How will I know

Thought I wrote a several times about how press is having it's way and how it changed and what the problems are, we still face the situation that we all have to ask ourself while reading a newspaper or watching the news: How will I know this story is true? How do we know this demonstration they show is big, when we know it is a question of ancle to make a small crowed big and a big crowd small? How do we know this is important to our life what we hear, when we find on the internet the question of why this and that has not been shown. Is one more worth than another?
But let's be true, this world is full of information. When you want the people to know all of them you'll never reach the end of day. So you have to decide which will makes its way and the thing is, there is no neutral way to decide. It is simple impossible. So when a shooting has been happen, another will be there too and you have to decide what will make the prime time news. This is all about politics, which country we are living in and which system we are part of. Sadly the press is making lines not stories in most ways and this has always been part of the whole thing but became more the common thing now.
Why? Money! Less money, less journalist who got job at the press company and so more are freelancer and therefore have less time to research and are in need to sell. So that's why we lost many of the good stories and neutral sights.
But there is another thing. How do we learn to read a newspaper. Most of us don't and that is why they have so easy to sell, to rule and make people think in a certain way and that is why populist have easy to reach out. It is actually nowadays a paradox we live. We know much of what we read is not the way they write or even true to the actual point and what politic and moneymakes say is mostly beyond the truth. We know that but we love to believe the stories we read as we want to believe, the world is not all lies. Psychology is saying this since a couple of years, to explain the reason why we fall for the lies even when we see it, even when we should know it and why we decide to stay blind, even when you should not miss it, as things are obviouse. The Brexit is the youngest example of how stupid we have become and how less we believe the press and politics. You know they claim not having the information to know the truth, but it all was out there, they did not listen. Simple as that, people just don't listen anymore and the speeding up of lessen the concentration has start with private TV. Sience has last year shown with studies that the averrage concentration time is now max 8 minutes and we had once 12 for one news. Sounds not that much but as you know we can tell a lot in one minute. So the stories has to be told in a much shorter time and became more or less bad and less exactly and to the true point. You have no time anymore to show both sides of a thing.
This is another reason why it feels again, that the world is going down, thought there are so many good things going on and also getting stronger, while the hate and negative things also get clearer. But remember this is part of a process and we are far from the end. We have to focuse on the positive. But how do we know them?
Instinct. It's in yourself. How can we change to a better? Be smart and start with yourself and the people around you. And learn questioning what you read. Why do they just now talk about this and that, what is the reason, who is behind and what is going on in the same time? And yes, we have to take the time to search by ourself as many so called -true free press sides- are fake and spreading lies and hate and want to make people angry and unsure about others and at the end everything, because when you are upset, you are easy to lead.
I see this on Facebook. Those so called shooking news and question why no one is writing or talking about this or that drama, why it seems that press is only showing up when a special group is doing something bad and not the other one. The truth is often very simple. The story is false or it is just that--> We decide it by ourself and so the press is following the way and even more in many parts of this world the press has no way in the name of the readers. It goes the way of money. You know... No consequenses are on the way for them. So it is of course easy to use them.  And populist and extrem people and oranisation sure do.
Just lets take the fact that "muslim" are one week good, the next week bad and no one really takes a closer look and no one really comes to the point and say how it is. Clearly this does not sell, but you got upset and your friend to and for two different reason on the same object and as you both claim the press has shown the truth or facebook, you believe to be on the right line, but the truth is- both are and non is.
Oh for christ sake! How can this be?! Simple. We are humans, many times stupid, know far to less, got more information on our way than we can handle and have never really learned to search by ourself and then the things with wisdom, which is not we get by just saying hi. Wisdom is not information, it is the life that makes you know what could be right and wrong and what is important. We forgot actually to remember what is really important.
We focus on things we don't need. And we know that. Crazy, isn't it!

So how will I know? I just try to take more than one newspaper to get information and use my brain, search on the internet and read books and after all listen, listen to what people say and try to understand and listen to myself.
The rest is hope, as all we do hope for a better, no matter what the reason. If we learn and we always have to learn, we will know we are never perfect and never will be finished, but we will be able to open our focus and the way we see the things, our world.
So.. Let's put together our head with the body, as it is never functional if only one part rules. This is our seekness this time. The body is ignoring the mind and the other way 'round. Disconnected.
But things are much better than we hear and it is always the right time to start again.
Everything we need we have. So let's use it!

Love & Light

The bloody moon and six pumpkins

Yesterday, afternoon, we're having dinner and I suddenly think what a coincidence! 

