International Day of Friendship

Not only is it today a day of friendship, but it's the 30. of July and that means it is the international day of friendship as this is to remind you what it is about.
All should have minimum one real friend in life. Many have none. Thought in time of Facebook some seem to have a thousand. But science has already made it clear years ago that near friends are hard to find because a near and dear friend is more then just a friend, more then just someone you know or share one or two interest. Although what a friend is actually is not to tell in one word. And some of us know very well that we have very different kinds of friends. Some are like family, some are just for the funny things and some are work friends and some are friends to travel with or some have friends to play a game with. You see, all this kind is real and worth sharing and caring for. But how does the deepest friendship look like? Is it like Bilbo and Frodo in the "Lord of rings"? I guess kind of. 
You have a true friend if you can confess whatever you did without fear. You have a good friend if you and your friend are doing things just because of love and respect and without expecting to get something in return. You sure have a dear friend if you can talk about anything and especially if you haven't seen each other a long time you still understand each other- those also without much words. Because your truest friend understands you without words. Sometimes it's like a marriage, sometimes you're like brothers and sisters, sometimes your best buddies and sometimes you're even more then lovers. 
It would be nice if each of us had minimum such a friend, but many have friends which they can have fun with but never can trust all the time or with whom they can talk about anything. Many have just companions which is in no way bad, but that means they can feel lonely and sad sometimes. Many people can share with others but will never be totally part of a circle of friends. Some don't even know how to do this, though you can learn from TV and cinema. 
And in times of Facebook there is the question, are internet friends true friends because they can share everything and read everything from you? I read that they are true friends but I think, this is just companionship. I am not saying that this is unreal or nothing worth. Actually friendships of all kind and ways can be cherished that way and keep warm and it's a fantastic way of keeping in contact to those you care, but be aware the internet is just the surface. Maybe you already know that and as we like to update us and make us better and as we like to tell things a bit more interesting, the internet will never be more then a medium to work with, but can never replace the talking on the phone, the meeting in real life and as I realized it not long ago- we even don't have the chance to follow all of our internet contacts, which is nothing bad but can make you confuse and forget that things stay out of sight and so sometimes you wonder why someone writes a statement you can't relate to. It's simple that the internet is unable to let you follow all and maybe this is a sign, a warning too... to all of us to remember that we can live with not knowing everything from each other. 
So let the emotion calm down sometimes is a god choice.

But to come back to the day of friendship. It is also a day to say thank you to yourself having friends. It is a day to be grateful to have friends and maybe tell them that you are happy to have them. You have every day of the year to tell how much you care and relate to them but sometimes we take them for granted and forget that they are a precious thing. 
So... no matter where you are my friends. I am very, very grateful and happy to have you. All of you- no matter how deep our friendship is, no matter how long it last, no matter what we share at last- thank you, THANK YOU for being there and being a friend and I hope I am good as I hope I can be for you.  May we share a bit of our lifetime, may we share things a bit longer and have some more memories. May we be there in hard and in good times for each other and when the time is over, let's hope we are grateful for the time we had and may we remember the good hours we had together.

