the difficulties of letting die...

Today it's about dying, more precisely, to practice a gentle dying.

It's always not easy to talk about this and in the western culture people prefer not to talk about it at all until it is absolutely necessary.

Nevertheless, there are well over a million people just in germany- who have dying relatives and to deal with the question what dying with dignity must be. What is allowed? How long do a man has to suffer? What is just pain you really don't need?

The fear of dying is perfectly natural and quite the die also.

But here it is all about the fear of being delivered, and before painful symptoms in the dying phase.

Well, morphine or similar drugs have been proven as a means of pain management now. The fear of addiction goes back slowly, partly because many are aware by now that the drug plays a role not striving.

Even breathlessness relieves Morphine good, instead of producing them. Studies have already demonstrated this. There is even by many the fear of breathlessness, which may increase the fear itself.

The hunger and appetite goes away and does not hurt the body. There is no need for artificial nutrition. On the other side the thirst remains but it is enough to supply the body with a minimum of liquid, otherwise the body is overwhelmed, as in death, the kidneys adjust their work slowly. So water will come into the lungs, when you give more then a bit of water to the dying body. This can bring breathlessness. In addition to giving oxygen often makes no sense, because many have their mouths wide open and so it would drain.

And then the medicine... the most are not absolutely necessary. To much are given for a maybe...

Nevertheless, the question arises again and again. Have Doctors forgotten how to make very elderly people die naturally, as it was earlier but apparently the rule?

In recent decades, doctors have increasingly learned to do everything just what keeps life. It is difficult for them what is called the loving end of life failure to perform.

It's because they feel good with all the helpin' stuff. To not do, this is very hard and a big problem for many. They have learn to save live, no matter what. But they have often forgot to use the human mind and heart inside them self to decide what is right and what is wrong and then everyone wants them to say what to do and what is right or wrong. A big responsibility.

Thank God people begin to wonder whether all this is so true. Because it's like when you at birth: In most cases, it runs best when it is not disturbed from outside. Only a little help is needed. No big circumstances.

So will a living will help to bring more certainty into it? The answer is yes , yes , yes and especially if it is sign from a doctor or lawyer too. Because this is confirming the mental clarity of the affected at the time of signature.

But what else can be done to allow a dignified death?

First, you should discuss it in good times. What I want and what you don't. If the times comes, then it should be free of pain for everyone, and if possible, provide pleasant atmosphere. If anyone is in the final stage, it should always, always be someone there, holding the hand. It soothes and takes away the fear most. You should talk to the dying and allow them to die. Tell them it's alright to go away. To take the next step. It won't hurt. The dead does not hurt.

Much to often we do to much and bring only pain. For what, for maybe, for a few moments more to live. Yes I think when people are old we must learn again that they can die because they are old and don't want to live any more and are tired. They had a life. And when a young man is on the way to die, we should let them. I know it's hard because they are so young sometimes and we think it is not fair. There must be a way. But to keep them alive for each price is not worth the living. Our own fear of dead and die should not make us blind for the reality we have in front of our eyes. If you keep this in mind, you can not fail.

LOVE & LIGHT

MY Marilyn

On August the 5. this year, Marilyn Monroe will be death exact since 50 years.

A very long time and still we see her films, love her pics and talk about her.

The way she died is still a mystery and it doesn't really matter why she dies, but after the last books about her which came out, it seems to be bad luck, an accident like, cos two of her doctors gave her medicine which seemed to have killed her, but anyway... we maybe never knew the hole truth and like i said, it does not really matter now...

I always liked this very special woman. And over the years, the more I got to know about her, the more I love her and what she's done. She really was and is a star, and not only that.... she was much more.... Some people called her a dumb blonde. Still there are some who think she is or better was a stupid girl/ woman. That is for sure untrue... after all the things I have read about her and what she had said... she must have been a smart woman.

Well we all know that she was known for her delay. Mrs. Monroe was late but not out of maliciousness. She once said that she is not to have for drill and discipline. She saw herself as a man, refused to be treated as a machine. She was very nervous and had very high expectations of her own performance. That's why she was often late.

But she was in my eyes an actress, a very good one, a comedienne and had that special gift to shine in every film she was in.

