Do you have this feeling sometimes too? When it's time to go to your guy who will cut your hair, you look in the mirror in the morning and just think: "Why?"
Why let the hairdresser do something on it, it looks perfect. Their is no need to cut it, or color it or wave it or, or, or....
Is this a fear or is it just because you look like a dumbo sitting there and having this towel around you?
Or is it that when you come with a new haircut many people dislike it more or lesson or that the hairdo after it is finished looks so unbelievable bad, that you go home and wash it again and style it the way you are used to?
Actually many people think so and many think that the new haircut is ... shit. What a mess. What have they done?!
Although days before you made your appointment you thought your hair is too blond, too long, too ugly to even show it another day to the world.
So is it the fear that makes us think our hair is perfect the day we have to sit down and trust the man behind us? We want the better, always better then before. But maybe we fear it will be badder, like we have seen it once or twice already on other peoples head.
But most of us just want to stay the same. No change, no getting old, but the truth is... We know.. Our hair will show it if we want it or not, like it or not... There we see us growing.... remember the pics from ten years ago or just five..?! Oh what a change!
Well, will it be save for us not to go... We sometimes really say sorry and don't come as thought.
But the next day all is like it was all the days before... Oh what a too blond, too long and too ugly hairstyle we have....
So better go and have it done...
Mostly we feel better after all...
Well sure the next day...
Mostly...
LOVE & LIGHT
Sonntag, 30. Juni 2013
Burn-Out- money or health?
Feeling burn out...is this something we all know once in our life?
I guess each of us have had a feeling of a powerless situation. A time when we where just tired and did not want to go up or eat much. Feeling like after a marathon.
It mostly starts with a bit stress around your private section or at your job, then becoming more usual then it should be, then you forget about it and suddenly you're ill. But mostly we recover fast and start again. But as we often do, we forget the mistake and start stressing ourself again and so we really get ill for a longer time. Even though most time we recover again soon. So then we try starting to take things more careful and forget again after a while what took us so long to get out of sync. So you start stressing yourself again, eat the wrong food, sleep too less and lose power, 'cose you are not in the center of your own.
Mostly we are unable to say "No" when we should do. Mostly we regret and feel miserable about it afterwards. Mostly we promise ourself to better us. But then we forget. Again.
On day you feel sick again and you go to the doctor and what does he say?
You have been diagnosed with burn-out.
So easy? Too easy?
The numbers of people who got this diagnose is risen in the last ten years a lot. Are we all workin' too much, too hard? Or are we just mostly wanting simple too much from ourself or is it just a normal thing to be out of power when we forgot again our mistakes and all is easy done... I mean the way to recover and then to change our habits. Is it that easy then? We remember quite well how hard it seems to just change a simple thing. So... does this diagnose and the pills from the doc help us to better us to recover and then never again be stressed out and so to be burned-out?
But why then so many of those are having those burn-outs again and again? Is it because they start working too soon and the pills just calms down a bit and because you did not changed the way you do your day or work and the way you see on things?
Well there are those who really have a burn out and need years to recover. But many have a depression behind their burn out or other reasons why they are down and so is the question... are they weak and unhealthy, sick?
In the book of classification here in Europe the ICD is Burn-out not a disease, but in USA where another book is the bible for docs the Burn-out became just one this year- a disease.
Here we talk about a syndrome, which means a complex of signs, symptoms.
But we should wonder.. this disease is now diagnosed for next to every people, poor, out of work, a student, a teacher or for a child, a mother, for those who really work hard like nurses and for those who just sit on the selling table... to sell tickets... But some of them just need more sleep, or focus on their work, some of them just need to get back the strength to an everyday life with work and getting up every day the same time, some of them just need to say -no- once in a while and many just need to learn not to force themself to heard and lower the expectations and the fear of being to less and not worth enough.
Problem with this is, the numbers of days those people are missing on the job is rising and so the rest has to work their as of to be restless powerless in the end and being sick self. The circle of all this has already started. This does not help to highen the spirits on your working place. Not to talk about the work which is not done.
So who's foult is this? Is it the way we works nowadays? Is it that we lose secure and the power of each of us has to rise? Seems we have to do more and more, for the same money and it had to be the same quality in the same old time. So how can you feel save with this going on and on and no seeing of an end?
So to say it is now wonder then, that it became so popular to be burn-out?
