Are you feminist?

                                  

I never thought about that until a doctor asked me that at work.  In Sweden it is not such a strange thing that men call themselves feminist. 

And while I just thought about equality for the LGBTIQ community, it came again to my mind that this is also something we deal with on and on. 

But what is a feminist nowadays? It sure is not only a woman fighting aggressive for her rights. It’s not only fighting for being part of the congress, getting the laws changed and fighting together as black and white.

It has become more. Women fight loud but also in silence and they fight on different places. Now it’s education, family times and still family planning or also called Planned Parenthood.  They also fight for same wage as this is still unbelievable unfair and women now have understood that they have to demand men to fight with them, to understand deep inside that what they seek is right and has to make into reality.

You know it is unbelievable that we after 100 years since the women started to fight for equality have not come that far.  Why is it so hard to achieve success? Is it that we went more silent after the 80tis? Is it that young women have to discover feminist for themselves and make it their own thing? Find new ways and remember that being loud is still necessary. 

So a man fighting along side by side with a woman is a feminist?

Thought as far as I remember what I have read, most of those men still are very much living the cliché and those 50/50 thing is more a which, than reality, in everyday life and also those men pay women less than for a man.  Women are many times o.k. with this, or believe it just is that way or even more it has to be, thought they should know better.  But yes, we have still also those women who truly believe a woman has to be home, make children and her husband has to bring home the money. They believe women should not have extra rights- and this is the problem! It’s not about extra rights it’s about to get the same rights, to have the same possibilities and choices.  Sure in many ways men and women are different, but that does not mean they are weaker, or less worth, or should have less rights as they can be smart the same as men and work hard as a man and even feel. They can make decisions and those without being victims of hormones. Many forget that men have also hormones, which makes them act stupid.

And why is it still a problem to live out sexuality as women? Why is it still for men and women a problem if a woman gets a divorce, but not when the man does? That’s bigotry and lying to yourself about what and who we are. 

But back to men who are called feminist. They are no less man of course, thought many would like to call them so. They fight for women rights; sometimes they just call it a fight for equality. And without men the revolution will not succeed in the end. We always need both sides.  And also those men who just fight and are into equality. Like myself, a man who does not call themselves a feminist.

But let’s be true, we do to less and women also stand in their own way. We have to try harder but how can we make others understand that the time is now, not tomorrow as it can be too late then or even harder to achieve things. As this is a question of power, of money and who will lead the world. It is a question of peace and war and where we put each other. It is a question of respect and empathy.  Things the new generation of feminist have to understand and some already work that way. The older generation is looking back and into the future and will hope that we go on fighting as they see how hard it still is, how unequal we act and how hard some groups fight to get women back into the dark age again. So we have to talk, to teach and be visible.

May you call yourself a feminist or not, but start discussing what went wrong, to know our history and what should we do and how can we prepare our children to not do the same mistakes or act the same unequal way. Yes, it starts with how we teach them, how uncles, mothers and grandparents act and all those other folks. Only together we will make it better as it is not enough when just parents make it right. 

Let's think about it with Love & Light

The Dreamers- a movie

Another frensh movie who is not new but still one of those I like to watch as the story is quite a different way written what you are used to.  A movie in the tradition of the art nuevo and in the way like "Breathless" (-Á bout de souffle-) with  Paul Belmondo.
The story is quite easy told. Three young people, all students come together, live together, love each other, try all they can and are little rebells in their heart but one of them more then the other two. Two are sisters and one is a friend who comes inside thier home. What does begin with fun is becoming complicated and the danger beetween them starts to grow as they become not only philisophical and are much into art and literature, they become more and more political and so the weel of future starts to turn faster and faster. Expect the most fun, but also the challange of looking through the eyes of those three people. Where will you find yourself and how can this end. Turned on by the sexyness and fun you will come to the state of mind that you can't decide what side you're on and in the end you won't be sure but sure as well. 
A movie I can recommend for all those who like the outsiders, who likes to look and watch over the ocean and who are into open minds. For the others, this is a chance to open yourself for a new way. There will be no boring minute and you can follow the story but it may touch you somewhere inside you never guessed. 
I saw that film years ago and discoverd it through a friend again. Wonder how I could miss that good movie.
It's maybe not a movie for x-mass and not something to buy for a friend, but just for you to try it.
My second recommendation of the day and it's frensh- again. 
 