Life is such a mystery and a beauty and many ways are just surprising. How should have one know that all matches in the end?!

But let's start from the beginning.

Making pumpkins means you have to buy them first but where? Must be easy one may think, if you live in Berlin. Well, not really but as it was, a friend of mine was talking about a flea and food marked the other day I never have been. So what better reason to try this one, as we needed a lot of food and vegetables. The market being in the famous Kreuzberg and near the Yorkstrasse is a turkish market. And we found all we wanted. Well, next to all but most of the food was way cheaper and in better quality as I use to get in stores. Here you must know that food markets in Berlin do not use to be cheaper then the food store in your street. 

It is therefore very easy to imagine for you, how lucky we have been to discover that place and immediately we decided to only buy there once a week for the whole week. 

So pumpkins have landet in our bag. Six to make it clear. Six small but very nice one. And a lot of vegetable - all we have been able to bear. 

Being home it was one was cooking and the other one was cleaning. We expected guests. And we also have hung pictures on the walls as it was time after all. 

But I am drifting away! We beheaded the pumpkins, took out the seed and then made a mix of rice and herbs which was going to put into the pumpkins. An hour before the first guest arrived we put them into the oven as they need a minimum of one hour to get ready to be eaten. 

Skewers with peanut sauce was the next thing we made. 

It all looked very nice at the end and I learned that you actually can eat all of a pumpkin and it was food porn on the table! It tasted wonderful. And I was even dressed in orange without thinking about that this could match. 

Funny thing was we have been three couples on the table and it felt like a classic situation from a movie and the first time that I was not the only single on the table. 
Then it came to my mind that this all look very much like the meeting of the dog owners, as each couple has a dog and so three dogs, three couples and six pumpkins. Sure it does sound like a movie, doesn't it?

And then the fruits on the wooden cup made me feel very rich and of course all those happy people around. 

Later when everyone was gone and my other half was in bed I went up the stairs to the roof garden and watched the moon become a blood moon and it is said that the window of possibilities is closing and the time of results and choices for the future is coming and that compassion is the key for a better future as we are on a crossroad in history and mankind. 

Thought in the moment I just watched to brown/ read moon and this is special as we don't know if we still live in 2033 when the next is to be seen. 

Now the moon looks great and as the moon used to. Like a planet who shines. 

I did not made a picture as I already knew that my mobile is not able to catch the magic and some things should be just to be taken as the moment it is and enjoy. Thought today the internet was a moon walk.... ;-)

If this is a beginning of a new time, then let's make it a good one but one thing is for sure- autumn is on it's way...

LOVE & LIGHT

Listen to my words! European Day Of Language...

Today is European day of languages and I guess we all have in on one or another way experienced the importance of our words. 

Words matters as we make ourself understood for others but also words are the reason for a lot of misunderstanding and even the tools for lies and harm.

Just your mother languages is so important that you have hard to survive without being able to communicate. Lucky are we to live in a world where we can write words down and even the sign language is more common and known. 

Language is also your way to success or fall. Just in my nursing job I have to watch my language very carefully, not only in the way how I speak to people, what to tell them, also what I write down to report or when I write to the doctors, as I am not allowed to diagnose, but to give the doctor a clear wink. But I also have to watch my words for potential lawsuits. 

These days I work many times with nurses and other staff from other countries and so language has become more then important as I have to remind myself to speak clear, easy and slow as possible. 

I lived in Sweden and also worked there and so I learned swedish and could therefor work quite well and understand my patients, colleagues and had a good connection to the doctors and many times by phone, which is in a foreign language all but easy. 

Language is also culture. The more we speak, the more words we use the more we will understand our own culture and those of others. That's why reading is so important. 

Even when you believe you know enough, be sure that one truth is always out there- you'll never know enough! You'll learn that when you start to feel ambition to become more then you are just in the moment, when you want more out of life and when you realize that you have the ability to be better and bigger. At least when you become a leader of a crowd you will quickly understand, that your words not only matters, those words you tell are the communication and image you send out and this will give to people the impression if you are right for your position or not. Never underestimate the need of other people to hear your words and to be listened and get answered even if the answer sounds similar. And never believe it is not such a big thing to put a talking a week later without need will do no harm. 

Remember language is also the reason for gossip and preconceptions. They will possibly believe you are not earnest with your project. Or worse that you don't take them seriously.