I mean... if I think about the depression which lies often under the skin and gets bigger with the stress... this disease is not very kindly taken of others.. this disease has not a good image or let people think positive about you and you seem to become worthless with being a depressive human but as a burn out, you seem to be the cool, hard working human or you are the victim of the job and so you have not to take action when it is about your habits. Right.?!
I mean, with burn out you are free of next to everything people expect from another.
You are just burned not have failed. I mean, you are burned out, so you must have burned a lot before but the truth is, to get an burnout you don't need to work as hell, you can be someone without work and becoming a burn-out person. It has nothing to do with how much you work.
So who's foult is it?
The scary thing is that there is a big market which seem to help you but most of the things you can get is actually not helping or worse, it is making things badder.
You know there are a hundred of books about this burn out and how you can get rid of it of even try to not be a victim of it. Some of the books and mostly parts in the other books are actually right and gives you what is good for you and how you can live to protect yourself and stay in the center of your own life. But there is also a lot of nonsen out there.. I mean how you sit at the table on your chair or even which chair has nothing to do with burn-out.
You you read the books you may think that will do the change... well it won't... you actually have to live it and so many people start buying those extra soft shampoo and extra good feeling for the wellness home, or they take a lesson in shiatsu or buy an hour of massage and expect that this will bring them back to real good, funny life. You're not lucky every minute but every movie tells you to be like that is necessary. Well, let me tell you about this.. Being lucky means to see little things and enjoy them, to get happy, to smile whenever you want, without a reason maybe.. but it never meant to be it 24. No one does have a 24 lucky time. But if you start seeing more good things, then negative, then you're on the right way.
The next problem with those burn-out is, that the market of products is growing and it is just about money not since secure or real proper help. And so for a "normal" human it is quite difficult to find out who is really helping and who isn't.
To get an overview over the whole market takes months... Nobody has the time for that. Right...
But can you trust your doc? Actually not really when it's about that.. the more he tells you you have to pay by yourself, the more he comes with new since numbers which are still not really official, the more it is likely he will get money from you but you will not be really sick, but he will say so. Journalists have found out that in a view trying. But I already knew that by working self in the business for ill people. I see that at the doc I was, I mean in the way they try to talk me into medicine or labour. I said mostly no, because not everything is needed to be known or done.
At least you have an inner voice which tells you better then any doctor. Just ask a pregnant women or those who got their children 50 years ago. They know about it.
So what is the result now? The burn-out is a disease quite right for the industry because they can do big money out of it without a big danger of doing harm. But often they do not help but take your hard earned money. You better try to get to three or four docs before you take it seriously what the diagnose means but always you should look at yourself- is your life style good for you, or should you finally start the change..?
It's your choice and as always I hope you do not stress yourself out because of fear of not being worth being beloved...
LOVE & LIGTH
I guess each of us have had a feeling of a powerless situation. A time when we where just tired and did not want to go up or eat much. Feeling like after a marathon.
It mostly starts with a bit stress around your private section or at your job, then becoming more usual then it should be, then you forget about it and suddenly you're ill. But mostly we recover fast and start again. But as we often do, we forget the mistake and start stressing ourself again and so we really get ill for a longer time. Even though most time we recover again soon. So then we try starting to take things more careful and forget again after a while what took us so long to get out of sync. So you start stressing yourself again, eat the wrong food, sleep too less and lose power, 'cose you are not in the center of your own.
Mostly we are unable to say "No" when we should do. Mostly we regret and feel miserable about it afterwards. Mostly we promise ourself to better us. But then we forget. Again.
On day you feel sick again and you go to the doctor and what does he say?
You have been diagnosed with burn-out.
So easy? Too easy?
The numbers of people who got this diagnose is risen in the last ten years a lot. Are we all workin' too much, too hard? Or are we just mostly wanting simple too much from ourself or is it just a normal thing to be out of power when we forgot again our mistakes and all is easy done... I mean the way to recover and then to change our habits. Is it that easy then? We remember quite well how hard it seems to just change a simple thing. So... does this diagnose and the pills from the doc help us to better us to recover and then never again be stressed out and so to be burned-out?
But why then so many of those are having those burn-outs again and again? Is it because they start working too soon and the pills just calms down a bit and because you did not changed the way you do your day or work and the way you see on things?
Well there are those who really have a burn out and need years to recover. But many have a depression behind their burn out or other reasons why they are down and so is the question... are they weak and unhealthy, sick?