LOVE & LIGHT

Stonwall

On the night from the 27. till the 28. June 1969 in Christopher Street started the first real protest against the oppression from the police. Violence was the answer. Enough is enough was the answer. Queer people showed that they are indeed people as everyone else. They are not only week and have wigs and are easy to harm. They can fight for the right to dance, to live, to love as it is the most natural thing in the world. Being part of society means to live free and be what you are instead of hide and feel ashamed. Being people and love another people is very natural and can never be sick. Because Love is Love, meaning- it's a chemical reaction, it's a physical attraction, it's in your gene, it's what we all can feel, if we live with an open heart and it's a spiritual reaction and practice. 
So violence was the answer cos they were not heard before. 
And today after- let's think about, after 45 years, are we on a better way?
Yes, in many ways and many countries but also no in many ways and countries. In some it even becomes worse. 
In 77 countries homosexuality is still forbidden and will get you in prison or even dead. 
77 countries where they hide, live in fear, fight in the background, fight in the dark, need to believe that they have a chance to be taken as a man of the world worth living and get no harm, no matter if an other man think this is right or not because he does not understand that it is natural because this man just believes in what he had heard and believes what he has read or not, or because he just think he can pic a sentence out of the bible and claim we have to live that way, thought he never read the hole passage and understood that the bible is not a book to pic what you like or not but more a history document to read and see an idea of living and stories to safe live and that this book was written in a time where we lived t.ex. in the desert and after all that this book is written so many years after Jesus died and is not written from one single person and the not even chronologically and it took like 300 years to write all the passages and then after all not all who were written have stayed in the book at last. 
But I am drifting away.
We have come a long way since that but after 45 years it feels not that much, because just now we realize that so much was hidden and is vulnerable. 
The open homophobia is breaking out and that's a god thing because now we actually know. 
Yes in the beginning we have been ignored. Then people laughed about us. Since Stonewall they openly fight us and this is the last phase before people learn to understand us and take us for real.
But just now they fight us harder then since a long time. They beat us, smash us and try to kill us. For what? For blindness, stupidity, and for the reason that they are unknown to the subject and lost empathy. 
Because if they had empathy they would never do this. 
So let's teach them empathy, love and difference as in the same time equality. 
Let's teach them to think with mind, body and soul.
Let's teach them to learn to do this by them self. 
But they won't listen - do you say.
Right, many don't listen when we speak up, stand up, show us.
We have to waken them- but how? More words? More demonstration in silence, dance or with kisses?
Or is violence a choice to wake them up and make them look and listen to us? As it was 1969 needed. Is is needed now? Do we need a new Stonewall to collect us, to show us and get straight to the point again and then show them how to do it the LOVE way?
Lot's of discussion are needed but at the end we have to remember where exactly we stand.
There we wil know what to do, because I think, we have to do it all together, all ways and choices.  All variations (except those who means we fight against something- this way we lose, all will lose). 
Because that is the only way to get everyone to listen, because some will only act when they see a silent parade, others when they se a documentation, others will react when we fight back with a fist or showing a kiss. Then others will react when we show mercy or when we say out and loud and proud - STOP-! or they are people who will finally listen to arguments instead of following blind a word of a priest. 
Yes the time has come that it is no longer acceptable to hate gays and lesbians, trans and bisexual. The time has arrived that we all have to fight for the right to love without fear. No matter who you are. The time is here to see the light and stop being blind. 
And yes violence will be a part of it sometimes, because sometimes it's the first step which is needed to get out of a situation. It's the right to fight back. 
So.... to all the haters and homophobes.
Forget that we are a doormat, whipping boys, victims or scapegoats for t.ex. politics who just dislike the western living style!
WE ARE PEOPLE OF THIS WORLD WORTH THE SAME AS YOU!

LOVE & LIGHT

Master or Slave

Sitting in a coffeehouse and watch the people go by. Next to me the newspaper and I just read again of so many negative things going on in the world. Well, I know the press loves to write more then ever about negative things, but I do wonder. 
Wonder about all the reasons why things happen the way they do. Seems the world again is going more down then up and more in dark times then sunny times. Is this actually logical?
Do we need the bad times again and again to remember us what we should change and what we do?
Why can't we go the easy way? Or is it the easy way we think and then remember that the negative way is the hardest step to take? 
Do we now pay for all the last years were we loved to ignore to make it right. I mean let's face it. History is written in our books over and over again and lies are on our way. To many lies and to many wrong faces. 
How come that we can't leave hate behind? How come that we still have man with fascist mind? How come that all the extreme religion organizations can still tell people what to think and do? 
We never really took the enemy for real after they have lost. To many did go on with their life without any harm to them or even punishment. 
So how come after all the terrible things that have happened that we still are on the same road?
Don't they always say that life does change after those things?

The truth is, no matter how many terrible things may happen it does not mean that people change or do the real change. But why? 
Yes most believe, truly believe the are going to but then the every day life comes to you and time passes by and suddenly you're so far away from what you wanted once and many forgot or have hide it somewhere back in their memories what had to be done. 
Is it the fear, is it the unknown of the new times? Or are we just to lazy or is it that mankind is very good in telling them self a lie and giving reason not to do it today but still telling their must be a change?