In my job I have to talk a lot to my people and also to relative of our patients as again and again can get the impression of wrong understanding or better said; they may understood it right first, but remember then all wrong or part of it, so I have to make a correction. I also try then to get an answer which shows me if they understood or not. This does not make sure that they will still remember the right understanding next time we meet. Especially when you work with your staff, make sure to talk and talk and talk about similar things as many listen just the moment and then forget. That's why many staff members believe they did not get the mention of a project or change or they should have been asked, or they believe you did things without informing them. Many bosses forget that or are unaware of that problem and the challenge that means. 

That's why I try to make team meetings as often as possible and try to put in as much as I can, but not to much, as people can get tired. Also I make sure to take up stuff which is not so nice and put the truth as possible on the table. Your people will more likely believe in you and be with you. 

And then let's not forget to keep in mind, when you work with people from another country to get to know how they use to communicate. It makes a big difference and that is something we almost forget. 

And if you want to work in another country- please read all the books and ask your friends in the countries how people use to be and communicate. It will spare you a lot of bad luck and more important will keep you people friendly and helpful. The mistakes are so easy to make, even if we are quite international these days. 

But don't be afraid, it is not all hard work. Get to know a new language and also therefore the culture is a lot of fun and amusement. The joy you will be able to achieve is worth all the learning and awaken nights. For me it is also very interesting how much it helps me to understand other countries, if I can read the press, understand the TV and News and cinemas and books. I also get another view on my own country and our habits and image we have and what we believe we are in your eyes. 

And even my friends in other countries help me to understand the world, myself and a lot of whys, hows and so on. 

I am heard of hearing and so happy to have hearing aids and feel a little helpless and out of this world, like when I am not part of it, when they are not functional. I am also very grateful to have met people who shows understanding but also take me the way I am and yes with a little help of humor it all got me far and will bring me further. Misunderstanding is therefor something I really know for sure. 

In that way... we have a lot to think about the potential of our languages and can be happy that we speak and so lets use positive words and try to avoid negative talking. If our future has to become better, then it depends of the use of strong and positive words. 

Happy european language day and I hope I could make myself understood. 

LOVE & LIGHT

Why such a hate against Gays?

Is a question many of us ask and in this case I don't mean just the hate against gays, also lesbians, transgender and so on.

Queer people face hate again and again in so many parts of the world and on so many levels.

Why is that?

This is just to collect some of them and if you know more or have your own opinion so write me or comment! Or write under @SebastianisLove on Twitter.

O.k. Let's see where this hate comes from.

Mostly it is sure it is learned. Since childhood or when someone got a bad experience in life and don't want to take the fact of his own fault. 

Religious is sure the biggest reason, thought many just heard from some extreme thinking human that hate was the answer but truly have never read the books. Hate is not such a part, but interpretations makes it happen. To deny the truth to become a hateful people is the common way. The truth of Love and listen to your heart. 

But could it be also the denying that heterosexual don't want to talk about their own ways of thinking and acting about love and relationships? We have dating portals. We have naked date shows on TV. We have people marry each other with the first meeting just for a TV show. We have the man with his 5 women and he is celebrating polygamy and calls himself a true christ- how can he? We match people with question and other methods on TV shows. We have the bachelor where women fight for one rich man- giving up all their credibility. We have more divorces then ever and still man and women beating them self up in their marriage, some many years and in such bloody ways that you just wonder. And we have all those married people without children- but some of them deny children for others. Oh yes then - We have all those big, dirty Sex scandals and the politic but foremost the church is most part of it. In some areas we do not respect the women and kill them because they have been raped and are fighting back- how can they tell to be true believer or act in the name of a god?!

So a lot of reason to look away and instead take the gays and hate them, thought it is lying to them self. 

How can you hate someone who loves? 

Is it the fact that open gays don't play the holy game? That gays seem to take what they want and like. That they are more true to what they need. That they mostly live in open relationship because they take the truth of human sexuality for real. 

Can it be that Sex and forbidding it makes people more aware of the fact that they are humans?! Yes, animals a like we do have the needs and then above that we can enjoy it. 

Forbidding because religious says so, makes people just building their own prison cell. How can you not then hate all who is walking free outside that cell?! 

Exactly.

So one way to lose hate is to open your heart and mind and then your soul to sexuality. That does not mean you have to fuck around like a dervish, but can enjoy it without fear, because without it you would never fear another humans sexuality. Be comfort with yourself and tell your religious preacher to shut up telling you to stay uncomfy and unhappy just to be a fellow sheep. 

Well, folks tell me your thoughts...!

Love & Light

short notice

This Blog will be in the future only in english. A german version and german Blogs will be published in the future here: http://storytalerberlin.blogspot.de/2012/03/das-haus-allabasta-2.html

With much LOVE & LIGHT