Göteborg/ Gothenburg- the start of x-mas time

Hej! 
Now the last day of November has arrive and it is also the first Advent we do celebrate. Not long and christmas is at home, with or without the red nose Rudolf and his gang. Though not all celebrate Christmas and so it is just to remember, we can enjoy this time but best we avoid saying that anyone has to or must like it or celebrate it. The Advent celebrating is born from an idea to make the waiting time more short and to give especially for our children something to do and concentrate, so the waiting will be able to do. But it is also a time of coming together with your family may those be chosen or your biological, it does not matter. Together with friends we now can walk the streets and enjoy the lights, the colors, the stars and the food and drinks we only get this time. 
All can actually enjoy this as you never have to be religious. 
And TV will surely show the blockbuster and some movies we all know far to well, don't we!? 
Now you can enjoy some pics from Gothenburg/ Göteborg in christmas feeling. Though it is just an idea, but maybe the idea to come for a visit to town or Stockholm as well. But don't worry if you can't come now in December. The Sweden use to tend to keep their christmas lights a bit longer- so January is worth a visit too. Maybe you'll have the snow here too. 
Now enjoy...

Love & Light 

Susie and the 1. of Advent- a fairytale

Since weeks the temperature has been going up and down but finally it became just colder and colder and the rain has stopped too, as it rained the last weeks over and over again. 

No one had the feeling that they could get happy again. Such a gray! Day after day.  

The wind blows today, but not that strong as it use to be the last days. Best day for a while as the sun shines and warms our checks. A perfect day where Susie and her family will move to another place because the new neighbors frighten them. So everyone is in a hurry, because it will be a long day and it is such big family. Two parents and how many children? 1200 already and it's not the end of the year as mother can have 2000 children a year. 

Yes, Susie is a mouse. She is already to old to live home, but she never found the man of her life and was never really sure if she wants to. 

You must know she was one and a half year old. For a mouse this is very old, as they only become two years, maybe three and very seldom four years. That is in fact stone old for a mouse. But Susie was not only old, she was a colorful mouse. You know most of her sisters and brothers were gray as her father was gray but some of her sisters had also different colors on their fur. Mother was a refugee from a laboratory. So her sisters and brothers had mostly three different colors and it was like spotted points in the middle of all the family. There were loved. 

But Susie was always an outsider. 

She has stripes. 

The only one in the family with striped fur. 

You can imagine that this is most time not really helping to hide from an enemy as she obviously was shining like a star could, everywhere she was. 

So she had to keep herself in the dark and therefor never got any friends. Though she always dreamed of them. As her sisters and brothers gave her food and all that but they tried to avoid playing with her. 

No, Susie was never sad about that as she understood very well why this happend. 

A very unusual mouse I must say. Smart was she. Very.  

Their neighbors were rats. Big rats and as this was not painful enough, they became more in town. 

Although everyone could get enough food because people waste so much and it was easy to catch, the mouse remember far to well the time the rats not only stole their food, they also killed the mouse babies in the past. Since generations this warning goes on and on from mother to child to keep sure they will survive. 

So today they move! 

Finally all the family packed and ready to find a new home and as mother said that father said they heard about a place two hours from the place they lived till today. 

Susie still wondering what she should take with her and what would be her new home like did not notice that all family started to walk away. 

When she finally looked up again to tell the others that she had decided, no one was home. All gone. What a fright! 

Immediately she started searching and calling. 

That took time as you can imagine that a flat for nearly 2000 members is big. 

So after a very long time she stopped and wondered what to do next as she never ask where exactly this new home was. All she just now knew was that this town was big. So big. 

The name of the town was Berlin. 

To ask every mouse in town where her family went could take more then three lives of a common mouse! 

But she could not stay here! 

Well, she was smart and there must be a way or place to go! 

On she went out of the earth into a very, very sunny day. Actually first time after a very long time she went out in daytime. You remember her fur was not exactly like the earth and so everyone would have seen her in a second. 

But as she went on, no one seems to care. 

What a relief! Think she never liked the world outside that much, she now wonders what she may have seen wrong. Yes, she has to watch her steps and dodge a lot as those big humans never look down and watch their own steps! Were they never afraid of fall? 

After an hour of springing around and trying this street and that street and fleeing from dogs and cats Susie sat down on a little blue stone. Breathing heavily, she tries to calm down and think twice. Where was she now in this town? She looked up, big houses and some were new, some old and in the back there was that big, big tower with a ball on it. 

She overheard people calling him the TV tower. Whatever that means, she never heard of a TV but of towers. They came along in many stories from her mother. 

Now many would become sad and think of their dearest mum but not Susie. With such a big family there is not much place to love an old child. 

Instead Susie became aware that this could be a nice adventure. 

But where to start? 