In the book of classification here in Europe the ICD is Burn-out not a disease, but in USA where another book is the bible for docs the Burn-out became just one this year- a disease.
Here we talk about a syndrome, which means a complex of signs, symptoms.
But we should wonder.. this disease is now diagnosed for next to every people, poor, out of work, a student, a teacher or for a child, a mother, for those who really work hard like nurses and for those who just sit on the selling table... to sell tickets... But some of them just need more sleep, or focus on their work, some of them just need to get back the strength to an everyday life with work and getting up every day the same time, some of them just need to say -no- once in a while and many just need to learn not to force themself to heard and lower the expectations and the fear of being to less and not worth enough.
Problem with this is, the numbers of days those people are missing on the job is rising and so the rest has to work their as of to be restless powerless in the end and being sick self. The circle of all this has already started. This does not help to highen the spirits on your working place. Not to talk about the work which is not done.
So who's foult is this? Is it the way we works nowadays? Is it that we lose secure and the power of each of us has to rise? Seems we have to do more and more, for the same money and it had to be the same quality in the same old time. So how can you feel save with this going on and on and no seeing of an end?
So to say it is now wonder then, that it became so popular to be burn-out?
I mean... if I think about the depression which lies often under the skin and gets bigger with the stress... this disease is not very kindly taken of others.. this disease has not a good image or let people think positive about you and you seem to become worthless with being a depressive human but as a burn out, you seem to be the cool, hard working human or you are the victim of the job and so you have not to take action when it is about your habits. Right.?!
I mean, with burn out you are free of next to everything people expect from another.
You are just burned not have failed. I mean, you are burned out, so you must have burned a lot before but the truth is, to get an burnout you don't need to work as hell, you can be someone without work and becoming a burn-out person. It has nothing to do with how much you work.
So who's foult is it?
The scary thing is that there is a big market which seem to help you but most of the things you can get is actually not helping or worse, it is making things badder.
You know there are a hundred of books about this burn out and how you can get rid of it of even try to not be a victim of it. Some of the books and mostly parts in the other books are actually right and gives you what is good for you and how you can live to protect yourself and stay in the center of your own life. But there is also a lot of nonsen out there.. I mean how you sit at the table on your chair or even which chair has nothing to do with burn-out.
You you read the books you may think that will do the change... well it won't... you actually have to live it and so many people start buying those extra soft shampoo and extra good feeling for the wellness home, or they take a lesson in shiatsu or buy an hour of massage and expect that this will bring them back to real good, funny life. You're not lucky every minute but every movie tells you to be like that is necessary. Well, let me tell you about this.. Being lucky means to see little things and enjoy them, to get happy, to smile whenever you want, without a reason maybe.. but it never meant to be it 24. No one does have a 24 lucky time. But if you start seeing more good things, then negative, then you're on the right way.
The next problem with those burn-out is, that the market of products is growing and it is just about money not since secure or real proper help. And so for a "normal" human it is quite difficult to find out who is really helping and who isn't.
To get an overview over the whole market takes months... Nobody has the time for that. Right...
But can you trust your doc? Actually not really when it's about that.. the more he tells you you have to pay by yourself, the more he comes with new since numbers which are still not really official, the more it is likely he will get money from you but you will not be really sick, but he will say so. Journalists have found out that in a view trying. But I already knew that by working self in the business for ill people. I see that at the doc I was, I mean in the way they try to talk me into medicine or labour. I said mostly no, because not everything is needed to be known or done.
At least you have an inner voice which tells you better then any doctor. Just ask a pregnant women or those who got their children 50 years ago. They know about it.
So what is the result now? The burn-out is a disease quite right for the industry because they can do big money out of it without a big danger of doing harm. But often they do not help but take your hard earned money. You better try to get to three or four docs before you take it seriously what the diagnose means but always you should look at yourself- is your life style good for you, or should you finally start the change..?
It's your choice and as always I hope you do not stress yourself out because of fear of not being worth being beloved...
LOVE & LIGTH
Dienstag, 25. Juni 2013
and so I was there again.. Sweden
Last week was a week so typical for life.. started out with the hottest temp. this year and a lot of work and meetings and searching for presents, where I found a toy- a grandmother walking as fast as she can- and meeting friends to relax in the afternoon. Started with my Yoga again and have to tell you... this was a very good choice to do it again after years... Had only forgotten how much it can give you and kill the pain of body... It stretches your muscles and build them up in the same time and also you get relaxed through the breathing you do very aware... otherwise you will forget it... and fall down...