Her voice was special, that was because she acted with her voice because her true speaking voice was not so nice and special. Now we can really call it the Marilyn voice.... it is so special, that no one really can cover.

And the way she moved her mouth and smiled is so special, that you try and try but never come as near as you wish to the way she did it. It seems like a miracle.

And her songs.... she had some very good... sure her soul was not big but she knew how to spell, how to make a song so you want to listen to on and on...

After all she is best known for her acting in front of cameras, she was maybe the only one who knew best to play with to flirt with that medium. Even Madonna, who likes the camera a lot too, does not reach that kind of being in front of a camera.

That was maybe after all learning a gift too.... Oh she was very strict with the selection of images, almost out of her critical uncertainty.

What I like about her is, she never spoke ill of others. She did not care much for money and fame. Most of the money was donated, and she herself had only a comparatively small house. Nevertheless, she had many envious and bloodsuckers too around her and she knew this very well but for a long time she did not know how to get through this and how to deal best with them. Last but not least, the studios made it very difficult to her.

Nevertheless, it was very progressive, likely to be aware of it without realizing it. Ahead of her time. She demanded higher salaries for women, made herself independent with her own production company. Ensured that the actors were not only bound to a studio. Made sure that she could say a word in the publishing rights.

She was always just a Sexsymbol for the studios, never really had the chance to get a role which was bound just to acting. That must have been very difficult for her. But she was more down to earth than many believe... not only did she spend her money and time for children, animals or plants like trees.... She was also very often in the clubs and thought that all people are equal... and so on day she said to a manager of a club for white people, that he has to let Ella Fitzgerald play in his club. If he does, she will be there every night and she was and Ella never had to play in little clubs again and so began the rise of many black Jazz artists and other musicians.

What a smart woman and that was in a time black and white people lived still (in most parts of the USA) separate.

So I think it's very right when a "David Klein Quintet" plays Songs of Marilyn... ...a Jazz album you will like... and of course most of her films are still very much to recommended.

And a new picture book about her has also just appeared, I would definitely call this book as one of the best I've ever seen. The name is Marilyn Monroe- Metamorphosses-Transformations (Marilyn Monroe/ Metamorphosen / Verwandlungen- erschienen im Schiermer Mosel Verlag).

This book not only shows pictures, it also contains the last interview with M.M. and sentences she herself said once or other told about her. Many of the pics you will see the first time and some of them you will know well. It is such a pleasure to go through this book and you once again realize why she is still so popular and lovable.

LOVE & LIGHT

an answer to a question....

....and this question was... what do we do to make the world a better place...?

Are we only talkin' about getting our minds open and clapping to our words?

But yes, we are talkin' about opening our minds, that's true and the beginning of all to get to know to try to understand and change your mind, so you can start change your life.

So I was wondering last as I sat in front of my fireplace. What could be the answer? What can each of us do already?

The first things which came to my mind is the kind of living our life.

Let's start with what we eat....

I try not to eat meat and if then I look where it comes from... best meat is to know the owner, second best is surly to buy it in "Health food" store. Fast high-bred meat is inferior, not even really tastes and is also unhealthy. It makes you aggressive, and the side effect of injected drugs in the flesh can not be underestimated.

So better have only from time to time some meat or sausage.

What is with cheese and eggs, milk products? To reject this, because the conditions are so bad in the factory farming and breeding? Well, here you can try this to get from small farmers. But if this is not able, what then to do...?

Well I think, you can buy them but try to look where the products come from and also try to fight with other people together for better conditions for animals. Also try not to eat so many eggs. Your body can live with this.

Yes, some people say it's better to eat vegan, but I think, this is a luxury the most can't effort. And bye the way, you have to really know what to eat then, because if you eat vegan, you have to be very carful with what you get. I mean, the body used to need something to survive, as long as we don't feed our body with meditation, Yoga or light alone....and as long we do sport, work, we have to eat and drink.

And here we are on our next thing... what do you used to drink? Must it be all those chemical drinks such as cola, mixed drinks, juices from distant lands? What about tea? Water or juice from your own country. You can't live without coffee, o.k. drink it.... but look what coffee you buy! Where is it from, how is it made, and what price do you pay and with that I mean how people must work for your enjoyment, how the nature is treated.