What a question! She was already having her biggest adventure! She smiled. Then went up and step by step she went on, with keeping her back straight and her head held high. 

Susie became an adventurer. Maybe the first mouse since a long, long time who dared to be! Maybe.

And so she discovered that the trees have lost next to every leave and that the humans had very big cloths as they don't have fur. How silly was that! But that was not her problem. Susie saw the sky and wondered how high it must be and the birds who fly. How did they do, even know she had to keep an eye on them too as some of them would like to eat a mouse as well but then she remembered she does not look very much like one. 

What a luck to be different. No one cares and no one was afraid and no one hunted her. Lucky kid she was. Such a big lucky adventurer! 

Suddenly in a street of old houses she smelled something very tasteful and new. What was that? She rushed to find out where it came from, always keeping her nose up. Looking around, feverish. 

Market stalls came in sight and there it came from, this strange but beautiful smell. Susie kind of starting dreaming of beauty and the warmest luck. Sweet and crispy the smell became just stronger and Susie could no longer wait to see and know what this could be and of course she desperately wanted to taste it, eat it until she drops! 

Gingerbread cookies all around and as a mouse she knew how to catch a fling. Hiding behind all the people and the light, as she knew she can't be sure that they will discover her and then she had to hide. She climbed up the table inside and then when no one watched she took her piece. 

Oh what it did taste good and just when she thought she could take another, her nose catches a new fragrance. More sweet and colorful and kind of she wants to lick it. Her curiosity made her jump down and run over the street to follow this new adventure and taste. 

Curves she had to take and she had to run back and forth as they were so many people and dogs. 

All those dogs sniffing at her! She did not like that. What was she? A cake? Cheese? 

All those running was very exhausting and as she finally reached her goal and saw the hundreds of Lollipops and candies Susie was just happy and without a doubt she took the first she could catch and run under the next tree to eat. 

There she was sitting, gorged and a bit tired, but happy. What's next, she hums. 

Oh she loved those world outside and as she could hear it over and over again it was christmas time! Oh how she loved christmas time as she never knew that was heaven. 

This was the best of start of her new life! Sure she needed some kind of clothes to look more like an adventurer and kind of a pirate as she heard about that those people were frighten by others and respected. Sure she will find on her way through town something useful. It's Berlin after all!

Susie now went away from that christmas market and searched along the streets. Cats and dogs are still to avoid but she tried to ask other mouses but they just looked at her in disgust and went away. So she had to find out by herself. Maybe near that big tower? But that seems so far away and she was such a little thing. 

A finger on her mouth she was thinking and an ear up in the sky she was eavesdropping to the humans. Her eyes went up and down, went left to right and back again and then she catches her rescue! Take the tram and you'll be there. How easy is that! Susie was looking around what that could be, this tram and there not far away was a stop with the name of a street and as Susie was smart, she could read. Yes, a reading mouse! How marvelous is that! Perfectly! 

The place she has to drive was called Alexander Platz. A place from Alex? Well, anyway, all she had to do was now to wait for that thing called tram and to do as everyone who was waiting here does. Easy. 

What a big yellow thing came! How could she come in there? The tram arrived and the doors opened. Much to high the first lever to climb in. 

Quickly she looked around and jumped into a bag and that is how she came into the tram and drove all the way to that place. 

Just before the bag went up into the air again, Susie left and when everyone was already out and the bell started to ring she jump liked a bird flies in the sky and landed in a flower pot with a lot of pine branches and a garland of lights.

This was not the soft landing she had dreamed of but okey. Susie picked the needles out of her fur and looked around. 

Astonishing crowd of those big humans everywhere! How can she find a way through them? But more important where should she go?

Shops everywhere. And in the middle of all, hundreds of christmas market stalls. 

The life of an adventurer can be such a hard work! 

Another round of running, hiding, watching steps and jumping under and over shoes, tables, bags and dogs. It is exhausting but fun. All the things the eye can catch. So beautiful and all the different smells. Susie tried to remember where she found what, because she planed to come back later and take a closer look and maybe also to try to eat and drink from those wonderful things those humans seems to have there up above. 

But first the shops. Susie is trying each and every one. Though she never has to pay but found something which fits her body and made her looking stylish and fab. 

That was the biggest problem. She could find a big amount of kind of cloths but those cheap stores had clothes who where either ugly or fell apart she tried them and those better stores had to big things to wear. And this should be fun? All those stories she heard about those human loving this game. Really, where is the fun in that?

Mother most have got it wrong. 

Finally Susie arrived on a market stalls with ostrich eggs. They had candles inside and where made into such beauty lamps and pots and well one looked like a cave for a mouse and one could be her tub in her new flat. She has to ask the guy if she could have it. 