So yes, we pay for all the things we have never done and all the things our parents have never done and our grandmothers and - fathers. But now some of you may say it's not their fault it's the politics fault and the industry and the rich man and the banks and the minister who lied to you. 
And you, you did not do anything to make this happen? Well you did. Now some may say what can a man, a single man do against those big, big lobby?
You can stand up and have courage. 
Isn't it crazy in next to every miracle, in every child story, every movie or TV show you can see that it is possible to stand up. You've ben thought but why don't you follow, if you do follow all the wrong things easy? 
Is it really that easy? Or have the BIG once the power and drag you in in the way they want you to be? To be lonely, afraid, unknown of your own potential or have most of us just become victims of our self? 
Why do many think we are so helpless, if we are not. Why do we close our eyes, if it would be better to have them open and know where you sett your steps?
Is it because mankind has thought them self the fair into blood? Is it that mankind has learned to fight a war instead of building up a home for everyone. Has mankind learned to much to kill and to close the mind over the truth? 
What truth? The truth, that is it not the fault of an organization or a BIG thing, it is.... human being are doing it. In good and in worse. 
But the test of power, the devil power seems more worth for too many. To stay blind is also for too many a way they choose and say they are just a victim and can't change. 
It's a lie but we like the lie.
Most do, dont they?
That's why we have new man with fascist mind, new man who build the bombs, new man who likes to see children starve to dead, new man to keep and blind eye on things wish never should happen to anyone or anything els who lives. 

So sad and it is easy to get angry about the fact that people like to be stubborn and stupid. But it never helps to be angry, it never helps to kill, it never helps to fight with the same weapon the enemy has. It never did and never will. 

Well, we all now this but then we forgot. It's like the silence who is around you and like the dead. We know and then forgot. Forget it every time we've remembered. 
So we don't need to think about it but most of our acting has to do with it. We do our choices known or unknown we always do. It is actually impossible to not make a choice so no one can say it's the fault of another one but we can tell the truth of compromises we took and take. We can see what we do and mostly we know where this will lead us. 
So how do we get our self to leave the path of lies?
Because all the lies have lead to far to many wars, to religions who made people stay stupid and telling things which are in no way what the most religion books are telling and after all you have a responsibility no one can take away from you, not even the priest or the politic man or or or. 
And while we all should know that each of us is equal and should have the same rights, we far to often make it otherwise. Most even think we are better then animals, but far to many are worse then them. But am I telling you something new? No. 

But are we Master or Slave in this game of life?
Is it about that? No.
It is surly not to take a side. Even know it may feel like this sometimes.
So it is a choice between our dark side inside us or the other side. We have both side in us, which is naturally cos like we all know if there is sun, there is shadow but we have a choice how big the shadow will be and how we will live. 

Above all this there is the question how to reach those who are not awake? Or should I ask you can we reach them? For we know very well that blind people are not to reach, no matter what we do. An extremist will never listen to you. The politic never cares about you and the industry owner will only listen to money or something else then you. 

So that means we can't do anything about the war regions? Well, actually never in the way we used to.
Meaning? There is a chance for change but it will not only take time, we believe we don't have and will cost a lot of lifes. 
Yes, many will die and many will be harmed at the end many will leave our way and be hurt. Seems mankind need this pain to really say yes to change in real. 
Lots of victims have been on our ways to change things in all the time we know about. Since we know and get to know our past with archeology we know the offerings, the pain, the mistakes and the dark sides, but also many good success and beautiful things have come to us. With this knowledge we can say that in our future there is a positive change possible if we really try and start with our own life. 
Hope. Yes, there is hope after all but for many people help will come to late and in some areas in the world peace will be a strange word for the next years too. 
Its human who do all the bad things and humans who do all the good things. 

