Better then chocolate - a movie

-Better then chocolate- is a comedy from the 90'tis and like the cover is showing you're guessing right, it is about two young girls. But also a mother who discover her child in new ways and herself and a brother who still has no borders and therefor is open to try new ways with a hot girl and also a man who is a women who is a friend. 

It's a comedy lead buy reality as it shows much of our live and what is going on but also the comic parts of it as mostly our life is funny if we look back at our drama days. Well, mostly. 

It is a little movie and you may say why seeing a lesbian movie? Why not is the answer as this movie also shows why not seeing it and enjoy. Some clichés may perish. For man and women. Of course as it is a comedy it is always a bit over the top but always with taste. The acting is sensual and earnest and the storyline fit in all aspect even thought some drama is maybe a bit over the top, but otherwise it matches all the way and you gotta laugh a lot. Though in the beginning of the Movie it takes time to get warm with it. But just a couple of minutes then the speed goes up in the storytelling. So, another DVD/ movie I can recommend without a doubt and be sure not only for lesbians! And after all, how could you not like that sweet couple! And the mother, well... you'll gonna love her in some way and the title of the movie is to discover on her or with her- who knows ;-).

Have a nice time watching the movie and as always I wish you all my...

LOVE & LIGHT

International day of Kiss

Seems it's long, long time ago I wrote something here in my blog, but you know me, I only write if I feel it's right. Actually I had not much time and too much going on in my mind and life to write something good, but while the most now will write about soccer I think it's quite a good change to write about the actual day of kiss. Of course the day is made up by a bunch of guys while they took a beer or two and no one really knows why they made it up and what it is about.
It's sure not political reason, although a kiss is more then just a kiss, while I think it should be. 
In fact there are countries where you not kiss in open places and just remember not long ago in movies a kiss was seldom or if there was one it never where shown right or face to face. A kiss was in fact something very offensive and had the meaning of being a sexual slut. And still in some countries a kiss is more then that. It stands for a life you choose to live and I don't mean your sexual orientation. An open kiss in countries where homosexual can be harmed is a choice you make. The choice to be yourself and show who you are. Or where women have next to no rights. So they show, that they are a human who has the same rights like each of us should have. 
Then a kiss is of course different in it's interpretations. It can be friendly, show love, show kindness, be a sign of protest, be a sign of seduction, be an affront or be a candy and so on. And then a kiss is for most women more then just too lips meeting each other, while for many man kissing a stranger is nothing special. For most men it is just a kiss to heat up, sometimes just to get an erection, some times to show domination, some times just part of a conversation. But society have been teaching women since a long time that a kiss stands for love. Only love. Kissing for fun is still therefore an exception. 
Oh yes, a kiss on the neck is different to a kiss on the forehead, and different to a kiss on the hand. We kiss much in our live. Mostly of different kinds of love. Family, friends and society- all there you can find a kiss on the way. Political kiss while the cold war or the high society kiss check to check, the friendly kiss to a grandmother and the good bye kiss to a child, before it goes to school. But the latter is quite also kind of a modern thing. To kiss your child as children were long seen as little adults and never have been touched that way by parents. Oh there are still sects who forbid the first contacts with a baby after birth and also the kiss on the head or the hand to say hello my newborn. 
But as we are on children- here we have also unwelcome kisses. Kisses grown people are giving to children without the permission of them, without asking them or even the parents when it is just a hello kiss. But you know what I mean. So many children have to stand out sexual harassment. (And even adults get kisses from people against their will.)It's a awful thing, getting parts of the body kissed where an adult never should put his lips on. No matter if it's a stranger, someone from the family or the parents
But Allah's not every kiss from a a parent to a child is sexual abuse. That strange fear must gone too. How can a loving mother not give a kiss to his little child. 

The "Kiss" is usually a positive word and that's why the advertising campaigns use the kiss, or the idea of a kiss or just the image of a kissing mouth like Kylie used it for her CD. But here we see that the kiss is also a sexual thing, although it's more an erotic and sensitive thing. But the kiss is just the next step from our time we fed each other. Like animals still do with their babies. So it's kind of complex. 