Love & Light

The Signature of all things- a book

After all the DVDs, maybe you want to buy a book for x-mas or for a birthday? Then I can recommend my new discovery!

Elisabeth Gilbert surely known as the writer of  -Eat, Pray, Love-  has given out a new book and it's a big one. It's different to the last one but also keeps the track on the growing theme. It's a book about a women who has the luck to be a kid of a rich father and therefore be able to discover many things by herself as this plays in a time where women had less then zero education. 

It's a story of a family and a women growing in and out of it and how she discover that there is more then being a smart mind. 

As with eat, pray, love- Elisabeth is able to express with a rich language and a lot of understandable pictures her story and the journey you follow with it. 

This book is in no way a women(s) book as it contains adventure, the jungle, a rising Philadelphia and the old Europe and science from that time. 

It's not a love story book, but a book about reconnecting mind, body and soul with the help of nature and other people. 

I sure had not a single boring minute reading it and it was not a bit to much or uncomfortable to read, thought with next to 600 pages, it took its time. 

Just the much alive picture you get from our past and history is so much fun to read. 

I just hope that this book will be better translated into other languages then - eat, pray, love-  as those bad translations killed the book. Especially the german translation was catastrophic. 

You see it was and is a New York Times Bestseller, but that does not mean a book is good. 

Here I can say it is. Refreshing use of language- not too complicated, not too simple- and a story who surprise you and while reading you wonder what's next as this book has so many pages. The book is also written in a way so you can understand the upcoming things. Which I really liked as it also did ad a lot of color to the book and you are able to learn some more things in the same time. Yes, you can discover a new world that way and relate to it. 

And after all it is a book of hope, which in the end will tell you it is never to late to change or just be better then you are now. A book for long travels or holidays? Absolute, as you travel in time and space with this book. 

Also I think this book is most needed in our time- as it is about education for all and about education of mind and soul! And it is about equality. It is not that long ago that we started to fight for just those things. Just now we have a backlash and so this reminder is very much appreciate. 

Have fun reading it self or give it to someone who'll will have the luck to enjoy these letters.

Love & Light

Tango Libré- a movie

Und weil wir gerade so schön bei französischen Filmen sind... Hier ein Film der den Tango als roten Faden hat. Ja, ein französischer Film erzählt sich seine Geschichte des Lebens mit Hilfe des Tangos. Interessante Kombination. 

Auf den Film bin ich durch den Schauspieler Francoise Damiens gekommen, der schon bei Natalie Küsst die männliche Hauptrolle übernommen hatte. 

Hier geht es um drei Männer, alle mit dem Gefängnis verhaftet, sowohl vor den Gitterstäben, als auch dahinter und wie könnte es beim Tango anders sein, so ist es auch ein Film um Liebe, Begehrlichkeiten und in diesem Falle, drei Männer und eine Frau. 

Keine Komödie, aber ein Film der zu Herzen geht, jedoch weder Kitschig ist, noch sich endlos in Tanzszenen abspielt. Der Tango ist eher das verbindende und zur Verständigung beitragende Element. Er wird Mittel der Eroberung, der Konkurrenz und schliesslich der Befreiung. So tanzt sich der Film ähnlich einem Tango um seine Figuren, nähert und entfernt sich ihnen, ergreift sie brutal und schmeichelt ihnen wieder. 

Dies ist durchaus eine Herausforderung, wenn man schön gemalte Filme aus Hollywood gewöhnt ist.

Auch braucht es bei einigen Szenen durchaus den Willen des Zuschauers, sich mit weniger schönen Bildern abzugeben und Realitäten wahr zu nehmen, die diese Figuren umgibt. Meist ruhig erzählt, versinkt der Film aber nicht im Sand und nimmt zum Ende hin Fahrt auf. Vom Cover her mag man einen etwas romantischeren Film erwarten, in mehr freundlicheren Farben, aber da täuscht man sich. Auch ist dies weder ein Tanzfilm, noch ein Tango Film. Jedoch ein Film mit wunderbaren Schauspielern und der Frage, wie weit wirst du gehen? 