To get awake and start living a life which includes others in love and peace is maybe a hard and painful way but nevertheless more then ever what we need if we will have a future. Just now many people are good in forgetting to make a good future and protest against each other and have connections which I remember we had long ago too and were so wrong and are it today too. Just remember the communist where working together with the fascist in their beginning and now the muslim are working with the nazis and all seem to forget that in their hate against another group their hate each other as well and will kill if the time is right. 
A mother will wonder why her child did say yes to such cruel thing and the father can only answer that the kid is blind. 
This has by the way nothing to do with god, it is human kind who did and do. 
So which side are you on?
And again... This is not the question. It is what way will you give to yourself and others to live by? No one needs to judge another man, but we do and forget that we don't see the whole truth. Things have become very complicated although it is very easy in the same time. 
Actually it is just to decide. 
That's the challenge. Thats the hope. 
And that was a blog with not a special topic but with a topic to include many happenings inside. 
I had the feeling that this is needed as we read of hate crime, of nazis and blind people because religion made them blind and of hate because people have learned hate to long and forgot that there is indeed an other way to live a life. I felt that we should really try to focus on the positive things we can do and live up to. Then we have a chance. There is still good things in the world which are worth to fight for, to open your eyes for to open your mind for. You have the courage inside you. Everyone has it. Just remember. Remember what you know inside you. The time for the next change has long ago arrived and if mankind will come to a better future we have to stand up and focus on the good things and remember. Use the good part of your ego and stop feeding the bad part. Stop feeding people who have loved their ego to much and only listen to the power of their own ego which exclude everyone and is at any cost to survive. 
Remember they are only people. Just like we. They only have the power because of you. Fight against them now? No. Fight for what you want! Ignore them as possible. Concentrate yourself on things you can affect. Start with yourself. Love yourself and forgive yourself for the past and let it go. Yes we have to let the past go. No matter what, there is no reason to keep on with it. It's actually stupid to keep on with the past cos you can't change it, but you can change the future by thinking the right things now. Who has began is unimportant and everyone who says it is is wrong. It's the past. Yes we got hurt. Yes we lost. Well make it better now. Let the mistakes teach you to do it the other way. The way of love and peace and respect. Trying to find those who are responsible for all the things in the past and the situation now is like trying to tell your toe that it is his fault that you went the wrong way. Because it was you and only you who did and nothing is wrong but we do mistakes. So stop saying you can't do it because you can but maybe you won't. Yes I am sorry if someone is telling you that you in that case have no right to grumble about your situation, because it is your own fault. So seeking the fault at others is in that way hilarious. 
Again, there is hope. Just remember. You can do it. 

LOVE & LIGHT

To find a job in another country

You maybe have read that I have come to Sweden and am actually working here but how did I do this and why in the world Sweden? 
Well, first of all, the love to this country became slowly bigger with the years I was visiting this country and my friends I have there and got over the years- so each year a new one- kind of. 
It was one day that I came out of the plane and breath the air and the first though was - home- in swedish. That was the moment I knew I will try it but before I cold look out for a job I had to learn the language. 
It took me three years to be ready and this is something all should think about before moving to another country. Because most jobs need you to talk to and the understanding of people. So you need to be able to talk about minimum 1000 words and to understand about 3000.  Sounds not much but in our every day life we use about 300- 400 different words. 
So three years is a realistic plan before you actually start for seeking a job. 
Well, some jobs do not need that much knowledge but be aware that the language is most important if you will succeed. Because after all you will need people and friends around you who can tell you things you never learn from a book, you'll never watch on TV. In time of Facebook it is a good thing also to search for people to get to know from  the country you want to move to, because they can help you with ideas where to look out for a job. It's very different from country to country so look out for that at home, on the internet, on the webpages of the town you want to move to or from the country. Those webpages use to have good advice where and how to search for job and what you need. 
Now back to my own journey. After three years, I searched for job and this was about to find a summer job, which means you just work a couple of months while others have holiday. This is a good chance to test and start a life in another country.
And while many will give up everything home, I did not gave up my flat, which was very good although I rented it to the wrong people and could have payed the same if the flat was not rented. But so is life and I can now recommend only to rent to friends or take an rent office to help you and make sure you get the right people. 
So I started my work in a little town in south Sweden which is around 2,5 hour away from Gothenburg.
This is something you should think about too. Start somewhere if able and see how it goes and if you start in a small town then you have also the chance to see if you can get through times with not much going on around you. Usually after the first job it is easy to get a job for a longer time or the next job for a couple of months. But as it is these days, maybe you have to go home and work there again and then try another time again in another town. So don't have to much baggage with you. 
How to send an application? This is something you should find out first after learning the language. For it is also a very different thing from country to country. In Sweden most job are to find on the internet and you send you interest per e-mail. And always write in the language of the country but be sure you can speak the way you write. They expect you to be that good what they read. 
Next thing is of course to make sure that your certificate is valid in the new country or you have the version you need. Make sure they except your education. And find out what is different from the way you work in your country and the way you do the same job in the new homeland, because this will be one of the questions when you have your interview. 