But now, let's take another look on "The Kiss".
Few can kiss real good from the start. It is a thing to learn and train. The kiss you give your love. 
Oh what I've been through! Some kiss like a machine. Always the same way, always the same rhythm. 
Like a clock. Some tried to bite me, although I think that was not the idea. Some could not even move their lips. Some kiss like you have an illness and call it passion. Some opened their mouth and I was afraid to fall in. A kiss is lips to lips not a big gab, a big hole to a head. I don't want to dive into your stomach. If I wanted, I had better things to dive in. 
Saliva. Yes it's natural to have some in your mouth but be kind and don't forget to swallow it. If I want to take a bath, I take the tub. 
A tongue. Is an organ you can use, but use it gently not like a drilling machine or a hammer. And please don't start with the tongue play and please don't try to lick my face before I am getting warm in my passion for you. 
Sometimes I only get the big, big tongue and wonder how this is a kiss. Where have those people learn this? Porn? 
And yes sometimes -I confess- my kisses are called Jackhammer kisses, because my passion presses me into you. I've learned to let this go... more or lesson. But surly I don't start with a cold start kiss... 
What more? It's always good to have a fresh breath, but better brush your teeth not the minute before you'll kiss or take a bubble gum just before it, If I wanted a fresh bomb in my mouth, I do it by myself. Thanks. But I do wonder, in some movies you see the actors brushing their teeth and then the partner or lover comes into the bathroom and start kissing. I mean their not even finished and spat the toothpaste. I always think -those poor actors. Must be more disgusting then making a sex scene. But do people actually do this? 

But at least... I mean , when it is about kissing, start gently, just lips to lips and then go on. Smell each other and see each other, kiss other parts of the face, play and gently start taking the tongue, then go back to just kiss, but with a little pressing and feeling and passion and so on.... Take your time and try. Try different positions, different times of the day. Wake you man in the morning with a surprise kiss, softly, gently, but full of love and passion. Sometimes a puff of a kiss is more then all the big screen kisses you know. 
Isn't it crazy how much you can write about a kiss. Just a kiss. A thing which can give love, make people jealous, can keep peace of two countries or get you killed by the mob, can save your life and also change it. 
So can mankind survive without a kiss?
Think about it. 

Love & Light

Marry or not to marry?/ Heiraten oder nicht heiraten?

To marry or not marry, this is now really a good question. (Deutsch weiter unten lesen)
A few days ago has the State of California to record the fight for marriage another step forward, because now there may also the gay be happy to enter into the covenant of marriage.
In many Western countries, the marriage begins to be neutral, regardless of gender.

But is the marriage still relevant at all?

Can you still get married now when so many marriages end in divorce?

Can you still get married without having to lie to themselves or each other here?

They say it's through good times and bad, until death do us part.
But how can you know for sure if we are living much longer today than in the past.

Is the marriage still suitable for modern man?

Are we aware, which means our promise, whatever it takes to keep it? Can there be more? Is that possible to be in marriage together for the whole time?

Once the marriage was sacred, at least officially. The aim was to get the blessing of God and then to make beautiful children, to ensure the survival of the family. Nowadays the belief is hardly crucial to the marriage and children, we can be even without the marriage witness. There is still the love that has proven to be quite uncertain factor in our generation. Also, once you got married to get the economics of the family or even increasing, not least, the marriage was funded by the government so the state has more people that he needs.

But than the promotion of children is no longer what it once was. Why get married then?

For the rights? Much can now be regulated differently by law.

So would it not be better to prefer to change the rights and laws. Foster children, where they are available?

But yet we glorify marriage and especially the wedding itself, now more than ever. Bigger and more beautiful they should be. Romantic and all-encompassing and yet .... what does this have to do with relationships? Why a big celebration, when I only want to say to my partners .. "I wanna be with you ... for a lifetime."

In order to know everyone out there, but that may be by mail or e-mail.

As a reminder ... Who then can now honestly say that he knows with 100% certainty that the other is the only one he will love in his whole life long.

In view of ... So is it all just a shell? An old tradition is kept alive, but no longer fulfills its original purpose?

Well, again then, they aresome who live together for a whole life, or who marry rather late, but remain married until her death.

There are actually quite a few couples who can also, if they get divorced in the end, really try and fight but still lose. These pairs give at the end of a second chance at happiness for two- with a suitable partner. One can still learn from mistakes? Or can't you?

And yes, I also believe that the moment is true, in which one married and one is actually sure believe that it is for the rest of life.

But... What if I already come from the front -do not mind, not believe, because I know that we live much longer and we fall in love with more than one human.

If I then give up the marriage, although I do like the idea of it? Finally, I can hardly tell it honestly, till death do us part. Or should I dare yet and if it should really go once in two if we go apart, then I simple do not get a divorce?

There is probably no really satisfactory answer, which is generally valid. We will probably always have to ask individually whether we can honestly say that we believe that it is the right thing and we really try to go through thick and thin.

And yet if I for once again hears one say, it is the most beautiful day of your life! Then I think you should.... think about it once again...!

It means in fact that nothing can come after that, what you can really enjoy and yet still be beautiful. What will you then look forward to? What reason would there be to live in a marriage even if the best day ofmarriage, is the first? Instead, would it not be nice to say that this day will have been one of the most beautiful in your life.

Zu heiraten oder nicht zu heiraten, das ist heutzutage wirklich eine berechtigte Frage.

