Today it's about dying, more precisely, to practice a gentle dying.
It's always not easy to talk about this and in the western culture people prefer not to talk about it at all until it is absolutely necessary.
Nevertheless, there are well over a million people just in germany- who have dying relatives and to deal with the question what dying with dignity must be. What is allowed? How long do a man has to suffer? What is just pain you really don't need?
The fear of dying is perfectly natural and quite the die also.
But here it is all about the fear of being delivered, and before painful symptoms in the dying phase.
Well, morphine or similar drugs have been proven as a means of pain management now. The fear of addiction goes back slowly, partly because many are aware by now that the drug plays a role not striving.
Even breathlessness relieves Morphine good, instead of producing them. Studies have already demonstrated this. There is even by many the fear of breathlessness, which may increase the fear itself.
The hunger and appetite goes away and does not hurt the body. There is no need for artificial nutrition. On the other side the thirst remains but it is enough to supply the body with a minimum of liquid, otherwise the body is overwhelmed, as in death, the kidneys adjust their work slowly. So water will come into the lungs, when you give more then a bit of water to the dying body. This can bring breathlessness. In addition to giving oxygen often makes no sense, because many have their mouths wide open and so it would drain.
And then the medicine... the most are not absolutely necessary. To much are given for a maybe...
Nevertheless, the question arises again and again. Have Doctors forgotten how to make very elderly people die naturally, as it was earlier but apparently the rule?
In recent decades, doctors have increasingly learned to do everything just what keeps life. It is difficult for them what is called the loving end of life failure to perform.
It's because they feel good with all the helpin' stuff. To not do, this is very hard and a big problem for many. They have learn to save live, no matter what. But they have often forgot to use the human mind and heart inside them self to decide what is right and what is wrong and then everyone wants them to say what to do and what is right or wrong. A big responsibility.
Thank God people begin to wonder whether all this is so true. Because it's like when you at birth: In most cases, it runs best when it is not disturbed from outside. Only a little help is needed. No big circumstances.
So will a living will help to bring more certainty into it? The answer is yes , yes , yes and especially if it is sign from a doctor or lawyer too. Because this is confirming the mental clarity of the affected at the time of signature.
But what else can be done to allow a dignified death?
First, you should discuss it in good times. What I want and what you don't. If the times comes, then it should be free of pain for everyone, and if possible, provide pleasant atmosphere. If anyone is in the final stage, it should always, always be someone there, holding the hand. It soothes and takes away the fear most. You should talk to the dying and allow them to die. Tell them it's alright to go away. To take the next step. It won't hurt. The dead does not hurt.
Much to often we do to much and bring only pain. For what, for maybe, for a few moments more to live. Yes I think when people are old we must learn again that they can die because they are old and don't want to live any more and are tired. They had a life. And when a young man is on the way to die, we should let them. I know it's hard because they are so young sometimes and we think it is not fair. There must be a way. But to keep them alive for each price is not worth the living. Our own fear of dead and die should not make us blind for the reality we have in front of our eyes. If you keep this in mind, you can not fail.
LOVE & LIGHT
