There comes the flying nurse

and it seems she is right in time to help you, to take your pain away and make you feel better and so she is away in a second and you wonder how this went, shaking your head to feel clear in mind again. Really- that or like this is what many people experience with the staff. Be it the helping nurse or the nurse who learn three years and has all in mind a doctor has learned too and so are the most of us on one hand grateful for each help and on the other hand unhappy about the narrow corridor of time they have with them and sometimes the feeling of being forgotten strikes into the heart. 

This is everywhere to find, in hospitals, in nursing homes and even when nurses come to your home and house. 

At least most people know the lack of nurses and therefore most of them have the understanding, however do all want the best results in nursing, which politics and organizations always promise. 

But according to the requirements, rules and laws we do not have to less staff. Quite the reverse! The maltreated and harassed staff gets told that they are too many. How come? 

Is it really the staff costs? It is also because social service and other carers are part of the number of staff  which is one of them to count if you have to make sure as a boss how many people are in your boat but those staff actually are not doing the nursing job. 

And then you have to make profit which gets harder every year to achieve. And if you make profit you can't simple give it to the staff as there are not only costs you have to keep in mind, also the owners want a big part of it for their own. Sadly this is a truth and so nursing is not allowed to cost but has to meet the highest standard. An obvious contradiction. Which still is ignored by those who have it most easy to do a change here but they are in no danger of a bad nursing for them self. 

But the guilt can be pushed not only on politics. Far to many participant have done far to many missteps  but non of them really wants to admit it and even less wants to change this situation and do better and stop the wrong ways we started. 

What good is it then to me to hear that you have such a respect for the work if those words are just empty phrases. It only does one thing to the staff- it puts all the charge to them.

No wonder that the stuff is tired to be praised and in the same time to be disregarded. 

But yes the staff itself has to free themselves from the clutches of their own and the moral gudgel and has to understand there is only one way of making a pressure. Care must be able to cost! Care needs staff. Care needs time. And therefore must we go on the streets and let the affected feel how much they are in need of nurses. A hospitals heart is the nursing staff and the brain the doctors. But the mistake of a doctor can be removed from the staff but not the other way round.

A nursing home cannot guarantee human dignity if you have staff missing or to less educated staff. Quality needs education and the opportunity to practice what you have learned at school and not be misused as a worker when you are just a trainee. 

There are webpages who tells you like 20 reason why you must love a nurse and it is sure a way to give this job a positive attitude and image but far to many nurses are simple hopeless and damaged and disillusion leads the way because the employer simple don't give a shit on how they feel and what they need. 

It has a reason why some houses, hospitals have not a good name but unfortunately as a consumer you have to search the web to get the truth and the right information or have to ask friends which house and hospital is to recommend. 

Yes, the most nurses walk their feet of and have a hard time pressure but try to be patient, thought many do not have it and mostly not with themselves. They forget to eat and make their breaks. They avoid the toilet even thought the bladder is screaming but they have no time. They don't watch their own health, even thought they see each they what danger it brings and I know very well that it is a truth that after 15 years in that area there is no one without (little) pain. (If they make it that long) As much a nurse can be a pain in the as for others, they bear it without a blink of an eye. They have understanding most the time and sometimes so less and must always meet the high expectations of others. And then they hear since ten years or more that it will get better and only experience the opposite. 

More salary is a dream most have given up and just want more staff they don't get. But we have to pay more. This work is managing all situation, being always in time, knowing what to do and take to improvisation and multitasking. 

But contrary to one may think there are not to less nurses out there, it is just that the most have left the job for good. We have a gap between the age of 35 and 50 which is a big problem as those are the one to help the older colleague and give strength to the younger. 

Another problem is that the younger no longer have the luck to really practice the theory as they should and many of them have not the same work ethic as the older one and then many young people are much into ipad instead of lay down a people into bed. All work has to be fun nowadays otherwise they try to avoid and say no. The job as a nurse also needs strong nerves and many young people don't even bring the prerequisites.