And important, inform yourself necessarily about what's the true path of your meat. Must I do have avocados and mangoes for cheap price and have in abundance?

For e.x. I do not buy any more crabs, because while they will be caught in Norway, but then gets peeled in Pakistan. The environment is seen technically insanity. What a waste of resources!

This is anything but environmentally friendly. Unfortunately, this applies to many of our things we buy. So look, where does it come from or read about it on the internet and investigate. You can also support "Food watch" for helping find out and make people aware what food is good and where does your food come from and how long is the distance to your table and mouth.

I mean, Seafood from China. Does it have to be if you live in Europe? No!

The same thing to do with cloths. We all know the way they are made and often where they come from. So cheap is rarely the best. Buy something rather with good quality, as always buy new. Give the children back again the self-confidence and teaches them the truth that the "it" clothing does not make them stronger, or better.! All those Labels... most of them are cheap made and people having slave like situation for makin' them. So be more aware what you care for! And yes, here you can also help Organizations that care about the rights and conditions of workers. And if you see a film on youtube or elsewhere... show it to your friends, talk about them... make people able to get to know the truth of how your clothing are made.

The first reaction may be- this is a crazy world we live in!- but hey... we can change it!!!!!!

And now to the electric power. Do not we all consume too much power still? So, each lamp -must be on? Needs in the parks at night a lamp lit? Must be every traffic light on at night? Must be everything on stand-bye? Or water, why do we waste so much of it, particularly in the western world? Look what you can do to use less. There are plenty of ways.

I'm not telling you to start with all now, but start with some of them... wasting water is so stupid... and it is so easy to use less and yes don't put drugs into water! We have enough of this shit already! Look into the internet and you'll find many ways to clean water easy and without chemical help.... all around the world you can find projects who shows how it goes... just open your eyes and mind and start askin'.

They are so many ways that I can barely explain them but I will tell you the names of films which can show you examples.

What more? Heard of urban gardening? Have your own little garden! Get the bees back into town!

Discover the beauty of the earth, the nature around you! Stop putting scrap on the streets and in the woods or into water.

Stop having so many negative thoughts... Try to answer in a positive way, avoid words like "no" and "not".

If you start with this, you will quickly realize how much we are triggered to think negatively.

Try to go out of your door with a smile..every day... and if you're stressed, stop for a moment, take a deep breath and then go on, maybe think about something beautiful.

So never give up practicing and then one day you'll speak in friendly words without doubt.

Yes, nobody can tell you how fast you'll gonna change... Everyone has it's own time....

And talk, talk, talk about all this... what we can do, what others are doing, why and how and have patience... Many people are still blind and must first open them self before they are able to make a change. But however how many people around you have open them self for another way to live, you can start now and your way of living will show them maybe a way and maybe open eyes and mind... do not underestimate the effect of your life. But do try to avoid to proselytize your fellow man want. True change comes only from within itself.

And of course, we should stand up for respect, give love, a hug, try to prevent hate, talkin' about a healthy work situation, cherish friendship and family...

And here are some Links and names of Films:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-YRKvU2eZp4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8w-i2VoA9uw

http://vimeo.com/22866808

2012 time for change

What the bleep do we (k)now!?

Peaceful Warrior

The secret

LOVE & LIGHT

A walk in Berlin

...and so the Mister is takin' you to a little walk... come with me!
and let's start with these old house which is getting to be renewd... but till then live goes on...
and so we see this...this is one of those places when I am going to talk about secret places..... it's so quite and you won't believe being in a big town....
which can happen too, when you are in one of the many parks we have and this one is called the "Mauerpark"named after the wall which once stood there and now it's a park and on sundays there is a big market for everything... very big.... so take your time....
...and yes, I do may walks no matter if it rains or shines... you know what people say..there is no bad weather, just wrong cloths... :-)


The town is up and down and old parts comes up when you wanna start new things...like a castle which once was...