What a week it was in many ways... Had Obama here in Berlin talking about freedom behind a big glass wall. What a crazy picture and tells you how much lies in his acting you can find... The words are true... in some way but as I already wrote... freedom is not to get with "spionage" or lies or more glass walls and more weapons or a bigger army...
Never does, never will...
Anyway... I hade to have my license with me in case, because he was eaten next to the place I work... He must have been very afraid...
But then being out in the nature we have in Berlin in our parks was just so nice because everyone was enjoying it and looking into the sky while following the sun going down... the planes in the sky did us remind of the "Golden Girls". You know those four funny grannies.. They did told us a lot of truth, didn't they?!
But also it was a different time then... In some way, some of these truths should be remembered.... Like on Christopher Street Day... We had in Berlin this saturday... People finally start to remember more and more why we have those Parade and what it is needed for. You can read about my opinion here on my blog- just look under CSD...t.ex.
But the best with this week was a baby... a child so much loved... Made by a father, an egg of a women and given birth by another women and now to have next time a second father... This is family and I was lucky to be part of the "Name giving ceremony"... (a private ceremony and that's why you won't see any pics of it...) and was wondering if this soul of the child would be the same of the grandmother of his father, because of all the things around his birth... 100 years after the grandgrandmother was born, on exactly the same day and maybe the same country... it had to have a meaning...? Well maybe we know later, maybe not but anyway.. Such a beautiful child and as you know, not every baby is sweet... But he is! So .... oh yes he had so much trust.. and was kind of sleeping part of the ceremony and let him touched by so many...
That's why I was in Sweden on an island of the town Gothenburg...
Another thing I wonder what that is in our big way of being on earth. This place and all those people... and the date..
One day after "Midsommar" the most swedish festival you can get... Nothing is more swedish then the longest day of the year, who is celebrating big in Sweden and of course those cakes they make are not sweet but tasty anyway...
And as a lucky kid I am, I was not only there to see the baby. Got also the luck to get to know new people and after all, being back home in my second home I have there, being with the neighbors ---- it was so nice to be able to talk in swedish and to get to know the news they had and to touch the bird... Yes, they have a bird and surprisingly I liked the bird and so did it the other way round...
So this was after all a more private writing... and now some pics to get the impression of the trip.. A three day trip...
Should have stayed longer..:-)
By the way the airport became much nicer and the stuff was very friendly too, but can you imagine.. plates on the wall in an airport... Well, in Gothenburg/ Landvetter airport you'll find them.
What a week it was in many ways... Had Obama here in Berlin talking about freedom behind a big glass wall. What a crazy picture and tells you how much lies in his acting you can find... The words are true... in some way but as I already wrote... freedom is not to get with "spionage" or lies or more glass walls and more weapons or a bigger army...
Never does, never will...
Anyway... I hade to have my license with me in case, because he was eaten next to the place I work... He must have been very afraid...
But then being out in the nature we have in Berlin in our parks was just so nice because everyone was enjoying it and looking into the sky while following the sun going down... the planes in the sky did us remind of the "Golden Girls". You know those four funny grannies.. They did told us a lot of truth, didn't they?!
But also it was a different time then... In some way, some of these truths should be remembered.... Like on Christopher Street Day... We had in Berlin this saturday... People finally start to remember more and more why we have those Parade and what it is needed for. You can read about my opinion here on my blog- just look under CSD...t.ex.
But the best with this week was a baby... a child so much loved... Made by a father, an egg of a women and given birth by another women and now to have next time a second father... This is family and I was lucky to be part of the "Name giving ceremony"... (a private ceremony and that's why you won't see any pics of it...) and was wondering if this soul of the child would be the same of the grandmother of his father, because of all the things around his birth... 100 years after the grandgrandmother was born, on exactly the same day and maybe the same country... it had to have a meaning...? Well maybe we know later, maybe not but anyway.. Such a beautiful child and as you know, not every baby is sweet... But he is! So .... oh yes he had so much trust.. and was kind of sleeping part of the ceremony and let him touched by so many...
That's why I was in Sweden on an island of the town Gothenburg...
Another thing I wonder what that is in our big way of being on earth. This place and all those people... and the date..