Now this time I had not only the luck of a short searching time (last time it took me next to a half year) I also knew where to search for job because I had already the plan to stay for longer then just three, four months. So I searched in Gothenburg, Stockholm and Borås, which is an hour away from Gothenburg. 
So the pics you see in the end of this blog are all from Borås, a very nice but little town not far away and because I trained my swedish all the years I could vote for the job I thought was best for me and the future here in Sweden. 

So... Be positive and have many good reasons why you want to work on the new place and what makes you able to work there. Some jobs are more easy to get as others but never forget after all no one needs you, so make them needing you. :-)
And then, three years is also a good time to collect some money on your bank. You will surly need it. It is never cheap to move and search for a new job, new home and new friends. 

And if you have all this ... well don't be shy to speak and tell people to correct you if you speak wrong or use words which are right but don't fit in. Even say thank you as much as you can and show them that you understood what they said. That way they trust you more and will also be more sure about you, because after all the most care about you. 

See, this does not sound too bad, doesn't it. It's like with so many things in life, be free to do what you want, but try to be smart with that, because success will be more able that way. And of course you have to want it in your heart and take it in the same time easy as possible, because your luck does never depend on the way you planed it, it depends on the way you think.

So think positive and take it as it comes. Even know you'll be afraid or feel this little fair in the back of your heart. It is always worth it. As long you are open for every test, you'll get through it.

LOVE & LIGHT

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Sweden and a new way has open up

What a beautiful day. The sun is upon the sky, it's warm and summer is on it's best. No holiday season for me but a new job and a new town and new challenges. 
Again my ways have lead me to Sweden. Gothenburg is it now where I started my summer work as a nurse for people at home who needs help and for old people in nursing homes. 
Thought the education is the same in both countries the work is quite different. As a nurse in Germany you have to do a lot of work which includes washing, taking off and on the clothes of people, making the meal and then of course all the classic nurse things like all around the medicine, discussion, advices and working together with the doctors. 
In Sweden it is more about administrative working and thinking, talking a lot, having discussion and doing advices and giving out the medicine and also do a bit of doctors work and taking all the blood to the labor. So, while in Germany the work with nurse assistants is very close and you have a lot heavy body work to do, it is in Sweden less working with the assistants and no heavy body work, though you talk a lot with the assistants and tell them what to do, for they are allowed to to more then in Germany- like giving medicine -the nurse made sure before. 
And while taking a blood test as a nurse in Germany is only allowed in hospitals and doctors practice it is a very common thing in Sweden to do. 
A challenge for me, as this was five years ago my last time I did take a blood test on someone else. 
But as it is I have the luck of colleagues some came from other countries too so they know very well the problem you can get into when you start a work in another country and with this I also mean the language. It's best to know more then some words otherwise they will not help you that much for this is too much work for them. They already have enough to do with they own work and so helping you a bit is o.k. but you have to understand them. Especially when you are going to work with a lot of people and even have to make calls you should have a good way into the new language. 

Just now it is the summer job and then the next one till the end of the year, but back to the summer job- things go on a bit slowly in many ways for it is holiday time in Sweden and this means that many people are not to reach, to ask or even the bureaucracy can take time cos many stores and offices are simple closed the hole month. 
And as we talk about bureaucracy, well it is everywhere your luck with the people who work in the offices. So same old story in most countries. Have patience and be positive, know your rights and don't be shy to sometimes to protest what they may tell or write you. 