...and here we have something the most don't like.. not because it's modern, it's big and let's say it ugly... the blue building is ...thank god only for a short time there- whatever this means at the end... we never know how long these things stay...
History meets us on the way and well, not everyone likes it...
but then you can look away and find something you like... or don't you?
My favorite Museum in Berlin:

"Die alte Nationalgalerie" here you find old masterpieces....

Sometimes I like to do a little walk in town, my hometown Berlin. Will you follow me..?

It's always so exciting to see what's going on. Yes the town is known for its workin' in progress.

The best thing is, that you still can see many evidence which seems to prove to survive the future. For all readers outside Germany, you must know, not only the country was once divided, no even Berlin was once divided in two parts. This fact you'll able to see on different places...

When I take a walk I try to feel the mood of the districts. 'Cos every has it's own mood, own church, own park, own marketplace. That's because how the town is crown up. Once it started with two villages, which became a little town, which got bigger and bigger fast and so the other villages around became parts of Berlin. Sometimes you really think Berlin is a villages. It feels sometimes like this, particularly when you're out in the clubs. But on the other side everyone who's moving to Berlin can find the place to feel good.

Well, Berlin was always a town know for newcomers and so the most don't stay forever here. It's very much like with Paris and London, but unlike those towns it's not so expensive to stay here. The best thing maybe is, that you can try everything here. No matter what you wanna try, if it's a show, a job, a study, your cloths stile or a party... here you can really learn and find out what is functional, what's not. But getting rich, this is no place for it, not if it's about money, but for your heart, soul, mind... it's maybe one of the best places you can choose.

You must be maybe sometimes kind of a fighter, but always it's best to get to know who you are as far as it gets for surviving best. Yes Berlin can be cruel, boring, unfriendly, gray and disgusting.

But then I remember all the history, the culture, the chances we have here, the fun, the inventiveness, the parks, the beaches (yes we have some...some real, some made..), children and dogs (maybe the most of them are here in Berlin.. it's the only town in Germany where the number rises) the young people who tries to be smart and get along with live out of mothers home... that you are able to have a good live quality at the end... Berlin has a lot of coffees and restaurants, and also a lot art.... in the streets, in the museum or in other places... many secret gardens and yes urban gardening is happening here too.

And at least you can meet John Lennon on places you never would expect...

and then think of his song.... Love is all you need... and smile and go along... into a coffee... take a cake and talk to a friend...

LOVE & LIGHT

The power of decorations....

Hej folks... The Power of decorations can light you up a light and make you smile... no matter what kind of decoration you prefer... a flat or other parts of a house or garden are more warm and friendly when you do put some nice stuff on it or in it...
....yes the simplest way is to buy flowers or find them in nature and take 'em home and enjoy the beauty of a simple and not so simple thing like a flower or a green plant like a little tree for your place....
....or you find some other kinds of decoration, if you're not the best with flowers or plants... or you're a much traveler, then maybe these kind of things are better....
...and if you have not much money and don't know your taste yet, well then try it with candles, simple, warm and romantic.. gives you light and always a special mood...
For me I try a mix of different things to make myself feel that my place is special, my home and warm and to have something to enjoy and being grateful that these things are part of my life....
So, art can do this too.... if it's just for your home or a office, it always gives you the feeling of something special... and you'll be remind... that you're worth more then a dollar in the hand...
...yes books or something which looks like a book can be kind of decoration too... here is an example you can sit on, but otherwise, nice books can be read too... :-)
Here's an example which shows you why I love to have flowers home and like you see, the shining sun makes it more beauty and bit of a miracle...the play of the shadows... like in fairy tails, but only home...
....and here's some inspiration I found in town.. it not only looks good at night, also when you walk by sometime when the sun is in the sky...
Another way to make it a lovely thing being at home is, having flowers which smell very sweet and good... and when you put them in different vases...
So, flowers are one kind of decoration I admire most like you see and I recommend them deeply....
Simple, to say there is no need of many....
Or try this one..... it's arty... and a simple autumn/ fall feeling home...




See books like this and you have something to look at and your guest will always find it interesting being at you ;-)
So my readers this blog is very simple and just to remind you, that maybe to enjoy yourself is more easy then you thought....
There are no rules of how to do it, just try it and find what you like most and fits you.... It's your home, your place so give 'em a note...

LOVE & LIGHT