amazing and I know where to travel next year... although I never though I will do it alone... that was never planed but maybe it will be that way, but I decided not to wait longer. So next year I am gonna be in Stockholm for pride and... to Bali... well on the way I will surely visit a friend in Asia... too. Also I plan a trip to London and Cardif.  

Another big thing this year is and was to make a Show again, after four years of a break I finally am back on stage. It's just a big dream.... Don't know if I would go on with that after this year but I still have another big project on the run, to sell my book, which I had no time this year to fix it... Well you'll never know what it's good for. I truly believe that every thing comes in the right way.... 
I also had such an enjoyment to see my flowers grow and have kind of a little garden next to my flat. 
Also my second grandmother died, but we had real nice funeral. Yes this year was also a year where people died... Some more beloved, some less but they had to go at last. In my world their are people dealing also with cancer, HIV and other diseases. It's not easy, but some made it through, other still have to deal with it and I know partly how it feels.... 
But therefore I am more then ever grateful for my life because I really love it. No matter how hard it seems to get sometimes, it is always worth living. I hope you can have the same feeling too. Yes, when I make my show and when you ask me about my numbers... mostly they really have something to do with me... I tell about love who went made, when you where young and naive and trusted blind in everyone. Or I am talking about to remember all the ways people have though me or how they pushed me... It really is something from my own live ... And that's why I hope people will like my show and also spend some money at the end for a project I think needs some help... It's by the way a project who helps victims of violence, of crime against homosexual, transgender or because they seem to fit in this kind of category. 

Otherwise, this year was everything you could imagine.... I saw love, hate, fear, passion, trust, lies, stupid things, funny things and have learned a lot, not only in the way of living, also with computers, writing and I also am happy, I still can drive a car and tank it... You know... I did not drove since two years... for me it's a long time and I was never a passion driver.  :-)
I also learned again, that doing spiritual work needs trust and time and comes when it comes ... much the same with sport... I started swimming this year again after 20 years not even swim a bit... It turns out to be the best thing I could do and I will continue with this next year... I also will move like many of my friends did this year. As much as I love my flat, it's just a "one" room.... I know some of you will say this is a first world problem.. and well you're right but then... I need to..:-)
But then again... I go my way, like everybody must and so I can only tell you you should follow your heart too... If it's going to a museum, or cinema, in the park or to a Guru like Amma... Do it! If not, you'll regret it.... mostly.... and... read books sometimes...;-)

So now I wish you all my friends and readers a very happy and calm and nice x-mas time and a happy new year when it comes.. also hope you take part in the fact to be aware that a new time has stared... Let's light up this world for a better, even know it will hurt sometimes in the beginning, cos letting lose of some habits can hurt more then you ever thought and forgive my friends that I did not always have had enough time for you... I will try to be better... and to remember all your birthdays... I must confess I was very bad this year with this.. If facebook would not show it..I maybe forgot the most, even my own....:-)
Let yourself be loved and loved in return... I really which you all the LOVE & LIGHT

Meeting Amma...

Amma was in Berlin... not long ago for three days... Amma was hug Berlin... like they said... 
Who is Amma? She is an Guru from India, very well known there... She is doing now a European tour to tell about her work, to pray and chant with you and make people come together for makin' this world a better place and she hugs... everyone who wants to get hug... 

Her work is big... mostly she spends money, time and work in India, but also all around the world... She has many projects and these projects are very different... you know, she opens schools, gives cloths for people, let build houses for poor, do things for a healthy lifestile and helps to keep bringing people together for eliminating environmental problems. She also try to help to keep people in a culture exchange.. for makin' a better understanding of us or the other side...
She also helps project on your place to get a public presence... 

Of course she is not doing all the work alone... She has a lot of helpers... they work mostly for free... She also has never to think about wealthy problems like we have to do in our every day live... 
This would be to much, if she would also do the rest... fortunately she has big luck with her helpers, cos she has to trust them in every way... You know, some Gurus had to get away, cos someone tried to steal the money for them self people had donated... 
Amma self started as a child to just simply hug people and help... 
If you want to know more about her way look at www.amma.de or try to google under her name...