But where do I live now? Not in Berlin, although I still have my flat there but for not long. As it is in Sweden it is known that you have to have your luck to find a flat or a house to rent or by is a thing of time and big luck and of course the connections you have. So I am a lucky guy to live and rent a room at a friends friend home. Because without your personal number you won't get much here and won't get far as this number is kind of the most important thing in every day life. This number gives you the right to go to a doctor and please for help and not paying all on your own. This number can give you a mobile you need for private life and job. This number gives you the right to rent a house, a car or whatever. But be sure you don't only have this number, make sure they write you in the book of folk- kind of, because then your are to find in the system and then you are free to do all the things I named. Otherwise it is just a register number who doesn't help much and you are paying for everything but have no right t.ex. for health insurance. 
If you now think this is enough with challenges, you're wrong. What you're gonna eat. This is to find out and so I am out shopping on different places, looking on the prices and quality and taste. As much as I already know a lot of the food in Sweden, there is still much to learn when you live here and really have to buy for life. Sweden is after all not a cheap country, even though your wage is not the baddest. 
But going out is really expensive as a you may heard. The alcohol is a kind of bling bling hobby. Be sure you have money on the bank. A big beer can cost you around 9 Euro. Just one. But surly when you're out in summer in Sweden enough people will surround you because it may cost a bit, they do go out, have fun and meet friends. 
A thing I am very grateful for is, having friends, because I already have some friends in Gothenburg and this makes everything a bit more easier and I have someone I can ask. 
Last time, five years ago, I had some friends too, but I was not living in Gothenburg and worked in a little but very nice town called Skara. So it was mostly to be on my own which was fine and a very strange and good experience. But knowing my friends around me and being able to visit them in an half hour is making this new stay here much easier. Cos this time the work and the earnest and the new direction of my own future makes it kind of a hard work to get in. 
The first days I had my problems to hang with all the things and what people where talking. My head was telling me to take it slowly but I wanted to hang with, then my ear became hot for two days because I so much tried to listen, but here you see, you can be good in the new language but it is a difference if you have to deal with it every day. And I was so tired as I was never before when I started a new job on new places. Now all became much better. My brain does not need so long to start and become warm like a car to work best and my ears can hear better and better and all the slang and accents become better to understand for me and the times I feel tire are fading. Still there are challenges I know are coming but I will make it through everything. 
You know last time it was to prove if I could ever live and work in Sweden. 
I found out I could and felt home and do it till today. Last time I decided to move to Sweden but things went another way which I am lucky now. 
Now I tell you that I try it again and in the same time it's kind of moving for real. Cos I belong no longer to Berlin, though I have a lot of dearest friends there but also a lot all around the world. But you know, I just take it step by step now for I feel that if this seems not to work out at the end, it's less a problem, it's just the way it is. So I try my best and see what's coming. 
Maybe that's the real change when you visit and learn and live in other countries. The place you live is a place you live as long as it is meant to be and you have easy to go on to a new place. 
You can read and travel that way, but you learn more when you really travel and with that I mean not only the tourist streets but also to take the sideways. 

Is it about the people? Or is it about the work? I think those both are part of the decision but at last it is something inside you that makes the real decision to move to a new place. And when you have traveled a while and have also friends who did and do, you also learn there is always something to compromise. 
Well, then you .. maybe, you just do, because you feel free to do, although everyone is free to do so but most of us are so into the -but- and -if- and have reason they tell you, all because it's just the fear inside of change, of the courage you have inside. 
Sure many people will move to another country because it seems so much better and the work is better the people are nicer and on and on, but most never really took the sideways, never really stayed a longer time to really see how people live, work or even talk, many forget to watch TV or read the newspaper because if they did they would learn a lot about the country. So for many it is a big surprise when they do the move and suddenly all seems different. Some give up, some learn some never learn but stay. This is the way we do when we move. But to be true, however you do it, it is always right and when the time is over, then a new way is on to be walked through. You maybe live in Sweden and while watching the TV program you learn to become a lover of Great Britain. So maybe your steps will lead you there at the end in a couple of years. Everything can happen.
And now... some pictures I took...

"midsommar" in the park

one of the many ferries 

licorice ice-- you'll want it, it's like a drug!

these are very typical flowers in end of spring/ beginning of summer

this is actually a tram station under the earth and it looks much like being in Stockholm

3 big hotels, but actually it's the same and on the right side you come to the amusement park #Liseberg

yes swedish summers can be light and hot

not without a bus

this is also a part of Gotheburg

part of the central station where you wait for the busses

being inside the university Chalmers which is on the Lindholms piers 

next to the central station we have all the trams... 