Susie went under the blanked and then was inside the market stall and there was a chair and Susie took the chance to sat down and then she clears her throat and started talking to the little man. 

But he does not seems to take notice. She started again. No luck. Maybe she must be louder. So Susie took a deep, deep breath and and spoke with a fully voice. 

His face went up. Wondering where this came from and as he still can her someone talking he looks around. Of course he tries to find a human in front of his market place. He stands up and looks down but no one to be found. 

"I'm sitting next to you, you idiot! " Susie shouted as she had no patient. That little mans face went straight left and saw her. Susie smiling, while he can't believe his eyes. He turns around and then thinks, it's best to sit down on his own chair where he was working until he heard her. 

Susie did not waste her time and start talking to him the second he sat down. 

"Dear, could you tell me if I can get the bathtub?"

Of course our dear poor man did not have had any idea what she was talking about but as she pointed to what she called a tube he realized that's what she meant. 

He shakes his head quickly and said: " Well, I use to sell it to whatever you may do with that." 

"So I can get it. Fine. But as I don't have my new home yet, can you spare me that wonderful tube of yours so long?"

"Sure." He said, but our man was in no way sure how to respond. But as this was a very special situation, he decided to go on. Thinking a moment and said: "You sure have no money with you. But how on earth does it come that you sit there and want a tube?!"

So, Susie started to tell him her story, which took quite a time. In the end she smiled again and our man, that nice human nodded from time to time to show he understood. 

"Well then you're on a journey and still as I can see it, haven't found some cloths of yours."

"Oh..... that's very true. Do you have an idea where to get some?"

Short time thinking and humming and looking around. He answered yes he knows where she can get the best of cloths. He had just remembered that he had in his bag the cloths of old dolls and those could very well fit Susie. 

"Oh these looks to much like a princess!"- 

"Oh those looks very good I'll try them!" 

But as our friendly man is waiting Susie did not do a think but then nodded to him and ask him if he could turn around. She is shy and a lady. Gentlemen our man was, he turns around but could not help not to smile. 

"Ready! You can look again" 

Susie just looked like the best of adventurer now. Our man could not stop making compliments and Susie could not help but blushed. Both they smiled and then it was time to go. Feeling a bit sad as Susie now had the feeling she found her first friend and so they shake their hands with the promise to see each other again, and that was not because of the tub.

Now Susie walked on two legs as she thought this should be the way to enter the world. 

Time to find a new flat and some friends! The christmas market will stay for a while, so she will come back. 

As Susie went down the street, next to the red town hall, with her biggest smile she ever had and with the thought that she was and never could get happier, it started to snow. 

She was wrong. 

Now this was perfection. She could build a snowmouse! 

What she had dreamed of that!

LOVE & LIGHT

... and happy 1. Advent

Vielfalt statt Einheit

Vielfalt statt Einheit oder war es Einheit statt Vielfalt?

Mal genau lesen! Was bedeutet das? 

Ein Gegensatz wird hier aufgebaut mit diesen beiden Begriffen. Aber, wartet mal! Ist das so einfach gesagt? Einheit statt Vielfalt oder Vielfalt statt Einheit. Das klingt beides so logisch und doch, ist dort ein Paradox im Kern, denn warum sollten diese beiden Dinge Gegensätze sein? 

Oh, da fällt es einem doch wie Schuppen vor den Augen! Einheit und Vielfalt als Gegensätze für unser Zusammenleben zu nehmen ist das Dilemma unserer Diskussionen und Denkweisen, gerade wenn es um Toleranz und Akzeptanz geht. 

Also bröseln wird das mal auseinander.

Einheit statt Vielfalt ist für eine gesunde Gesellschaft ungesund, denn sie wird zur Einfalt statt Vielfalt. 

Vielfalt statt Einheit bedeutet am Ende, es wird nie eine Einheit möglich sein, obschon wir uns doch gerne einig sein wollen, denn Einheit bedeutet nicht unbedingt Ausgrenzung. 

Einheit darf und kann ein Ganzes sein, bestehend aus Vielfalt. 

Also demnach Vielfalt in Einheit. 

Denn Einheit in Vielfalt würde wieder bedeuten, das die Vielfalt nicht gelten kann auf Dauer.

Aber besser währe vielleicht doch die Einheit mit Vielfalt. 

Würden wir diesen Gedanken annehmen, dann gibt es durchaus berechtigte Hoffnung auf Frieden, im Kleinen wie im Grossen.

Denn wenn ich auf Facebook und in den Zeitungen blättere, mir die Kommentare und Forenbeiträge ansehe, dann fällt mir das Dilemma immer wieder auf und die Zementierung der Egos und des nicht verstehen wollen, des nicht annehmen wollen anderer Ansichten und der nur sehr bedingten Auseinandersetzung mit dem Subjekt, Objekt und der Konsequenzen.

