You I love.... Who.... my man, my child, my live.. MY live?
I have a friend in Sweden, he and his mate are trying to get a child... it's more complicated as we all thought it would be.... years of waiting, years of fighting, years of trying... and lying from other people... Well, still gays don't have it easy to get what they want and have a right to...
'cos if it's love it can't be wrong... or are we all wrong and love is just a thing in our mind? No?!
Well then- let's go on....
They are married and together for a while. Part of a generation of gays who is capable of thinking of having a child. They would not be the first queer parents in the world. But outside in the world you sometimes have the feeling as you where the first one to try and bring the idea of having your own family with a child. And yes, some gay think we should not have a child- I always wonder why, cos what they say is never a reason for me to not be a father.
Some say it's egoistic to want some, but isn't it always with that? Or do we just say that because they are gay?
Over the years it should be clear for everyone, that queer parents are no less better for a child then heterosexual one or a single father or mother, or a grandmother or grandfather, nor an uncle or aunt.
It's all about love.
So why are we still fighting this shit.... ? A question I once read, not long ago.. and yes I ask you that...! How in the world can we not go on...?
Well, my friends learns a lot about things he never imagine he would learn or have to..., not to speak about what he has to do to make a dream come true...
This makes me wonder what if I have the chance? I was always thinking about adopting a child. But if this is so hard to make real and you have to do surrogacy... This is in no way an easier way... no no...
Well for a lesbian it seems easier and people seem to take it not so hard that two woman are with a child, but man? Gay man? Who is the mother- a stupid question by the way... Can they show how to be a man? Next stupid question... of course they can...!
Well, I never thought having a child as a single parents, but nowadays I have those possibility too in my mind. I am single so this is something to think about too, and of course, I don't want to be an old dad... And we all know how times can fly..
What if both of us are? I mean we know with the medicine we have today, people in the western world can get old, maybe very old. But above this... my live has never been all the same... lots of changing.. lots of jobs... moving in and out, living here and there... what will they think about that? Whatever I say, however positive I can make it in their eyes.. will they believe I am the right and my man will it be too? Or will we need surrogacy, no matter how many children out their would be happy to have a parent... and I mean Germany has a lot homeless and parentless children too. But as it seems this times, it went harder to get a "Yes". Are they really acting in the name of a child? Does not seem so, when You look nearer... Money is one of the reason the keep children instead of finding a home for them...
So...
Do I need to spend my sperm and a lot of money to just get a child? Or do I better say no to all and have nothing at all?
What it makes worse is that surrogacy is not allowed in Germany... So- if you make a child outside the country it can easy be that you are not allowed to bring it into the country... cos it is a member of the country where it is born... things got complicated...?
Why is mankind so stupid?
But there is always hope... the world is going to be more and more open for the fact, that queer people are god as all the others as parents... and I hope, this time we will make it a breakthrough... at the end.. if not, it's not the end, cos in the end, everything is beautiful and free and happy and parents are parents, no matter what they are, gay, bi, trans, lesbian, single, grandmother, sister, brother, aunt or uncle...
LOVE & LIGHT
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