Here the society has to ask itself what they teach the young people, our future. What understanding of work, life and quality, of responsibility do we teach them?!

So lets all together finally go on the street and fight for better conditions as even a nurse has the right to human dignity, but it is also your own future and way of getting care. Politic has to find a way to pay for it and make sure it is not only that people have to pay more and more and get less. 

Do it always with LOVE & LIGHT in your heart!

Nate and Margaret - a movie

Another movie to talk about. 
It's quite a different story, although not that unknown. 
What is it about? Somehow two people becoming friends. The young Nate and the lot older Margaret. 
No this is not another version of Harold & Maude.
Hr is a young and open guy, while she is a little prude and closed. She tries to be an easy person and is doing stand up comedy. 
They talk about everything and go together out, as Nate doesn't care about what other people think of them, not like Margaret who is following but looking around what other may think.
But nevertheless they seem to catch up from time to time and feel good together, have fun and share a lot. Seems they have much in common till one day- and we expect this- something new arrives and their friendship come to a test. Both have to come out of their bubble and shell and so ways getting apart. 
Now you could expect corny story telling or a lot of cliches coming up but this is not happening in this movie. 
The drama is told in a very smooth and soft way, although it is not like touching it like it is a vulnerably thing. The fun comes often unexpected and is kind of gentle. 
So it is not a loud movie and will not bring you to tears without end, but you want to follow the story to the end, knowing how they cope. 
Cose you see in some ways yourself, your own mistakes and stupid acting you do sometimes. You hope there is a way out and you know their can be. 
Well, this movie is one of those you will like watching, and afterwards you will think a bit about it. Not bad for a movie, as we have a lot where you feel nothing at all afterwards. 
Thought it's not a magic and magnificent film you will watch. Yes best to watch it with friends, maybe your best friends. 
If I had to rate it would be 4 of 5 stars... 

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Männer al dente- a movie

A film by Ferzan Ozeptek. This man is known for good films. That is for sure. I saw the movie in Sweden thanks to a friend and now found out the german title. Actually the original title is "me vaganti". And I must admit the swedish film company knew the better words for the german name is quite not what the film is about but so they ad a view words which tell you more about the theme.
So what is it about? A family in Italy who owns a big pasta company and the story takes place in a time when the father of all wants to give it to his sons. But those guys have another idea of what to do with their lives. Although this film starts with the story of the grandmother, but don't be afraid... you won't get bored. The youngest son Tommaso wants to tell the family that he wants to step out of the way they have planed but his older brother gets in the way. Now the carousel is starting to turn again but with different solutions. The turnings in the story are just amazing. Part of the story is told as a reminder of the memories of the grandmother. But I have to say that it all works for me. I never lost the path and loved all the little ideas they had while making the movie. 

And then we have the young women who becomes a partner in crime. She also is a story in a story, but fits in so smart, that you dare not to tell it. 
It's a comedy but you will cry too. The drama is near the laugh and it's about the fact, that every moment is the right moment to get happy. A comedy al Italia they say it is. Yes this is very much like it. It also is a movie about Italy and the way they live, act and think. Family is of course always included. 
A family movie? Yes it is! But also does this movie make you think of holiday in summer, maybe Italy. Cos the colors you watch are so warm and the story goes on right straight into your hearth. 108 minutes of fun and drama awaits you. With or without noodles, you'll will have a good time. 

LOVE & LIGHT

Young Adults- a movie

Young Adults a comedy with Charlize Theron,
which is about a young women, a writer of books for young teens, called young adults, who drives back to her hometown to catch up an old love , like Julia Roberts years ago in "My best friends wedding". Only here she is not only much too late, cos her love is already married and has a baby child, she also discover that she has to take her own life in her hands cos she does not really know what to do with herself. So far the story is not really new, but has the potential to be a funny and amusing movie at the end, but I must say, I was never so disappointed about a movie then this time. Maybe two or three times I found it funny. The rest was just without any fantasy, boring and the acting was bad as it could be. The time was not worth watching it and I had trouble to stay on the way till the end. So the critics on the DVD where much to good to be true. 
Clearly this will be another movie I can tell you won't miss, if you never take him into your hands.