LOVE & LIGHT

So ist Paris- a movie

Noch so ein kleines Filmjuwel der sich als eine kleine Anreihung von Episoden, die mehr oder weniger ineinander übergehen, sich kreuzen und schneiden, entpuppt. 

Hier spielt sich alles in Paris ab, einer Stadt der vielen Themen und so ist dieser kleine Film eher eine kleine Sammlung der Melancholie, aber auch des Aufbruches, Mutes und des Annehmen. Eine kleine Starbesetzung macht es sicher leichter sich für einen Abend auf diesen Paristrip einzulassen, der teils tief in den Strassen und Gassen der Stadt spielt. Und das ist das Angenehme an dem Film. Er arbeitet nicht so sehr mit den Klischees, sondern setzt mehr auf die Geschichten und Schauspieler und deren Können. Die Dramaturklaviatur ist eher leise, aber wirkungsvoll. Sie geht zu Herzen und macht zudem leise Hoffnung. Die Schicksalsschläge, so sie geschildert werden, sind alle scheinbar sehr alltäglich und im Grunde sind sie das auch für viele Menschen, was diesem Film zu danken ist, das er dies so als Eindruck hinterlässt. 

Somit ist dies eher ein leiser Film, für einen Herbstabend oder auch einer stillen Winternacht, mit einem Glas Wein oder einer warmen Tasse Schokolade. Letzteres würde ja zu einem Film mit Juliette Binoche passen. 

Der Film ist eine französische Produktion, die aber durchaus an den internationalen Markt angepasst ist, so dass man wunderbar in die Geschichten hineinkommt, als auch am Ende entlassen wird. 

Wer Paris auch einmal eher unspecktakulär erleben will- hier bekommt er den passenden Film.

Mein Geschenk- Tipp für den etwas ruhigeren Abend.

LOVE & LIGHT

Better then chocolate - a movie

-Better then chocolate- is a comedy from the 90'tis and like the cover is showing you're guessing right, it is about two young girls. But also a mother who discover her child in new ways and herself and a brother who still has no borders and therefor is open to try new ways with a hot girl and also a man who is a women who is a friend. 

It's a comedy lead buy reality as it shows much of our live and what is going on but also the comic parts of it as mostly our life is funny if we look back at our drama days. Well, mostly. 

It is a little movie and you may say why seeing a lesbian movie? Why not is the answer as this movie also shows why not seeing it and enjoy. Some clichés may perish. For man and women. Of course as it is a comedy it is always a bit over the top but always with taste. The acting is sensual and earnest and the storyline fit in all aspect even thought some drama is maybe a bit over the top, but otherwise it matches all the way and you gotta laugh a lot. Though in the beginning of the Movie it takes time to get warm with it. But just a couple of minutes then the speed goes up in the storytelling. So, another DVD/ movie I can recommend without a doubt and be sure not only for lesbians! And after all, how could you not like that sweet couple! And the mother, well... you'll gonna love her in some way and the title of the movie is to discover on her or with her- who knows ;-).

Have a nice time watching the movie and as always I wish you all my...

LOVE & LIGHT

Kilometer 0- a movie

-Kilometer zero- is a spanish movie from several years ago. It is a compilation of some stories who all takes place in Madrid on a hot summer day. 

The stories are -some realtime, some just are funny, some are dreamy and all have their own reasons but yes they do gather together in the end. Typical kind of movie that way- isn't it.

Kilometer zero is a starting and meeting point in Madrid which does exist in real. So is it for all the figures in the movie, may they be a child, a mother a lover or a girl who wants to marry but is a kid of bad luck at all. 