Die Anerkennung der Vielfältigkeit ist der erste Schritt zu einer fruchtbaren Diskussion.

Das Annehmen und Sehen, dass die Dinge nicht nur schwarz oder weiss sind, ja nicht einmal schwarz und weiss, ist eine wichtige Vorraussetzung, um den Grautönen unseres Lebens zu begegnen und damit die Farbigkeit all unseres Lebens zu begreifen. 

Ohne diesen Konsens kommen wir zu keiner friedfertigen und lebenswerten Lösung. 

Denn wenn wir uns den Grautönen verweigern, dann sehen wir unsere eigenen Fehler nicht oder können die Kompliziertheit mancher Gegebenheiten gar nicht wahrnehmen. Denn vieles ist selten so einfach, wie wir es gerne hätten und daher bedarf es oft des genaueren Hinschauens und Nachfragen, aber dies wird immer seltener getan, auch gerade von der Presse, deren Aufgabe dies eigentlich währe. Jedoch müssen wir gar nicht so weit greifen. Schauen wir auf uns selbst, unserer Fähigkeit uns selber zu informieren und eine Meinung zu bilden! All zu wenige nutzen sie und nur ganz wenige schöpfen sie voll aus. Gründe gibt es genug, aber auch genug Gründe es endlich zu tun. Endlich genauer zu schauen und es zu riskieren, das die eigene Meinung revidiert werden muss. 

Ja, wir werden dann nämlich an unser eigenes Ego erinnert und mit ihm konfrontiert.

Würden wir zum Beispiel aufhören ständig im Palestina/ Isreal Konflikt uns auf die Propaganda zu verlassen und dadurch jeweils immer nur eine Seite als gut oder böse anzusehen, dann würden wir zugeben müssen, das beide Länder ihre Fehler machten und machen und schuldig am fortdauern des Konfliktes sind. Aber auch wir müssten uns als Mitschuldig ansehen, denn das sind wir, da auch wir, der ach so tolle Westen, fleissig am Konflikt friggeln. So ist natürlich der Weg auf Frieden stets verbaut und erschwert all denen den Erfolg, die ihn wirklich haben wollen und auch erkannt haben, das alle Seiten ihre Egos herunter schlucken müssen und im Sinne aller gehandelt werden sollte.

Wie am Anfang schon erwähnt brauchen wir eigentlich gar nicht so weit ausholen um ein Beispiel zu finden. Aktuelle Interessenkonflikte im eigenem Lande, ja gar in der eigenen kleinen Welt gibt es genug. 

Nehmen wir einmal die DAH, die sich im "Streit" mit dem "Männer" Magazin befindet. Auslöser war die Tatsache, das man keine Werbeanzeigen mehr schalten wollte in dem Magazin. Begründet mit einem von der Zeitschrift einseitig propagiertem Männerbild. 

Ein wunderbares Beispiel, wie wir oftmals ticken ist dies, denn hier entlud sich eine explosive Kraft, die sich genau aus dem Dilemma speisst, das Einheit oder Vielfalt gegenübergestellt wird. 

So steht seit dem zur Diskussion ob eine Organisation, die alle ansprechen sollte, sich über ein "zu" einseitiges Männerbild beschweren darf und daher deren Kundschaft ignorieren sollte. Gleichzeitig wurde die Pressefreiheit als angegriffen tituliert. 

Und schon schlug es Axt auf Axt, denn fast jeder meinte sich nicht nur positionieren, sondern die Position des anderen auch noch Aberkennen zu müssen. Was ein Trauerspiel!

Wenn wir ein friedliches Miteinander wollen, sollten wir endlich anfangen, die Position des Gegners zu registrieren, was keineswegs bedeutet, wir müssen sie akzeptieren, aber sie in unsere Überlegungen einbeziehen sollten wir schon. Das aber erfordert auch die Auseinandersetzung mit sich selber und den eigenen Schwächen. 

Es hilft reichlich wenig die Schuld jeweils immer wieder dem Anderem zuzuschieben.

Vielfalt zu anerkennen bedeutet eben auch anzuerkennen, das ein Lifestyle- Magazin ein begrenztes Männerbild nutzen darf. Das tun praktisch alle Magazine und dies hat schlicht auch mit Zielgruppen, Marketing und eben Verkauf zu tun. 

Vielfalt zu anerkennen bedeutet aber auch, das eine Organisation sich gerne kritisch dazu äussern darf, sich aber auch fragen lassen muss, warum sie deren Leserschaft aus der Aufklärung und allgemeinen Arbeit ausschliessen muss. 