LOVE & LIGHT

La Mission- Die Mission--- a movie

Auch dieser Beitrag handelt von einem Film. "La Mission" im Original und man ist nicht schlecht erstaunt Benjamin Bratt in der Hauptrolle darin zu finden. Einem Schauspieler, der weniger für ernste und grossartige Schauspielerei bekannt ist. Da er eher noch als der Anhang zu starken Filmfrauen, wie Sandra Bullock in "Miss Andercover" unter Anderem in Erinnerung blieb.
In "Die Mission" spielt er einen alleinerziehenden Familienvater, ehemaliger Krimineller, der sich als Busfahrer seinen Lebensunterhalt verdient und seine Wurzeln in Mexiko hat. 
Der Film lief bei uns nie im Kino, wohl auch, weil er sich nicht so recht einordnen lässt, denn er ist weder ein reiner Vater/ Sohn Film, noch ein Gangster Film, oder gar ein Film alleine über die Latinos in Amerika und deren Leben. Auch ist es kein Film über die Liebesgeschichte seines Sohnes oder seiner eigenen vergangenen und neuen Lieben. 
Der Film scheint vordergründig kein Glamour zu haben und doch strahlt er, ist bunt, aber schlüssig, wenn auch in ein, zwei Szenen ein wenig zu schnell die Story voran getrieben wurde. 
Der Rhythmus ist eher gemütlich zu verfolgen, mit kurzen Episoden, die alles ein wenig wieder in Schwung bringen. Das normale Leben, wie das Drama das sich zwischenzeitlich ereignet wird ohne grosse Aufregung erzählt und doch sitzt man mit Spannung dabei und erfährt von all den Themen, die ich oben genannt habe, weshalb sich der Film nicht einordnen lässt, aber interessant bleibt. Auch wenn der Film wohl zuerst unter der Kateorie "Film mit schwulem Inhalt" läuft, so ist er doch alles andere als ein "Schwulen Film", wenn man so will. Die Tatsache, das sein Sohn schwul ist und einen Freund hat wird angenehm zurückhaltend dargestellt, aber bleibt dabei glaubwürdig und nachvollziehbar. 
Haupt- und Drehpunkt des Films aber ist der Vater- seine Entwicklung, von Benjamin Bratt sehr gut und mit vollem Einsatz gespielt, so das man seine Meinung revidieren muss, ganz zwangsläufig und ihm mehr solcher guten Rollen wünscht, an denen er wachsen kann und zeigen kann, das es sich lohnt, ihn beim Spiel zu beobachten. 
Schlussendlich, auch hier ein Film, der herausfordert, aber gut an einem Sommerabend alleine, zu Zweit oder zu Zehnt anzusehen ist.

 
Licht & Liebe
 

Is the Model World going to far?

Not long a go I saw a documentation about finding new model girls in Russia.

What I saw was kind of strange and on the other side a thing I no longer wonder about.

Let's look around, doesn't the models become younger and younger? Thinner and thinner?

How can this be nice? How can this be happen?

We see, still, see thin models on the catwalk, after all the talking about that there should be a change, but why is the change not really comin'?

Well first you must know it is more easy to sew a dress for a model without curves and then the Designers had to create 4 Seasons now... two more than in the past. So not much time to do and it should be sheep to made, but still expensive to sell.

With all the plastic surgeries it is not so hard to show some breast which seems to be a curvy girl must have but also the thin... sometimes... The most are flat, but also very young.. so not really finished in their physical development.

The dream of being rich, or being a super model still is alive, but the truth is-it's a lot of work, not that much money and a short time to have a carrier like this.

And then there are those who started so young, even not knowing them self.

So young, that they are blinded by the light of money, not lookin' what the contract is or what they must offer.