This is a sweet and amusing and in the end also little hot movie you can enjoy alone or with friends, even with your family. A perfect present for friends I think who loves little movies with funny stories and surprises at the end. And as the cold winter times arrive, this movie will surely warm you up and as the acting and cutting is really something you will enjoy, you should not miss this film. 

Easy going and traditional, but with a good artwork. Then it is yours. 

LOVE & LIGHT

Survival- a DVD

As it is time to think of christmas, you maybe need something to buy for a friend, a husband or a brother. Well, it is always difficult when you buy a movie, as man have such different taste. But here I can recommend a DVD of a series, which actually has more shows then this one I will show you now.
It's about a man, en ex mariene, who goes into the wild like McGyver. 
Really, he has nothing more then his mind and a knife. That's all. There are just two cameras following him and it is actually very interesting following him through the jungle, the desert or another nature area, as he is always taking the risk to go where no one lives. Trying to find his way through untill he can be saved from a helicopter. Trying to find some food as he must eat and drink. Otherwise no power for all the jumping.
He started this show to show how we can still survive and as many now are just living in towns, we may lost the contact to nature and the way to get through. Even known survviing is not all about being in the djungle. 
Anyway, it is very much fun and god to know what he is explaining and telling. The right DVD for several afternoons to keep a busy guy home and maken him calm down. Although girls may like this too as the guy is charming and doing what everyone could do as long as you try and well are a little bit trained. 
So that feeling that making a bit sport in real life can pop up. :-)
 

So this is my x-mass gift idea number one... as I will continue to show some DVDs and other stuff you may like to send to friends.
 
Love & Light

777 Berlin

Happy Birthday to my hometown. 

Now you have the age of 777. Well if this isn't something to celebrate! 
Although you could be older then we actually know as it is the case that we found evidence who are older then this official date. But anyway older or not you gotta have a history on your back. Becoming one town as you were two villages -> Berlin and Kölln. Now you have taking inside your belly all the other villages around you which is quite a very differnet history to most towns of the world if not you are the only one made of villages, which by the way everyone can still feel walking through the streets. But you got the best and worst too, inside your liveline. So has Art of every kind found a place to start and stay (most of the time) and express but also facist minds got a starting and melting point in you. Oh two world wars and a wall in the middle and around your town have cross your heart for a while. 

I can pretty well remember 27 years ago, you were still parted in two we celebrate your 750 birthday and all the kids in the east part had to wear something traditional from Berlin- meaning being a shoemaker boy or a flower girl and like that. We did remember your past from the 1900 till 1930... mostly...
Yes. How crazy life can be with you and how challenging for every town in the world. Oh you had first just as every city one big centrum and then two- now you have three and actually no real one and above all this you have with the Potsdamer Platz kind of a town in a town. 
Always changing your way of being but actually you stood the line as you where a town not for everyone but the outsiders and creative people in good and bad. 

So just now I fear you could just for a moment forget about this, about you as you have become bit too cheap and a bit to much for everyone. 
But chances are on all your ways and you got a lot of people who actually care about you and remember that you never need to be a town like the others. Be special, be love, be creative, be one of it's kind and by the way- you don't need to compare yourself to other towns as it was never in your blood. You'll never be Paris and London or New York and why should you. You are a big dame, but a very special and very big dame. No lady at all but you can be smart if you want and be nice too-  o.k. maybe your kind of a funny girl and sometimes lady too. 
Berlin, your green, so green and have so much space that no one ever needs to feel spaceless. 
Which most of your people really do appreciate. And so most of us are quite happy that you have stopped going faster. It does not do good for you. 
But now... it is much fun being with you, all the culture, clubs and stores, all the possibilities to have a family and meet friends, all the coffee shops and nice places we can walk, your TV- tower and Funk- tower, your parks and hills and oh your old and new houses and yes all the not so nice buildings too, your art scene and music scene is splending and you give so much creative impulse that it is a gift for us. My dear thank you for so much and much more in good ways and things, even though we sometimes forget it and are overshadows of fear and dark nights and crime as it is a big town with problems as many towns have. 

