Baby mine- what does a child need?

Once we think about having our own family, the questions comes up. What does this mean? What is family? How should it be? 
People out there have so much to say...
People out there think in different ways... 
What is family? What was it once, what is it now, how do you do and what is it in your country?
Solutions are more or lesson to see. 
How could it be? What does a child really need?
Just now in some countries we discuss the possibility of homosexual and transgender to be parents. 
Some people think that this is wrong and keep saying things like what if the child will be mobbed, what if the child turns gay itself, what if the child needs the view of and from a woman... ???
Well, if the child will be mobbed or not is not about the child is about the parents.
First, children do not think bad about other unless they learn it from their parents. Children are "weak" unless the parents teach them to be strong and believe in themself. Children can be beaten unless they learned from parents or others how to defend. 
Cos you can be beaten because of everything. So it does not matter why... cloths, hair, skin color, believe... look.... No matter what. It's us the grown up who makes them do that cos we show them by living these things. 
So what we can do and should do is to teach them how to respect others.
Next... 
No child can turn gay because the parents are and gay children by the way come from heterosexual parents... so... 
What I know from science is, that it is in everyones gene but the way of becoming it is after your mothers egg and fathers sperm came together... along that way the biological makes you turn gay or not... and this is since the beginning of mankind ... Seems also it was always more or lesson the same number of percent of the world population and in fact it could have saved mankind more then the other way round to survive... think deeper.. Anyway... Next...
It's in my eyes the most stupid thing to say a child needs a mother and a father.... Why?
Well, first... When you grow, you have man and woman around you all your live.. so... To get to know how to do things or better not.. you have every chance... To understand your body, sexuality and the sex of others... you have every choice.
Second, I can't say that all the children of divorced parents are mad.. or? Am I wrong? No!
Most nowadays have a nice life and are happy and each generation learns by itself how to build up a relation in love to another person... Cos we must, though looking back on the generations of our parents and grandparents, living was always different to the generation before, cos time is always changing and so the way of living and understanding the nature of mankind... and the world itself. 
Then.. I could not say that a child living only with a mother, or just with his father, or even if it was the grandmother and grandfather or uncle or or or.. must have ever felt less beloved then a child who had a mother and a father. 
And that's the point I think we should look on to most... You can be wished, but that does not mean that your parents will love you when you grow older because you act different to what they imagined...
But being loved is all, well the most important thing for a child no matter how rich, how strong, how big the family. 
You can have a father and a mother and not feel beloved, not that this is common but it is know from many. 
I felt always beloved from my mother and the only thing she wished was me to be happy. She never told me to be the best in school, just be best as I can be... She never was mad when I got a bad note, just said.. guy you know why... she did not need to tell me I was maybe to lazy or had a bad day... She always only told me and my brother when we where fighting against one another that it can hurt. But she only told us twice. Then she said: "Well go on, do what you need and when you're finish, we go to the doctor." Guess what... ! We stopped... :-)
She was  a single mother, divorced in a time where this was not that easy and she worked full time. But when she was home, she never gave us the feeling of not being loved. 
And after all the years now who have passed by and all the talking I had with friends and other people... This is what most say in common... If parents loves you.. there is no need for much more... I got my positive role model from so many man around me, cos as we all know when we become teen we start to look around and family does not count much or less then most wish. I had teacher who though me. I had uncles and so I saw all the man on the streets, on Tv and papers. Enough to learn, to see and look back at myself... who was I and this is a process going on forever in each lives.. 
So... if a child has a mother and a mother or a grandfather and an uncle to grow at.. It can be a very happy child as long it is loved and save. Get space to try and learn to ask and see. Mankind would not have survived if we only could crow if we had a mother and a father. Just think of the past where once was no childhood known.. A child was a little adult. Tt can work, it can speak and go. Not much love, not much to teach about man and woman. You where on earth and well exist... and survive... after all... family was all around and this is still a fact.. though family structures have changed, but a child can always find someone to ask... and children always had in all times sometimes only a mother or just a father or the grandparents or two mothers or it was just the sister who though you the living.
And many "old" people should know better... I mean... if you are strong or not.. It never was a question of two or one or four parents. Not the numbers, not the sex. It was how your parents acts... "Your actions, speak louder then words, your actions, speak louder then promises, unless there're true..."
And I also wonder sometimes that the loudest speakers agains gays and trans as parents are mostly divorced and never cared much about their own children. The ex- woman had and have to deal alone with the children. Where are they? And how is that a positive model? Well, a model who shows how to not liv up and better not lie... or so...mmmh! Yeah..maybe that..somehow is the positive thing... Anyway...!
So, is the child missing a second parent? Only if the adults say so... Remember, children learn from the older.! That's why most missed the second part, because they learned they are not round if they would not have two.
To be true, the only good thing with two parents is -you can go with one problem to the one and with another problem to the other part... ;-)
Of course... it makes living with children more easier t.ex. to share things, care and the money... two adults can make the childhood double save and beloved... If something happen... and if you need a break... like this... 
But to say... you are not family if you are a single parent, gay or transgender... Please...! That's stupid! 
If it is about the children? Well then... let's make the circumstances the way the children can feel save and beloved...!

LOVE & LIGHT