Vielfalt bedeutet, das sich Chefredakteure und Angestellte der DAH sich mit ihrem Ego zurückhalten, da sie der Diskussion nur mehr Zündstoff für negative Entwicklung geben, statt sie in eine sinnvolle und vor allem positive Richtung zu lenken. Es bedeutet damit auch eventuell Fehler zuzugeben, weil man zu voreilig gehandelt hat oder aus einem gekränktem Ego heraus. 

Vielfalt bedeutet aber auch für alle die Kommentatoren und Leser, das sie ihr Misstrauen aussprechen sollten und dürfen, aber sich vom Hass nicht verleiten sollten, was leider nur all zu deutlich hier zu sehen ist. Die Abneigung einer Person gegenüber, weil man ihr deren Entwicklung nicht abnehmen mag, warum auch immer und daher Unterstellungen dem Raum lässt, was den Hass auf diese Person steigert und so zu unbedachten und unklugen Kommentaren und Meinungsbildung führt. 

Es ist durchaus anzuerkennen, das man eine Person nicht mag, sie aber in Diskredit zu führen ist inakzeptabel und tut der ganzen Sache keinen Gefallen. Gleichwohl sollte eine Person, die sich dessen bewusst ist, es eher vermeiden Öl in's Feuer zu lassen, nur um sein eigenes Ego zu schützen, denn damit wird der Schaden für alle nur grösser. 

Denn das ist was zur Zeit passiert. Statt einer Diskussion um die Wahrnehmung der eigene Vielfalt in der eigenen kleinen Welt, entsteht die verballhornte Abgrenzung und damit werden Risse erzeugt, die wieder nur mit viel Arbeit zusammenwachsen können. 

Und hier kommen wir wieder zurück auf Einheit mit Vielfalt. Wir können alle zusammen unter einen Schirm passen, der die Farben des Regenbogens hat. Wir können alle zusammen sogar den Schirm sein lassen, uns an den Händen fassen und auf die Anderen kleinen Welten zugehen und mit ihnen zusammen unter einem noch grösseren Schirm uns vor dem Regen schützen. Wir können aber denen dann auch zeigen oder die uns auch, wie es trotz Regen ohne Schirm geht und so weiter und so fort. 

Denn der Regen ist nur Regen und wir sind alle aufeinander angewiesen, wollen wir endlich das Zwist in der kleinen, wie grossen Welt vergeht. Wenn wir kleine Kabeleien aushalten können wollen, dann sollten wir öfter erst atmen, dann denken und dann gerne, dann handeln. Bewusst und mit Weitsicht handeln. 

Einheit mit Vielfalt ist unsere Zukunft, denn wir werden dadurch immer anerkennen das jeder ein eigenes Wesen ist, aber auch das wir Gemeinsamkeiten haben, gemeinsame Werte und Ziele haben. Wir können dann Unterschiede tragen, statt sie zu ertragen oder tolerieren. Wir können sie dann akzeptieren und in Ruhe uns fragen, was ist o.k. und wo gehen unsere Grenzen und warum. 

Aktuell werden die Grenzen schwer misshandelt von allen Seiten.

Aber das hat sein Gutes- es rüttelt am Zaun, den wir aufgebaut haben, weil wir so dumm sind.

Reisst den Zaun runter und rüttelt und schüttelt Euch und denkt an die Nächstenliebe, auch wenn ihr nicht immer die Verwandlung eines anderen Menschen nachvollziehen könnt! 

Denkt an den grösseren Rahmen und lehrt einander wieder über den Tellerrand hinaus zu schauen. 

Vielfalt statt Einfalt oder Einheit ist passé!

Sich zu teilen schmerzt am Ende immer nur einen selbst.

Selbstverständlich könnte ich noch viele, viele andere Beispiele nennen, aber ich halte Euch für fähig genug, um selber zu denken, zu suchen, zu finden und Euch selber zu fragen. Warum hasse ich, warum nervt es mich, was steckt wirklich dahinter, was an mir stört mich, das mich das Andere stört? Angst ist selten ein guter Grund sich blind zu halten. Angst füttert den Gegner und der heisst Hass.

Und damit sollte es mit den vielen Buchstaben erst einmal reichen...

