There comes the flying nurse

and it seems she is right in time to help you, to take your pain away and make you feel better and so she is away in a second and you wonder how this went, shaking your head to feel clear in mind again. Really- that or like this is what many people experience with the staff. Be it the helping nurse or the nurse who learn three years and has all in mind a doctor has learned too and so are the most of us on one hand grateful for each help and on the other hand unhappy about the narrow corridor of time they have with them and sometimes the feeling of being forgotten strikes into the heart. 

This is everywhere to find, in hospitals, in nursing homes and even when nurses come to your home and house. 

At least most people know the lack of nurses and therefore most of them have the understanding, however do all want the best results in nursing, which politics and organizations always promise. 

But according to the requirements, rules and laws we do not have to less staff. Quite the reverse! The maltreated and harassed staff gets told that they are too many. How come? 

Is it really the staff costs? It is also because social service and other carers are part of the number of staff  which is one of them to count if you have to make sure as a boss how many people are in your boat but those staff actually are not doing the nursing job. 

And then you have to make profit which gets harder every year to achieve. And if you make profit you can't simple give it to the staff as there are not only costs you have to keep in mind, also the owners want a big part of it for their own. Sadly this is a truth and so nursing is not allowed to cost but has to meet the highest standard. An obvious contradiction. Which still is ignored by those who have it most easy to do a change here but they are in no danger of a bad nursing for them self. 

But the guilt can be pushed not only on politics. Far to many participant have done far to many missteps  but non of them really wants to admit it and even less wants to change this situation and do better and stop the wrong ways we started. 

What good is it then to me to hear that you have such a respect for the work if those words are just empty phrases. It only does one thing to the staff- it puts all the charge to them.

No wonder that the stuff is tired to be praised and in the same time to be disregarded. 

But yes the staff itself has to free themselves from the clutches of their own and the moral gudgel and has to understand there is only one way of making a pressure. Care must be able to cost! Care needs staff. Care needs time. And therefore must we go on the streets and let the affected feel how much they are in need of nurses. A hospitals heart is the nursing staff and the brain the doctors. But the mistake of a doctor can be removed from the staff but not the other way round.

A nursing home cannot guarantee human dignity if you have staff missing or to less educated staff. Quality needs education and the opportunity to practice what you have learned at school and not be misused as a worker when you are just a trainee. 

There are webpages who tells you like 20 reason why you must love a nurse and it is sure a way to give this job a positive attitude and image but far to many nurses are simple hopeless and damaged and disillusion leads the way because the employer simple don't give a shit on how they feel and what they need. 

It has a reason why some houses, hospitals have not a good name but unfortunately as a consumer you have to search the web to get the truth and the right information or have to ask friends which house and hospital is to recommend. 

Yes, the most nurses walk their feet of and have a hard time pressure but try to be patient, thought many do not have it and mostly not with themselves. They forget to eat and make their breaks. They avoid the toilet even thought the bladder is screaming but they have no time. They don't watch their own health, even thought they see each they what danger it brings and I know very well that it is a truth that after 15 years in that area there is no one without (little) pain. (If they make it that long) As much a nurse can be a pain in the as for others, they bear it without a blink of an eye. They have understanding most the time and sometimes so less and must always meet the high expectations of others. And then they hear since ten years or more that it will get better and only experience the opposite. 

More salary is a dream most have given up and just want more staff they don't get. But we have to pay more. This work is managing all situation, being always in time, knowing what to do and take to improvisation and multitasking. 

But contrary to one may think there are not to less nurses out there, it is just that the most have left the job for good. We have a gap between the age of 35 and 50 which is a big problem as those are the one to help the older colleague and give strength to the younger. 

Another problem is that the younger no longer have the luck to really practice the theory as they should and many of them have not the same work ethic as the older one and then many young people are much into ipad instead of lay down a people into bed. All work has to be fun nowadays otherwise they try to avoid and say no. The job as a nurse also needs strong nerves and many young people don't even bring the prerequisites.

Here the society has to ask itself what they teach the young people, our future. What understanding of work, life and quality, of responsibility do we teach them?!

So lets all together finally go on the street and fight for better conditions as even a nurse has the right to human dignity, but it is also your own future and way of getting care. Politic has to find a way to pay for it and make sure it is not only that people have to pay more and more and get less. 

Do it always with LOVE & LIGHT in your heart!