Back to the documentation. The Model -Scout was a woman who once was a young girl, looking for a job as a model, because the dream of coming out of a little village, poor and no hope of a rich live, but knowing out there is so much to buy, to see, to marry...etc.

This girl have had a little success and then changed to be a scout- decided to be free, her own master and live in her own time. So far this sounds god and she actually has a lot of money to live in a house in the USA.

The girls who tries to be the same like her years later don't know that, they all think:" I wanna be a star, a big model.. wanna be rich". So they go to these scouts, who travel every year for new and young girls and spending all the money they have to reach them, to get to be a superstar.

If the lucky once got a job in Asia, they gonna move from home, alone, flying the first time- and yet alone and arriving a country they never where before, which language they can't speak and NO ONE is waiting for them! Alone and with the first frustration they try to find the place to stay... in China or Japan 'cos the girls never work in Russia. What a start into the live of adults, not even being 14 years old. The most girls are actually only 13 or have had the 14. birthday.

But all girls must say when they go to a casting that they are 15 or 16 years old...it's because under the age of 15 they are officially not allowed to work, but we know the model business is all but true...it's a big lie. Why do they want the models so young? First because of the contracts... this is really a shame for all those people who work with the girls there and here- just to remind you all the "next big super model shows" have contracts with a lot of rules which are against the law. Anyway...

They want the girls young because of the sexuality. A virgin must it be, to sell Sex. And because the girls can have children more and more earlier, the models have to be younger then ever... and then they are thin and easy to lie too.... You know, the contracts guarantee an income of 8000 Dollar a year... which is very much for the girls. But many times they get cheated... 'cos they can make pics from them and sell them without telling the girls, and so they think.. bad luck got no job.... and then the contracts can change in every way so they can send the girls back and tell them they had to pay 2000 Dollar when they home to the agency. The parents seems never to read the contracts and most time they are not able to read them so they believe what those scouts tell them... in lovely words and so did the women too.

She seems not too get it or seems to hide it from herself, that the girls are lost, need help and really a good advise, but it's her money and so she is going on telling like this is something which not exist... but then she says:"oh sometimes the girls work as Escorts or hookers, but that is not her responsible...". She is talkin' with the girls as they where happy and all is going fine.. she should know better, 'cos she told the same story about her being a young girl without any help in a foreign world.

But back to our own homes.... The press has already written about the Shows "Next Super Model" and the contracts, but the success is going on and the parents are signing the contracts without askin' or even reading it through. Seems that the warnin' is never going to those who should know about it.

Also all the talkin' of the computer work on the pics... the girls never look like this. Thin yes, but never so lovely... so much make over... no wonder that the boys and girls today have a badder a lower self-confidence than the generation before them. Seems that they are only allowed to be thin as able or they get thick.

Isn't this scary?

Last year I saw a promotional poster of a big store where the models where so thin, that even the make over did not make them more than "a hungry something" and this is what they tell the kids is beauty...!

Should we be lucky that sport is becoming more important again? That the schools are starting to think about the right food?

Yes I am but also I think we should talk about that with our children more and earlier in their age. And yes the Stars should talk more and more often about the truth of makin' over.

But will a money horny Heidi Klum do this. A women who lies in her Show about the truth of the Model World even knowing that non of her girls will be a super model, not if they stay in her world and the contracts they have signed?

So- is the Model World - the business with girls gone too far? Yes far to long did it went and what can we do? How to stop it, when even press warnin' does not help? Is it enough to talk in schools and at home about this crazy world? I hope so.. I hope this will be more a talkin' and a beginning of real changing... but maybe also to tell the designers to change the use of model type?!.

Well on Facebook many have started to post pics which shows thin visus "naturally" women and hopefully men too in the future.. (cos I never saw so much thin boys walkin' around...) and those pics always says no to thin, or super thin or question the reality we seem to have...

So this was my blog for today... hungry? Yeah me too... :-)

LOVE & LIGHT