LICHT & LIEBE EUCH ALLEN

Books/ Bücher

Heute wieder einmal weitere Buchempfehlungen, diesmal aber von einem "bekennendem Schreiber", der selber Bücher schreibt. Seine Buchempfehlungen stehen auch für kommendes Jahr auf meiner Liste und wie schön, wenn man von Anderen tolle Anregungen bekommt. Schliesslich habe ich auch nicht immer ganz soviel Zeit zum Lesen oder gar die Muse, ein wenig zu schmökern, obschon ich viel lese. Dennoch geht da das eine oder andere Buch unter, gerade auch, weil es so viele Neuerscheinungen gibt.
Wunderbar zur Adventszeit, ja zur Weihnachtszeit und darüber hinaus, auch zum Jahresausklang oder Anfang, sind Bücher immer noch eine der besten Empfehlungen, Entdeckungen und Geschenke. Leicht zu tragen, nicht zu teuer und doch ungeheuerlich viel gibt es oft zu erfahren.
Sich einmal wieder in eine Welt versinken lassen ist eines der schönen Dinge, die ein Buch mit einem anstellen kann.
Nicht immer bildet Literatur und oft unterhält sie nur, aber sie ist meist (denn ja es gibt auch verzichtbare Veröffentlichungen) ihr Geld wert.
Leider bekommen die Schreiber längst nicht das, was sie verdient hätten, aber jeder kann mit dem Kauf eines solchen ein wenig mehr zum Erhalt de Schreibers, Dichters, Denkers beitragen.
Wem ein Buch auf Reisen trotz allem zu wenig ist, oder ein einzelnes zu schwer, dem sei immer wieder auch das E-book empfohlen.
Nun aber viel Spass mit den Empfehlungen vom Wortgepüttscher: http://wortgepuettscher.wordpress.com/2014/11/27/throwback-thursday-buecher2014/

Mit viel Licht (zum Lesen) und Liebe (für die Wärme)

After Sex - a movie

Sounds quite like a very hot thing. Right?
Well, don't be dissapointed as this is a movie of everything but sex.
Yes Mila Kunis may kiss a girl and she is playing her role quite well, but this is all- if I may say so. 
It's kind of an episode movie with about young people and the common question- what now?
It trys to find out what way to go in our modern day and interpretion of relationship. 
So a couple of pairs are talking and acting while trying to come to a common point. 
This is short and amusing, as it is also interessting, sometimes well known and not to difficult to understand and even not to philosophical. Therfore this movie is warm and nice put but also more a movie for a night alone or with friends and wine and talking next to the movie. It is not a movie where the stories come together as you my expect, more like little movies following each other. 
Try it and you may like it. But take it easy and expect more less then to much of it.
 

Love & Light

Stardust - a movie‏

Now comes the next movie I will rekommend, yes rekommend to you. 
Because, well- it is worth it...  It is a fantasy movie and a fairytale but also this is just the half of the truth. This movie called- Stardust- is different in some ways to the typical fantasy and fairytale ones. Not only is it a mix with the world we know and a world behind the forbidden wall. It is even with witches and prinsess but those are bit different as we use to know them. Who is bad and mad and who is the hero seems just in the beginning obvious.

Michelle Pfeifer as the old and mad witch, but is she that old and mad? Claire Danes seems to be a prinsess but is a star or? And what about the strong pirate Robert De Niro? What secret does he hide? 

The actors make it fun to watch them play and so you can dive into the story.
It's a romantic and funny fantasy adventure and the story is logical told and the look of the movie just kind of modern traditional as we know our fantasy movies now. 
I must say that I was very unsure before I took the DVD as it was so soon cheap to get and never really had the success in the cinema. But the more the surprise that this movie is good and lovely to watch for everyone. The story itself is not to compilcated but neither boring or without fantasy. The original story by the way is a novel by Neil Gaiman. 
So my dear after a couple of earnest post- this will be one to find something entertaining for your evening and is also a good present for christmas. 
 
Love & Light

A.I.D.S.

Another monday and the sun is shining outside while I am sitting in the kitchen, having my late morning coffee and finished the trilogy Jonas Gardell (-Never dry tears without gloves-) has written about AIDS in Sweden from the beginning till 2000. A chronicle which tells us about how people got to know about that thing called AIDS and HIV. A story about what had happen in the beginning and what came after. Döden/ Dead is the title of the last book and still dead is part of the way. But as it is it is part of each and everyones way. Thought the danger has become more easy to deal with. As we now have high standard of medicine but what is the price? 