Berlin I toast to you as you gave me a place to grow and find people I will never miss and also people who in their way thought me a lesson or two. Thank you for teaching me to fight in all ways and also for trying all the way I want to. Yes, Berlin you have in Germany the most start ups who succee and you are a place to try without fear whatever it may be a man is curious about. Thought some people do this without a look of what they do to others. But my dear I thank you for always show us the light if we fear the dark. And for myself the tv-tower should stand as long as possible, because it is a fixing point and a sign of hope and orientation. Stand tall and be proud and be real, but most of all be Love.
Berlin is Love and so Berlin loves you!
Happy Birthday!
 

                                Love & Light

Let's talk about Cancer

Let's talk about cancer as it is the month of breast cancer. 

Breast cancer is one of the most cancer forms at women, but men can get it too. 

Well, today we gotta talk about more then breast cancer, because cancer is one of the most common diseases we know in the western world. It is seldom that you won't know someone who has it or had it, no matter how lucky they were in the end. 

Cancer is also called the king of all diseases. This meaning is to take for a much bigger picture you should have when you talk about this illness. The bigger picture includes the pharmacy, the doctors, the family, the economic, the image one gets and so on... For many people cancer is hell and one of the worst things in life and for others this is pure joy and happiness. It is therefore clear that the happy part is more to find on the science side and the pharmacy industry. The big "C" is almost mad of fear. Fear is leading the information the most gets about cancer. Fear is what most have when they think about it. We fear to get it, to have it and to die from it. This is a politic the pharamcy has driven very well the last 50 till 60 years. It helps to rais mony, it helps to make people make speeding up in their decisions as this means mostly that they don't take the time to think about what is the best treatment to their own cancer form. Fear leads also to the point that most ignore as long as they can the danger some things include. In our everyday live we are used to many things and we know much more often that we should better not ignore when something is bad for our health. Starting with our food, then go on with our drugs, but then again all the chemical things we surround us with, all the dangerous stuff in the earth or nearby or at work. 

In that case isn't it interessting that the pharmaceutical industry and politic has easy to connect things to cancer but when it comes to pay for it, then they try everything to tell us, that it was not because of them and the way they treated us. 

But how can this fight be so heard to get justice? It is just because we don't really kow everything about the reason why we get cancer and why not. Most of us surely know that smoking can lead to cancer, even snus -the scandinavian version of taking tabac-. Mostly we don't like to think that it is more then that. Because it is also what you eat, how you work and liv, how you think, what you drink and what your gene tells you. But surely we have to discover a lot more. So money is needed they say and I say I am not that sure for the med is expencive and the pharmaceutical lobby has got more then much money to fight cancer but wait, after all the years their must be some success and there is but not that much as it could be although it should be because if you start searching the internet and going deeper into the world of cancer you will discover that many treats are hidden. Meaning, we could help more and better if the pharmaceutical industry and the doctors would not prefer money. Sadly this is very true as I hear and see it again and again and here we come back to just breast cancer. 

Oh what the doctor will tell you can be much you have to go through but do you need it? 

Here we are! Far to less people ask an other doctor for advise. Far to many ask a thirth one. But you should and of course never tell them what the other said. You should and will be therfore surprised how different the advises are. It actually does not need to be a most radical cure. It can be saver, better, smaller. Including the alternative medicine. Actually science shows since years that one treatment in time after the next is better then all together. Mostly and operation will be part of it when it is about breast cancer. Then comes the well know chemo but some may tell you that a radiotherapy must be done to which is as far as I know since the '90tees not helping more or making it better. 

As for the other cancer forms it should be clear said that an operation is not always the best way or the only opinion. But be sure if you feel like that, take a look at the alternative medicine too. Not as the only cure but as something to strongen your body. A mix of both, the western way and eastern way of cure is mostly to recommend. Because a therapy is always a fight, a heavy thing and you need something which helps your body and soul to recover. Here the "alternative" medicine is very helpful as it also includes meditation and other simple tings. Give it a try if you can.