It is interesting how different people react when they meet her... and more if she is visiting us... How do people react here in Europe... and how in Germany?
I was the second night there... It started with her coming in and touching the first hands of -I call them fans-....cos they went high when she touched them... and then she did the first ceremony of the night... 
After arriving on stage they started talkin' about her work, going on with talking about how we can change, how we can make things better, why we are afraid and how we act because of this, how we can enlighten us more and more and help each other to live more in love and peace... the we did the chanting, the prayers and a meditation. 

I must say, I heard from a friend, she was good and it was so great.. seems the first day the mix of people was more heterogeneous... Cos at my night all kind of people where there... Old, young, poor, kids, rich, not so rich, hindu, christian and atheists... That was a sign or better this was what makes the night....
I did not really expect something special...
I was more like, let's see, how it will be, how I feel... 
Well, I think, this mix we had made it hard to get this picture you know from films or documentation, where all are high and celebrating, waving and smiling, crying and seem to feel the same.... It was very much like, we had a bit of every reaction and it was like two people in extase there and then three women getting bored and then the kids sleeping or another one was playing, a guy was not at all chanting and seemed not to get touched of it but he was obviously a serious hindu... The chanting went from that Amma did all the work and then some people where connecting to her, so it became more a common thing, but then it was again, only her doing all the action and the musician... We could read a translation of the prayers and chants we did... Some of them I liked, but some of them I really did not think I will ever tell a word or repeat... simple because I do not believe in the things they say... 
The finish of all this was with a meditation which was right for the most.
For me it was the wrongest thing at that point.. The guy who lead us started it and then he said some words and I was like, o.k. I'm out... Yes some words he chose made me feel like..no no no...
Actually for me most of the time I was more like someone who was watching and seeing many little things ---but for me and it seems we had a lot of Berlin people... it was, no..it is.. well, most of us in Berlin are not so impressed of popular people around us... 
That's why a lot of the celeb likes to be in our town, cos we simple mostly just don't care about them... 
So, so many of the visitors where that night like this... "yeah, she did greet work, but yeah she is just human.. will her hug be so special????"
Will it be? That was a question, cos I know from people who never believed a thing about all the circus were touched at the end... They had the feeling of needing to cry and yes when it is about the hug... many people did react with a cry, a smile or just could not believe it, but also so many were like.. "well, that was it.. mmh, not much.. to be true..  I felt nothing special..."

It is actually a big thing to be able to hug everyone in the world.... but the real greatness is, when you are also able to be hugged by a stranger.. cos this means you let someone go inside your security zone...
Amma can't effort this and I think it's more because of the question of time... She gonna hug a thousand a day or even much more.. you have to wait for a twenty second hug or so... I was like: "Well, I gotta try to hug her, give her something.. just because I do... "

And I did... but am sure she also did not realized it... 
To be correct.. she is trying her best and telling in every language that she gives you her love... even if it's just for a second... 
This second did for some people make a difference... 
I just saw the welding spot on her clothing who came from all the people before me and then I did what I wanted and heard her telling something cos I could not understand it because of my hearing aids... they made what they use to in such situation.. making a noise.... music... they pipe.. 
The words Amma said -I have been told of a young women I got to know there on the event... in the Velodrom in Berlin.

At least all in a hurry it went, but also it was a long waiting time... interesting to see all those people coming together and watch it like a journalist all this happen... 
I would not say this was bad... it is just me and my view... so all I can say is... If you wanna know how it is for you... Go to her, met her, make your own experience and see if it will help you or not or if this is just something you pass but you can also say then.. I tried it.... I now know.... whatever this will be for you... just go...

the toilets were also beloved..:-)

Just now she is in Paris in the Hall Saint Martin
Then she will be in London, Houten (Utrecht), Toulon, Barcelona, again in Germany and Milano, Dublin and so on.... see under www.amma.org.uk or so on..

LOVE & LIGHT