A.I.D.S- that was the first after a long time people got to know about a new disease in the 1980tis. And yes that was the way we wrote it then as it was a complex of symptoms which in the end lead to the breakdown of your immune system and so you could die of every disease. As it was that time, most had cancer, pneumonia and/ or dementia. But many had other symptoms and got ill from everything you can get ill. So nobody really knew in the beginning but people as often were fast in making fear go round. And as it was the focus was on homosexual people, thought the first who became sick of that were also heterosexual and women. But people see what they want to see, so this thing called A.I.D.S. was a treat to homosexual man and was often called the price they had to pay for living in sin. Still many people think it is that way and still we make a difference how you come to the point. Still like you can read in the book (and see in the films withe the same name) they are the ones who are more worth to be pity and those who are just ones to have to shame themself.  Although most of them don't want to be pity. 
Since 1983 it has been a long time and people are no longer that much unknown about what this thing called A.I.D.S. is but then came those letters--> HIV. Yes having a virus inside you is not the same as having AIDS. One is the last walk you take and HIV is to be a bearer of a virus. You no longer can see it on people as medicine has become better but the dream of a vaccine still lives on as it is a fact, there is no one. You can try to fight with taking your pills every day and try to survive but no one knows when you have won, if you ever can win. So dead is still nearer at the end of the street as for the common people. But after all you survive more then the two years you had back then. Isn't that good? If people just would finally learn the facts and overcome their fear. The fear they have learned and passed. The lies which were spread back then are still working. 
So no wonder the rate of new infection not only goes up because of a better therapy as it no longer seem to be a danger of sudden dead, but also the rate of young people who should know better but never had to see the dead. The use of condoms have risen but not enough and as it was mostly the homosexual who had to deal with it most, now finally the heterosexual have beaten the number of new infection with the HI-Virus. Especially young people are in danger now. But to be true this is just happening in the western world. 
How now? Well, in Africa and Asia the numbers have from the beginning included all. It's the western world who tries to deny year after year that this virus never chooses only the gay. This lie of never being a victim when you are heterosexual, they try since years to put in the head of people in Africa and Asian- the result is that they do not have the save sex if they could. But we here in the West can and should. 
Start with talking about it! When young people become adults they become sexual available if you like it or not. So we should teach them to ask before having sex. But the challenge is that we have those  conservatives who claim to protect their children because inside their have failed with their own way of dealing with being a sexual human. So their try to put their regressed sexual living into their children. And they should know better as lies and prohibitions lead to exact what they don't want--> putting young people in danger. 
Of course this theme is much more complicated as many will claim. Just read for more here: http://one-thing-to-remember.blogspot.se/2013/11/world-aids-day.html 
or: http://one-thing-to-remember.blogspot.se/2012/12/do-you-remember-world-aids-day.html  
or even:  http://one-thing-to-remember.blogspot.se/2012/04/living-with-hiv-fex-travel.html 
and : http://one-thing-to-remember.blogspot.se/2011/12/lets-risk-critical-look-at-hiv-aids.html 
http://one-thing-to-remember.blogspot.se/2011/12/einen-kritischen-blick-auf-hiv-aids.html
(or go down this blog and take the #HIV tag)
But back to today. How many people, above from the stars, do you know who are HIV positive or have Aids or have died of AIDS? How many people are talking openly about having an HIV Test to know where they stand? Have you ever tested yourself? 
We have those posters where HIV positive stand, smile and say they live an open life and friends and family and maybe also colleagues stand behind them but how many do you know actually does?
I know some. Happy and very nice people. You would never guess they have it. Being strong and smile and go to work as everyone else. Just, they have to take everyday the pills and check themself three, four times a year. Just they never know how long time they have till the end as still they know they won't live out till the -I am to old to live another day- phase. But no one knows and so it could be possible to be old, very old at the end. But what price do they have to pay? It's a chemical mix of pills they take. No one knows how long this will be good and when it starts to destroy the body. Not to mention most of the HIV positive can't come out because they would lose they job, many friends, many times also members of family or will be pushed away from all of the family. Even nurses fear colleagues while they should know better, they still have more fear then most of all the others. Funny because there are nurses who are positive- and I know some of them, but as we just now see the beginning of coming out to have diabetes, it will take a couple of years maybe, I guess, until no one in this area will fear no longer, even known those nurses should not, as they are the professionals.
So taking the step out of the shadow means to take the risk of being alone, fighting once more and above all, it means to take the harder way when it is about having a living for money/ a job. You will be free too, as hiding is taking energy you need for surviving. 
Once you knew you would die soon. Now you know you can do it sometimes in the future, but when- no fucking idea. It changes your live completely and in the same time not that much. Tricky. Once they hated you, now they still do but in another way in many parts of the world. Saying it, is also saying you are sexual and that leads people to the most learned fear of our century- the fear of being a sexual human as this is a sin. Thanks to the damn church no matter what religion. 
To make SEX a thing of the devil was the biggest lie they successful sent into the world. 
The seed of hate.
Sight.
That's what I think about when I sit in the kitchen, writing you a letter while the sun goes down. 
But there is hope as people can and do learn. 
But there will be a time we all die.
But there is always a shadow behind.
And the sun will always shine again as long human kind will be on earth. 
Stupidity is no longer an excuse.
The time for hiding is over.
The time for not choosing a side is over.
The time for cowards is over.
It's time to take the next step and get over the past as we are still living far to much in the past and so fear will blind us. 
Have trust. Shake a hand from a positive man and women, child and well human. They may be HIV positive and also positive in their attitude as we know better now.
You'r friend, your lover, your girlfriend, your mother, your brother will be the same- with or without a virus inside. Hug them, kiss them and eat with them, sleep and cuddle. And remember it is much safer to live in truth then to live in lie. 