Now I am pretty sure you will be confused. That is o.k. and the leading rule in cancer is above all: take your time to get to know the treats and then decide from inside yourself, from your heart, yes shut the mind and feel. This way it is always the right one and no one can tell you better then you yourself. Whatever way you choose, no one has the right to blame you for something. And as for the reason why you've got it is the best advise to let this go and wonder where you've got it because the part of the body which got it says something about the theme you should work with. And yes after all the helping hands you will get, you can help yourself most by being positive and find things to laugh about and work with yourself- work it out -meaning this: look at yourself, what are the so called weak parts and actions, your fears and so on... change the attitude and the way you look on things and after all take your time. You may feel god after the first therapy and your body may seems alright again, your soul will mostly need a longer time and actually your body too. No one can say how long you should take your time to recover but as I experienced far to often, many go back to work and doing things to early. 

And there is another thing. Life does not necessarily change in a big way. Mostly it will go on as before and therefore it is important to keep going on with the things you want and need to change. This can take more time then you ever thought of. 

But how to avoid getting cancer? Can you avoid it. Can you take the walk around it and stay healthy? Actually there is no guaranty. But you can try to live healthy and remember what you have learned and read, but also you can go to all the checkups. And take a look at yourself once in a while. Touch your breast and feel after changes. Test your armpits and feel your lymph. Have they become bigger, harder? Test your testicle while you shower. Do you feel something different as before? Know that cancer is typical here for young men and you don't have to be 40 or 50 or older.  Go to the Colonoscopy and  watch your hole skin top to bottom. Let friends help you to check your back if you can't watch it self. 
You see, there are many things you can do and hope of course is never wrong and always to remember to liv your life as much the way you want it. 
Life is not about how long you live, it is about what you do and the way you do.

Because after all no cancer form has really an age limit. 

With this I leave you to a new week and bless you and send you all my-->

LOVE & LIGHT

once there was a question....

-Is Money important?

Yes and No

It depends on the way you look on it.

-Is knowledge important?

Yes and No

It depends on the way you use it.

-Is Love important?

Yes and No

It depends on the way you understand it.

-So Love is not important?

All I say is, it is the way you understand it.

Love is a concept. Love is a feeling. Love is spiritual and Love is a picture.

We love the Love.

We love the picture of Love.

But is Love important?

Does Love really exist?

How do you know it?

-So Love does not exist?

...

-So if not- but sex exists?

What sex do you mean?

-The one act two people can have.

Sex is a concept, sex is a chemical reaction, a physical attraction and sex is a spiritual thing. Does this mean it exists?

How do I know it when I even don’t know if you understand the same as I?

How do I know what you think and see if you are never in my mind?

All I see is my reality and there I can believe you talk the same way I do, but I will never know.

It is like the universe, which has no end and no beginning.

A concept we will never understand. Cos everything is in the same time and so it is in existence and not even existing.

But even so I will never know if you have the same understanding of this as I.

In my imagination I hope we have the similar reality.

There things can exist and be important but even so it is not existing.

Cos it can’t be and therefore it can.

So does Love exist?

It is the way you understand it.

Is Love important?

Yes and No.

-Is then our live important?

Yes and No.

It depends on how you see on it.

Live is inside you and around you.

Live is a concept and a biochemical reaction.

Live is a creation and a logical reaction.

Live is what we believe to see.

But is live important? To whom?

If we don’t exist and then exist in the same time.

How can it be important? How can’t it be?

So it’s the way you see.

