4. July

So my thoughts goes to America the USA again. It is 4. July and it's a celebration Day there. The flag will be waving in the wind and all will hold their speech and prayers and tell us it's the home of the free, the land for each and everyone. But we know this is not the reality. People do make difference to each of another. Sadly but true, the home of the free, the land for each is not that free as it always is told. But are not we in the same position. So- who's gonna throw the first stone?

A couple of days ago the DOMA was fallen and it was a big celebration time for many, although this is just one step in time we do. Actually, just one little but important step for LOVE is LOVE and it's a natural thing and not only science tells you so and no the Bible is actually not telling that is all a sin to be gay.... the words are different you read- but who of you actually have read the Bible? Next to every home in the USA has this book but very less read it. Or just reading parts of it... So who of them have read it through till the end?... Less, but we are fast to tell what we've heard... 

Anyway... this made me thinking of a show which next to ten years ago was on the screen.
QAF- Queer as Folk. So I took the DVDs out and watched it again and was surprised how up to date the show still is. The same fighting, the same, love, the same questions, the same hate, the same reality of different kinds of families. Thinking about what I see I ask myself what would be different - maybe- if they would make the show today? 
Maybe that fighting thing... all those fighting against something... will never get you the easy way and people will hate you again and again, but fighting or better standing up for something... that will do a change. 
But I must say that I have the feeling what is going on in this show can still happen. In good and bad. I mean the bomb attack was not long ago a reality in Tel Aviv. The families fighting for the right to have a child, because they care the same like all the others. 
A fighting I know from friends who will be surly good parents. 
Also the question is a single mother bad for you? I never thought it was bad for me. Or what if your childhood was not that good? Like in the show ... would you be a broken human? No, because that was once and today is now, a different time and you can make the new way with your choice and why looking back when you are the only one to blame. 

The show also has a part about the fourth of July and the question... Who is the real "American", what was the dream so many people after world war 2 had. What did it became? 
What price are we willing to pay? And why not finally give the hand to equal marriage, cos this will harm no one and cause no bad influence or effect. Just look around and see... It never does. 
But also maybe we should start changing about the way we think about marriage. Well, mostly in the western world. What does it mean? Giving up yourself? Your dreams? Yourself? Why then marry someone who gives up themself for you? Who will this partner be? Why do so many still think they need someone, to be a whole human? You are one and perfectly made and as people say, god made you after him. So no matter how you are, you are perfect. And I mean it also for those who have a handicap. 
But why give up things you love, just because of marriage? Would this be being honest to yourself? Why not telling your partner, let's live together or hey dude, let's have each their own home, 'cos love needs no boundaries. Or why is it such a big problem for so many to let the loved one have sex with another person once in a while if the need is there.? When did this became such a problem? Many years ago- but hundreds of years it was no problem, just a reality of many. 
A marriage should less be a prison, but have respect and honest... thought so...

Maybe that would be the difference they would make when they made the show today, but anyway it is worth watching again for all of as, because we see a lot to learn and remember and then ask ourself... Isn't life the same in many ways? Cancer, babies, worries, job, drugs, hopes and fail.... and oh so different- like they say on the show, each people is like a snowflake... from the distance alike but when you look near each is unlike no other, so is your family, so are your friends. They are all snowflakes- lovely and there for you when you're in need of someone... for whatever... This is the truth. 
So what does this 4. July stand for these days? Is there a chance to give it a new meaning a new try? 
Let's think about it!
LOVE & LIGHT