You I Love

You I love.... Who.... my man, my child, my live.. MY live?
I have a friend in Sweden, he and his mate are trying to get a child... it's more complicated as we all thought it would be.... years of waiting, years of fighting, years of trying... and lying from other people... Well, still gays don't have it easy to get what they want and have a right to... 
'cos if it's love it can't be wrong... or are we all wrong and love is just a thing in our mind? No?!
Well then- let's go on....
They are married and together for a while. Part of a generation of gays who is capable of thinking of having a child. They would not be the first queer parents in the world. But outside in the world you sometimes have the feeling as you where the first one to try and bring the idea of having your own family with a child. And yes, some gay think we should not have a child- I always wonder why, cos what they say is never a reason for me to not be a father.
Some say it's egoistic to want some, but isn't it always with that? Or do we just say that because they are gay? 
Over the years it should be clear for everyone, that queer parents are no less better for a child then heterosexual one or a single father or mother, or a grandmother or grandfather, nor an uncle or aunt.
It's all about love.
So why are we still fighting this shit.... ? A question I once read, not long ago.. and yes I ask you that...! How in the world can we not go on...?
Well, my friends learns a lot about things he never imagine he would learn or have to..., not to speak about what he has to do to make a dream come true...
This makes me wonder what if I have the chance? I was always thinking about adopting a child. But if this is so hard to make real and you have to do surrogacy... This is in no way an easier way... no no...
Well for a lesbian it seems easier and people seem to take it not so hard that two woman are with a child, but man? Gay man? Who is the mother- a stupid question by the way... Can they show how to be a man? Next stupid question... of course they can...!
Well, I never thought having a child as a single parents, but nowadays I have those possibility too in my mind. I am single so this is something to think about too, and of course, I don't want to be an old dad... And we all know how times can fly.. 

The law in the my country allows me to adopt as a single, but the truth is, it surly will never happen as long as you are not rich. But then, what if one of us- if I have found my partner for life- what if he is HIV pos.? Do we have a chance at all to get a child or two? 
What if both of us are? I mean we know with the medicine we have today, people in the western world can get old, maybe very old. But above this... my live has never been all the same... lots of changing.. lots of jobs... moving in and out, living here and there... what will they think about that? Whatever I say, however positive I can make it in their eyes.. will they believe I am the right and my man will it be too? Or will we need surrogacy, no matter how many children out their would be happy to have a parent... and I mean Germany has a lot homeless and parentless children too. But as it seems this times, it went harder to get a "Yes". Are they really acting in the name of a child? Does not seem so, when You look nearer... Money is one of the reason the keep children instead of finding a home for them... 
So...
Do I need to spend my sperm and a lot of money to just get a child? Or do I better say no to all and have nothing at all?
What it makes worse is that surrogacy is not allowed in Germany... So- if you make a child outside the country it can easy be that you are not allowed to bring it into the country... cos it is a member of the country where it is born... things got complicated...? 
Why is mankind so stupid?
But there is always hope... the world is going to be more and more open for the fact, that queer people are god as all the others as parents... and I hope, this time we will make it a breakthrough... at the end.. if not, it's not the end, cos in the end, everything is beautiful and free and happy and parents are parents, no matter what they are, gay, bi, trans, lesbian, single, grandmother, sister, brother, aunt or uncle... 

LOVE & LIGHT

Glee,Torchwood and Co

Hej folks,

todays post is about the question why do we love Glee, Torchwood, Denver, Golden Girls,

Dr. Who and Co...?

What do they have we like?

What do they have in common?

What do they remind us?

If I think back I remember so many shows I've seen over the years and still love to take a look at. Still they are getting better, more and more and becoming more complex as ever and bigger, much bigger... So what is it about them?

Well then, let's start with the comedy- fraction. Is it only the fun we have that makes us like the boys and girls on TV? It's not only that, it's also the stories and the characters we see and most of the comedy sitcoms have really good storylines. Especially when they have good scripts it's fun to listen and to enjoy 'cos we hear some truth in heavy words.

But then truth can we get with the other series too. This is maybe they all have in common, telling some words and things to us and reminds us of what?

Who we are and that we should listen to our heart and that we always can change and nothing is to late to do.... and also makes it remind us of the fact that we should maybe think twice of what we want and need and which for, that we should do it every time we breath. Think, what do you really need, what do you really want..? Are you happy with your life? If not, so change it!

That's what I love with the shows.

And I also do like much those TV- shows who shows some of the life I know, when they show characters I've been with in real and when they show what I have seen and get through too...

And then we see in many shows how common we are as people, how much important it is to remember that we are not alone and everything causes an reaction.

But the again, what about Torchwood and Dr. Who and Co?..????

Do they tell us to believe in more then we have learned in school? I think they do. They show us that out there is maybe more and it's worth believing when we meet it. Could it be possible... aliens, ghosts, spirits... the Daleks, Cypermans...? Could it be possible that there are wonders which you can make real too, be part of? Why not?! ...and behind all the drama we see and all the fighting we'll be the evidence, don't we see always hope and the good in many things...?

K-9
the blue BOX could be everywhere.. would you follow?

But what does "Glee" tell us with it's music...? Dream a dream?! Never give up dreaming or and also make your dreams come true...

Well when I now think of all I wrote down.. don't all series tell us more or lesson the same in different ways? Seems so... :-)

Sometimes we which we were like them, sometimes we feel the same and sometimes we know what the story is about in our heart and sometimes we try to hide rom our own live and seek for hope and light.

I like the though of all this and I think the more they can compose of all the drama, the fun, the action, the love, the good scripts.. the better the show will be... the more I learn the more I earn, the more I seek...and lookin' forward to the next level... but also I try to look at myself and ask myself, what would you do? How would you react? What are you doing now and what have you done... being true to yourself can be sometimes hard but better to do then to ignore... If you want a happy live...

So let's live the shows in real because sometimes we forget that life is not watching the shows, it's living on your own...

LOVE & LIGHT