LOVE & LIGHT

International day of Kiss

Seems it's long, long time ago I wrote something here in my blog, but you know me, I only write if I feel it's right. Actually I had not much time and too much going on in my mind and life to write something good, but while the most now will write about soccer I think it's quite a good change to write about the actual day of kiss. Of course the day is made up by a bunch of guys while they took a beer or two and no one really knows why they made it up and what it is about.
It's sure not political reason, although a kiss is more then just a kiss, while I think it should be. 
In fact there are countries where you not kiss in open places and just remember not long ago in movies a kiss was seldom or if there was one it never where shown right or face to face. A kiss was in fact something very offensive and had the meaning of being a sexual slut. And still in some countries a kiss is more then that. It stands for a life you choose to live and I don't mean your sexual orientation. An open kiss in countries where homosexual can be harmed is a choice you make. The choice to be yourself and show who you are. Or where women have next to no rights. So they show, that they are a human who has the same rights like each of us should have. 
Then a kiss is of course different in it's interpretations. It can be friendly, show love, show kindness, be a sign of protest, be a sign of seduction, be an affront or be a candy and so on. And then a kiss is for most women more then just too lips meeting each other, while for many man kissing a stranger is nothing special. For most men it is just a kiss to heat up, sometimes just to get an erection, some times to show domination, some times just part of a conversation. But society have been teaching women since a long time that a kiss stands for love. Only love. Kissing for fun is still therefore an exception. 
Oh yes, a kiss on the neck is different to a kiss on the forehead, and different to a kiss on the hand. We kiss much in our live. Mostly of different kinds of love. Family, friends and society- all there you can find a kiss on the way. Political kiss while the cold war or the high society kiss check to check, the friendly kiss to a grandmother and the good bye kiss to a child, before it goes to school. But the latter is quite also kind of a modern thing. To kiss your child as children were long seen as little adults and never have been touched that way by parents. Oh there are still sects who forbid the first contacts with a baby after birth and also the kiss on the head or the hand to say hello my newborn. 
But as we are on children- here we have also unwelcome kisses. Kisses grown people are giving to children without the permission of them, without asking them or even the parents when it is just a hello kiss. But you know what I mean. So many children have to stand out sexual harassment. (And even adults get kisses from people against their will.)It's a awful thing, getting parts of the body kissed where an adult never should put his lips on. No matter if it's a stranger, someone from the family or the parents
But Allah's not every kiss from a a parent to a child is sexual abuse. That strange fear must gone too. How can a loving mother not give a kiss to his little child. 

The "Kiss" is usually a positive word and that's why the advertising campaigns use the kiss, or the idea of a kiss or just the image of a kissing mouth like Kylie used it for her CD. But here we see that the kiss is also a sexual thing, although it's more an erotic and sensitive thing. But the kiss is just the next step from our time we fed each other. Like animals still do with their babies. So it's kind of complex. 

But now, let's take another look on "The Kiss".
Few can kiss real good from the start. It is a thing to learn and train. The kiss you give your love. 
Oh what I've been through! Some kiss like a machine. Always the same way, always the same rhythm. 
Like a clock. Some tried to bite me, although I think that was not the idea. Some could not even move their lips. Some kiss like you have an illness and call it passion. Some opened their mouth and I was afraid to fall in. A kiss is lips to lips not a big gab, a big hole to a head. I don't want to dive into your stomach. If I wanted, I had better things to dive in. 
Saliva. Yes it's natural to have some in your mouth but be kind and don't forget to swallow it. If I want to take a bath, I take the tub. 
A tongue. Is an organ you can use, but use it gently not like a drilling machine or a hammer. And please don't start with the tongue play and please don't try to lick my face before I am getting warm in my passion for you. 
Sometimes I only get the big, big tongue and wonder how this is a kiss. Where have those people learn this? Porn? 
And yes sometimes -I confess- my kisses are called Jackhammer kisses, because my passion presses me into you. I've learned to let this go... more or lesson. But surly I don't start with a cold start kiss... 
What more? It's always good to have a fresh breath, but better brush your teeth not the minute before you'll kiss or take a bubble gum just before it, If I wanted a fresh bomb in my mouth, I do it by myself. Thanks. But I do wonder, in some movies you see the actors brushing their teeth and then the partner or lover comes into the bathroom and start kissing. I mean their not even finished and spat the toothpaste. I always think -those poor actors. Must be more disgusting then making a sex scene. But do people actually do this? 

But at least... I mean , when it is about kissing, start gently, just lips to lips and then go on. Smell each other and see each other, kiss other parts of the face, play and gently start taking the tongue, then go back to just kiss, but with a little pressing and feeling and passion and so on.... Take your time and try. Try different positions, different times of the day. Wake you man in the morning with a surprise kiss, softly, gently, but full of love and passion. Sometimes a puff of a kiss is more then all the big screen kisses you know. 
Isn't it crazy how much you can write about a kiss. Just a kiss. A thing which can give love, make people jealous, can keep peace of two countries or get you killed by the mob, can save your life and also change it. 
So can mankind survive without a kiss?
Think about it. 

Love & Light