 LOVE & LIGHT

International day of Kiss

Seems it's long, long time ago I wrote something here in my blog, but you know me, I only write if I feel it's right. Actually I had not much time and too much going on in my mind and life to write something good, but while the most now will write about soccer I think it's quite a good change to write about the actual day of kiss. Of course the day is made up by a bunch of guys while they took a beer or two and no one really knows why they made it up and what it is about.
It's sure not political reason, although a kiss is more then just a kiss, while I think it should be. 
In fact there are countries where you not kiss in open places and just remember not long ago in movies a kiss was seldom or if there was one it never where shown right or face to face. A kiss was in fact something very offensive and had the meaning of being a sexual slut. And still in some countries a kiss is more then that. It stands for a life you choose to live and I don't mean your sexual orientation. An open kiss in countries where homosexual can be harmed is a choice you make. The choice to be yourself and show who you are. Or where women have next to no rights. So they show, that they are a human who has the same rights like each of us should have. 
Then a kiss is of course different in it's interpretations. It can be friendly, show love, show kindness, be a sign of protest, be a sign of seduction, be an affront or be a candy and so on. And then a kiss is for most women more then just too lips meeting each other, while for many man kissing a stranger is nothing special. For most men it is just a kiss to heat up, sometimes just to get an erection, some times to show domination, some times just part of a conversation. But society have been teaching women since a long time that a kiss stands for love. Only love. Kissing for fun is still therefore an exception. 
Oh yes, a kiss on the neck is different to a kiss on the forehead, and different to a kiss on the hand. We kiss much in our live. Mostly of different kinds of love. Family, friends and society- all there you can find a kiss on the way. Political kiss while the cold war or the high society kiss check to check, the friendly kiss to a grandmother and the good bye kiss to a child, before it goes to school. But the latter is quite also kind of a modern thing. To kiss your child as children were long seen as little adults and never have been touched that way by parents. Oh there are still sects who forbid the first contacts with a baby after birth and also the kiss on the head or the hand to say hello my newborn. 
But as we are on children- here we have also unwelcome kisses. Kisses grown people are giving to children without the permission of them, without asking them or even the parents when it is just a hello kiss. But you know what I mean. So many children have to stand out sexual harassment. (And even adults get kisses from people against their will.)It's a awful thing, getting parts of the body kissed where an adult never should put his lips on. No matter if it's a stranger, someone from the family or the parents
But Allah's not every kiss from a a parent to a child is sexual abuse. That strange fear must gone too. How can a loving mother not give a kiss to his little child. 

The "Kiss" is usually a positive word and that's why the advertising campaigns use the kiss, or the idea of a kiss or just the image of a kissing mouth like Kylie used it for her CD. But here we see that the kiss is also a sexual thing, although it's more an erotic and sensitive thing. But the kiss is just the next step from our time we fed each other. Like animals still do with their babies. So it's kind of complex. 

But now, let's take another look on "The Kiss".
Few can kiss real good from the start. It is a thing to learn and train. The kiss you give your love. 
Oh what I've been through! Some kiss like a machine. Always the same way, always the same rhythm. 
Like a clock. Some tried to bite me, although I think that was not the idea. Some could not even move their lips. Some kiss like you have an illness and call it passion. Some opened their mouth and I was afraid to fall in. A kiss is lips to lips not a big gab, a big hole to a head. I don't want to dive into your stomach. If I wanted, I had better things to dive in. 
Saliva. Yes it's natural to have some in your mouth but be kind and don't forget to swallow it. If I want to take a bath, I take the tub. 
A tongue. Is an organ you can use, but use it gently not like a drilling machine or a hammer. And please don't start with the tongue play and please don't try to lick my face before I am getting warm in my passion for you. 
Sometimes I only get the big, big tongue and wonder how this is a kiss. Where have those people learn this? Porn? 
And yes sometimes -I confess- my kisses are called Jackhammer kisses, because my passion presses me into you. I've learned to let this go... more or lesson. But surly I don't start with a cold start kiss... 
What more? It's always good to have a fresh breath, but better brush your teeth not the minute before you'll kiss or take a bubble gum just before it, If I wanted a fresh bomb in my mouth, I do it by myself. Thanks. But I do wonder, in some movies you see the actors brushing their teeth and then the partner or lover comes into the bathroom and start kissing. I mean their not even finished and spat the toothpaste. I always think -those poor actors. Must be more disgusting then making a sex scene. But do people actually do this? 

But at least... I mean , when it is about kissing, start gently, just lips to lips and then go on. Smell each other and see each other, kiss other parts of the face, play and gently start taking the tongue, then go back to just kiss, but with a little pressing and feeling and passion and so on.... Take your time and try. Try different positions, different times of the day. Wake you man in the morning with a surprise kiss, softly, gently, but full of love and passion. Sometimes a puff of a kiss is more then all the big screen kisses you know. 
Isn't it crazy how much you can write about a kiss. Just a kiss. A thing which can give love, make people jealous, can keep peace of two countries or get you killed by the mob, can save your life and also change it. 
So can mankind survive without a kiss?
Think about it. 