One day after "Midsommar" the most swedish festival you can get... Nothing is more swedish then the longest day of the year, who is celebrating big in Sweden and of course those cakes they make are not sweet but tasty anyway...
And as a lucky kid I am, I was not only there to see the baby. Got also the luck to get to know new people and after all, being back home in my second home I have there, being with the neighbors ---- it was so nice to be able to talk in swedish and to get to know the news they had and to touch the bird... Yes, they have a bird and surprisingly I liked the bird and so did it the other way round...
So this was after all a more private writing... and now some pics to get the impression of the trip.. A three day trip...
Should have stayed longer..:-)
By the way the airport became much nicer and the stuff was very friendly too, but can you imagine.. plates on the wall in an airport... Well, in Gothenburg/ Landvetter airport you'll find them.
LOVE & LIGHT
Sonntag, 16. Juni 2013
Socket
And here finally a movie I absolutely can say... Uuurgh....
One of the baddest movies I ever saw. Bad made, bad story, bad acting.
A man is struck by lightning then he is coming back to live in a hospital. He finds out that life has changed somehow and then he got the experience that the plug napping gives him the best sexual attraction, so he becomes so hot when he plugs in. Of course he get to know others and they meet and have Sex together with the electricity. Wired story, but it's even getting madder. How mad? Well watch the movie then but be warned... you need your TV control to speed it up...
But you know even the cover can make you believe it is a gay movie.. it's not that gay and by the way just because a movie has a homosexual in it, it does not mean it is a reason to call a movie good.
So here's the cover and no matter how bad a movie is... You always get my support for..
LOVE & LIGHT
One of the baddest movies I ever saw. Bad made, bad story, bad acting.
A man is struck by lightning then he is coming back to live in a hospital. He finds out that life has changed somehow and then he got the experience that the plug napping gives him the best sexual attraction, so he becomes so hot when he plugs in. Of course he get to know others and they meet and have Sex together with the electricity. Wired story, but it's even getting madder. How mad? Well watch the movie then but be warned... you need your TV control to speed it up...
But you know even the cover can make you believe it is a gay movie.. it's not that gay and by the way just because a movie has a homosexual in it, it does not mean it is a reason to call a movie good.
So here's the cover and no matter how bad a movie is... You always get my support for..
LOVE & LIGHT
Eating out 1-5
Have you seen them yet?
Well i actually started seeing the first sequel, then bought the 4 and had even that time fun watching the movie, although I could not wonder how are the others so I took the fifth and was surprised. It was even better, so why not trying all at the end and so her we are.
Seen all and I can say I liked them all. The second is kinda crazy but fun, well- not the best acting, so the next was bit better and also the story became even better, but when you reached the fourth movie the story not only got better, it even got more complex as you can have it in a comedy which is quite a typical american way.
What made it even better was also that they decided to take more characters in the story, which leads to a more an funny and interesting way to get to you. But the fifth was the best. I laughed so much and the boys and girls and in betweens made it, really made it. Harry Potter is saying hello too. They all play with heart and yes the story seems to be easy and simple but is more a hide and seek and what you see is not what you get.
Of course you don't have to watch 'em all, but if.. you'll have fun if you like a simple way of joke and fun, although the fourth and fifth are the best sequels. But the best stories had the first and the last. The second is crazy absolute and the fourth too, although Glee is helping it out.
So have fun and like always I wish you a lot of
LIGHT & LOVE
Well i actually started seeing the first sequel, then bought the 4 and had even that time fun watching the movie, although I could not wonder how are the others so I took the fifth and was surprised. It was even better, so why not trying all at the end and so her we are.
Seen all and I can say I liked them all. The second is kinda crazy but fun, well- not the best acting, so the next was bit better and also the story became even better, but when you reached the fourth movie the story not only got better, it even got more complex as you can have it in a comedy which is quite a typical american way.
What made it even better was also that they decided to take more characters in the story, which leads to a more an funny and interesting way to get to you. But the fifth was the best. I laughed so much and the boys and girls and in betweens made it, really made it. Harry Potter is saying hello too. They all play with heart and yes the story seems to be easy and simple but is more a hide and seek and what you see is not what you get.
Of course you don't have to watch 'em all, but if.. you'll have fun if you like a simple way of joke and fun, although the fourth and fifth are the best sequels. But the best stories had the first and the last. The second is crazy absolute and the fourth too, although Glee is helping it out.
So have fun and like always I wish you a lot of
LIGHT & LOVE
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