To find a job in another country

You maybe have read that I have come to Sweden and am actually working here but how did I do this and why in the world Sweden? 
Well, first of all, the love to this country became slowly bigger with the years I was visiting this country and my friends I have there and got over the years- so each year a new one- kind of. 
It was one day that I came out of the plane and breath the air and the first though was - home- in swedish. That was the moment I knew I will try it but before I cold look out for a job I had to learn the language. 
It took me three years to be ready and this is something all should think about before moving to another country. Because most jobs need you to talk to and the understanding of people. So you need to be able to talk about minimum 1000 words and to understand about 3000.  Sounds not much but in our every day life we use about 300- 400 different words. 
So three years is a realistic plan before you actually start for seeking a job. 
Well, some jobs do not need that much knowledge but be aware that the language is most important if you will succeed. Because after all you will need people and friends around you who can tell you things you never learn from a book, you'll never watch on TV. In time of Facebook it is a good thing also to search for people to get to know from  the country you want to move to, because they can help you with ideas where to look out for a job. It's very different from country to country so look out for that at home, on the internet, on the webpages of the town you want to move to or from the country. Those webpages use to have good advice where and how to search for job and what you need. 
Now back to my own journey. After three years, I searched for job and this was about to find a summer job, which means you just work a couple of months while others have holiday. This is a good chance to test and start a life in another country.
And while many will give up everything home, I did not gave up my flat, which was very good although I rented it to the wrong people and could have payed the same if the flat was not rented. But so is life and I can now recommend only to rent to friends or take an rent office to help you and make sure you get the right people. 
So I started my work in a little town in south Sweden which is around 2,5 hour away from Gothenburg.
This is something you should think about too. Start somewhere if able and see how it goes and if you start in a small town then you have also the chance to see if you can get through times with not much going on around you. Usually after the first job it is easy to get a job for a longer time or the next job for a couple of months. But as it is these days, maybe you have to go home and work there again and then try another time again in another town. So don't have to much baggage with you. 
How to send an application? This is something you should find out first after learning the language. For it is also a very different thing from country to country. In Sweden most job are to find on the internet and you send you interest per e-mail. And always write in the language of the country but be sure you can speak the way you write. They expect you to be that good what they read. 
Next thing is of course to make sure that your certificate is valid in the new country or you have the version you need. Make sure they except your education. And find out what is different from the way you work in your country and the way you do the same job in the new homeland, because this will be one of the questions when you have your interview. 

Now this time I had not only the luck of a short searching time (last time it took me next to a half year) I also knew where to search for job because I had already the plan to stay for longer then just three, four months. So I searched in Gothenburg, Stockholm and Borås, which is an hour away from Gothenburg. 
So the pics you see in the end of this blog are all from Borås, a very nice but little town not far away and because I trained my swedish all the years I could vote for the job I thought was best for me and the future here in Sweden. 

So... Be positive and have many good reasons why you want to work on the new place and what makes you able to work there. Some jobs are more easy to get as others but never forget after all no one needs you, so make them needing you. :-)
And then, three years is also a good time to collect some money on your bank. You will surly need it. It is never cheap to move and search for a new job, new home and new friends. 

And if you have all this ... well don't be shy to speak and tell people to correct you if you speak wrong or use words which are right but don't fit in. Even say thank you as much as you can and show them that you understood what they said. That way they trust you more and will also be more sure about you, because after all the most care about you. 

See, this does not sound too bad, doesn't it. It's like with so many things in life, be free to do what you want, but try to be smart with that, because success will be more able that way. And of course you have to want it in your heart and take it in the same time easy as possible, because your luck does never depend on the way you planed it, it depends on the way you think.

So think positive and take it as it comes. Even know you'll be afraid or feel this little fair in the back of your heart. It is always worth it. As long you are open for every test, you'll get through it.

LOVE & LIGHT

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Violence in nursing

Guess you have heard or read about this already... isn't it scary? Should never be but happens all the time and more then we think and believe.. not only at home when a daughter is psychologically harm her mother just with words and look. Most time we hear about this sad thing when they came to happen in nursing homes, where old people try to stay as good as they can till death comes and takes them home to heaven or so... No excuses... this should be or is the thinking of the most, but is it so easy? 
As a nurse do I know that one time, all of us nurses meet a patient, a old people who makes us angry and we have to fight hard not to harm them... you wonder why... well sometimes there seems no reason just... a feeling you get when you see someone.. like on the street, when you meet someone you directly know you don't like him... but on the street you can go on, change the sides..like that but when you are a nurse.. officially everyone has to be treat equal... no matter if you like him or her or not... well that's a god point and important to remember and keep in mind...  but actually in real life a big challenge sometimes... because those people you nursing are very near to you, not only physically also .. you know.. they come in your private zone... it's not comfortable to let in someone you don't want to, but we have to, it's part of the job.

But then... there is another side to look at...
What brings staff to harm someone, they never thought would do...
Those old people can act like children.. they can be lazy, don't listen to what you say or explain, can be stubborn, can lie to you, be mad at you without a reason, be offended because they have to do something they can but are to lazy to do... they can be dissatisfied with themselves but instead of seeing this they curse on you... and then you have not much time to work for them but some of them just "need" much more time then they really need -to do the things they have to do, but just because they feel like that... Or you try to give them positive advice but they refuse to take it, or you try to build them up, but they don't give a fuck about that... and all the sexual harassment you get of them... some know very well what they do (and I don't say it's a lie that old people have their needs but then... we are not family, not a friend or a lover for them... ).... yes the older they are the madder it can get.. Man and Woman, no difference... clapping, shouting, flirting, try to get a kiss from you, touching in every way they can... yes they try to touch your ass, your boobs.. or more intimate places... 
A lot to deal with and then too less time, to less stuff.... No wonder that it happens from time to time those sadly things, that people get harmed... sure no one wants that... but as long no one is fighting for a better healthcare, better pay for nurses, more stuff ... that long do we have to read about this...
What you think? Won't you start with talkin' to others about that and help the staff? What do you want when you are old..? How do you think should we deal with this? Will you help?

Love & Light can help... but there's more to do than getting this from me... what you give? What you are ready for?