Love & Light

Equality

When I think about equality, you may say that we have come far. 
But how far have we actually come?
To be true - not that far we should have reached. 
Thought we talk and write about this not just since a couple of years. We do this already quite a very long time. 
I mean let's take a closer look at it and start with, let's say Shakespeare. 
Mostly nowadays we can say we don't call our man next door our enemy. Mostly?
There may be some places where you can be sure, each and everyone is accepting one another. But there is no country in the world where we can't find someone who will takes his neighbor and call him a devil. And still we kill each other for we are not the same clan and still people fall in love with another and take a risk of getting killed or if they are lucky being just an outcast. 
So not so far with equality with our neighbors and people in town. 

Next try.... Marriage. Absolutely the same problem. We still have arranged marriage. We still have women who are not allowed to talk about who they are able to marry. We still make a difference of each other marriages. Still we say those are better then this and their have a less worth marriage. Still not everyone is allowed to marry. Still in many countries women lose practically with a marriage all her rights. Still in all countries most man and women are not having the same rights as marriage partners. It's still the man who says what is allowed and what all have to do. Still we make the thought a living that women have to stay home. 
Although in many countries partners have become more equal and both part of a marriage do the household, take the children and care for grandparents. Yes in some countries women can take the clothes they want. Women can have their own opinion. That's good. We are all the same stupid or smart. We are all capable of cherish a child and work for money. But it's a long way for equality. And longer if we think about getting divorced. There is more then less equality in how we treat people after a marriage, how we deal with a separation. No matter what country you're living. 

Another one....? Work: The salary is still a big difference in most jobs between man and women. Women get much less payed for same work. And the politic is not willing to let this change. Not because the common people don't want to. It's the industry who likes this cheap workers. So no equality at all, no matter how much we try to bring it up. A real change is only to get when women start to fight again for the right to get payed the same. As long most of them accept this situation, the industry and politic will keep it the way it is. There is actually no valid reason to stay on this point. The world and the economy will stay alive if women get payed the same.

Well, then man and women are not equal, and so women are still called the weak leak and so the disabled although they can do so much for us, even the homosexual are calling weak, wish is just too stupid, but then we also call people with other skin color weak, not worth the same- still it's a pain in the ass and so, so unbelievable that we keep on telling this to our children. 
The blindness of color should be already clear for all but still some think it's better to be religion blind and political blind and stupid blind to call other people less worth. 
The interesting fact is that the more mixed it is on a place the fewer people think so. 
But it is not only black against white. Which itself is so stupid, because no one is black and no one is white. We are all colored people or have you ever met a man who was really white? No and you will never. So the skin color is just a mix of different lighter or darker parts. 
But then again... it's not only "white" people who say black are less worth. Even dark colored people think so. They want lighter skin, lighter hair color. Even the stars want to be blond instead of taking their own hair color because it can bring more success and would get them more accept on the "white" side. Oh dear! But it's the same with gays who act more conservative and want to assimilate into the heterosexual way or a transwomen who don't accept that a women can have masculine parts. It's an disabled who tells himself he is worth less and so all the others disabled too and so he has not the same rights and must fight for each part of what? 

Can it be in this fight for equality that we are often the enemy ourself... the biggest enemy with our own thoughts? How women treat other women is often more against equality and having a free life an man would do. How once being religion and a believer is more worth then the guy from the church in the next village. How some jews think that in Israel should only live jewish people cos the rest is less worth and not clean- for example. 

Equality is still something we have to achieve. Because we are all worth the same. We are different yes, but the same worth. It starts in our mind. In the way we teach children, in the way we treat each other. In the way we look at each other and at ourself. There is no- but.... you're not less worth because of your education, although people tell you so. 

Let's start thinking about it without being blind because of fear, blind of politic or religion.

Love & Light