Gerade hat im Bundesstaat Kalifornien der Kampf um die Ehe einen weiteren Fortschritt verzeichnen können, denn jetzt können sich auch dort Schwule und Leben darauf freuen, den Bund der Ehe einzugehen. In vielen westlichen Ländern beginnt die Ehe neutral und Geschlechtsunabhängig zu werden. Doch ist die Ehe überhaupt noch aktuell?

Kann man heutzutage noch heiraten, wo so viele Ehen wieder geschieden werden?

Kann man heute noch ohne sich selber oder gegenseitig dabei zu belügen heiraten? Es heisst doch durch gute und schlechte Zeiten, bis das der Tod uns scheidet.

Aber wie soll man das mit Sicherheit wissen, wenn wir heute viel länger leben, als noch vor 50 Jahren und mehr.

Ist die Heirat noch für den modernen Menschen geeignet?

Ist uns bewusst, was unser Versprechen bedeutet, was es braucht es zu halten? Kann es uns noch bewusst sein? Geht das überhaupt?

Einst war die Ehe zumindest offiziell heilig. Es ging darum, den Segen Gottes zu bekommen und dann schön Kinder zu machen, um den Fortbestand der Familie zu sichern. Heutzutage ist der Glaube kaum noch ausschlaggebend für die Eheschliessung und Kinder können wir auch ohne im Ehebund zu sein zeugen. Bleibt noch die Liebe, welche sich als recht unsicherer Faktor erwiesen hat für unsere Generation. Auch heiratete man einst, um die Wirtschaftlichkeit der Familie zu erhalten oder gar zu steigern, nicht zuletzt wurde die Ehe vom Staat gefördert, damit der Staat mehr Bürger hat, die er braucht. Aber das mit der Förderung der Kinder ist auch nicht mehr, was es einmal war. Warum dann noch heiraten? Der Rechte wegen? Vieles kann man heute anders rechtlich regeln. Sollte man da nicht lieber die Rechte und Gesetze verändern. Kinder da fördern, wo sie auch vorhanden sind?

Aber dennoch verklären wir die Ehe und vor allem die Hochzeit selbst heute mehr denn jemals. Grösser und schöner soll sie sein. Romantisch und allumfassend und doch.... was hat das mit Beziehung zu tun? Warum eine grosse Feier, wenn ich doch nur unserem Partner sagen.. "Ich will mit dir... ein Leben lang. "

Damit alles es wissen, aber das kann man auch per Post oder Mail.

Zur Erinnerung... wer kann denn heutzutage noch ehrlich sagen, das er mit 100% Sicherheit weiss, das der Andere der Einzige ist den er in seinem ganzen langem Leben lieben wird.

In Anbetracht dessen... ist es also alles nur noch eine Hülle? Eine alte Tradition, die am leben gehalten wird, aber nicht mehr ihre eigentliche Bestimmung erfüllt?

Nun ja, ganz so ist es dann auch wieder nicht, denn es gibt sie, die, die ein ganzes leben lang zusammen sind, oder die, die zwar spät heiraten, aber bis zu ihrem Tod verheiratet bleiben.

Es gibt tatsächlich nicht wenige Paare, die auch wenn sie sich am Ende scheiden lassen, es wirklich versuchen und kämpfen, aber dennoch verlieren. Diese Paare geben sich am Ende eine zweite Chance auf ein Glück zu zweit mit einem passendem Partner. Man darf doch aus Fehlern lernen?

Und ja, ich glaube auch, das der Augenblick wahr ist, in dem man heiratet und man sich tatsächlich sicher glaubt, das es für den Rest des Lebens ist. Was aber, wenn ich schon von vorne herein nicht daran glaube, weil ich weiss, das wir viel länger leben und uns auch in mehr als einen Menschen verlieben können.

Sollte ich dann auf die Heirat verzichten, auch wenn mir der Gedanke gefällt es zu tun? Schliesslich kann ich ja dann kaum noch ehrlich sagen, bis das der Tod uns scheidet. Oder sollte ich es dennoch wagen und sollte es tatsächlich einmal entzwei gehen, mich einfach nicht scheiden lassen?

Es gibt wohl keine wirklich zufrieden stellende Antwort, die allgemeingültig ist. Wir werden uns wohl immer wieder individuell fragen müssen, ob wir ehrlich sagen können, das wir daran glauben, das es das Richtige ist und wir wirklich versuchen durch dick und dünn zu gehen. Und noch eines, hört auf zu sagen, es wird der schönste tag euresLebens! Es bedeutet nämlich, das danach nichts mehr kommen kann, was euch wirklich noch erfreuen kann und noch schöner werden kann. Worauf will man sich dann noch freuen? Was für einen Grund hätte man dann noch zu leben, gar verheiratet zu sein, wenn der schönste Tag der Ehe, der erste ist?! Statt dessen währe es doch schöner sagen zu können, das dieser Tag einer der schönsten gewesen sein wird in deinem Leben.

LOVE & LIGTH