LOVE & LIGHT

Are you living a spiritual way?

Good question as many may claim most don't. 

But what do we believe is a spiritual way? 

Most believe for sure you have to be out of this world. Also many claim you have to do yoga and some sort of meditation. Some may also say you have to change the way you eat and what you eat. 

Well, can someone who lives a religion also live a spiritual way? Most will say not and less wonder why. 

Many believe being spiritual means giving up your job and go to a silent place or hide in the nature. Many believe that a spiritual person avoids technic and modern things we use and share in common life.  

Some believe that as a spiritual person you will only talk about this way of being and can only talk in words like- energy- and -flow-. 

Surprisingly you don't have to hide in a cave to become spiritual. Nor do you need to change your job or way of eating, though many will do in the end. 

Why, because most of us will discover that the old way does not fit into the new way and understanding of the world as they become aware of the consequences and because you start living again more with your heart and soul. 

Some shadows will fade and make your view clearer and that makes people change their live as they see what they want and what they believed. 

Yes, meditation and yoga and things like this can help, but only if you do them without pressing yourself. As long you just start, do and practice you will grow and find new pictures of yourself and also you will be more easy to discover what people made you believe, even if it was wrong. As we are surrounded by many lies and misunderstandings, there are much we have to tear down. 

But yes most of us are afraid to start because it would or could hurt and I tell you yes it will do as looking on your own truth is many times not flattering. 

We are all human and so we do mistakes and get things wrong. 

Discover this and you can start.

Because waiting for something to happen to you for the change you believe should be, well is a waste of time and waiting for others to forgive you also. But you can forgive yourself and search by yourself.

One of the challenges are to find the right tools. Well, they seem so many on the market. How you know which is right and wrong. You don't. You have to feel it as it can be that non tool on your way is yours.  

But don't worry, start trying and be critical and watch yourself. Pretty sure after a while you will know if the tool in your hand is the one to work with a longer time, till the next comes. 

You already did try so many and never found the right one? Well, have you listen already to yourself? Do you use negative words and negotiations? Do you have some doubt and goals you maybe believe those are yours. Because some things are just blinding things as we have learned to believe that we need them. Listen and question then again yourself and be true no matter how much disturbing and hurting it can be. The answer is often not really a surprise but we had hoped, hoped against better knowing that this goal we strive for is the right one, the true one. 

Let me tell you a secret. I found a lot of these and am more unknown about an exact goal, but less unsure as I know more and better what matters. 

Actually we all know what matters deep inside but we have learned to ignore. 

What's then so hard to change the way we live? It can't be only the fear of hurting. 

It is more then that, you're absolutely right. It's the question of- what if I fail?

Good news.... you can't fail. But you can fall down many times. Start again many times. Change your point of view many times. You will peel your life and soul and build up a new and will peel again till you understood that taking away all you don't need is all you belong and till you understood that being flexible is the strong tree inside you when a storm will come. 

But being spiritual does never mean to be happy all the time, though some say happiness is the way. 

Understanding that life is a school from beginning to end and this will keep things low and more easy in the right direction. 

Happiness is to see and enjoy little things as bigger one. Is to enjoy when you had a good working day or the luck of getting the bus. The more you live that way, the more easy you will find it to enjoy life and you can react faster and deeper and as the day may begin with being to late on the way, you will then remember that rushing will just make you arrive later but doing as you used to -just a bit faster- only a bit and you'll be in time.Very much my own experience. I have actually given up running after a bus, a tram or a underground. It always comes the next one and you will always reach your destination and no one will die because you maybe will be late and nothing in life is that important to rush and rush and rush and stress yourself up. Nothing. And best of all- you are all in your right time- so being to late is impossible. That alone is a challenge and also those thing with the words and what you think. And remember it is o.k. if you did it again the old way. Try next time. It is o.k. that you stopped going to gym and doing yoga too. You will start again when the time is right. Just let it be those pushing yourself as you will never really enjoy this. There is always this moment you just start, but forget waiting for the right moment as you start focussing on it and missing the best possibility and the crying loud out of your own body. 

Oh yes this all can take many years. But maybe not for you as no one can tell you how long it will take as it always is a life long journey. It never ends. But that is good. 

But then you will reach the point like me. No path is your path. You can start searching on other paths and ways but in the end you have to go your own, very own one. 

This is actually quite easy as I am not much thinking about that but the challenge is to trust. To trust in your own path. No matter what other people say. No matter what your mother thinks and your brothers remain. Trust. Trust is the biggest thing as you have to face your inner fears and learned demons. As you have to look into your own shadows and just go forward. Sure living in the now is much helping and all the practice with meditation, yoga and doing my sport, and also being aware of my language and the use of it. What does help me in keeping my trust? It is the experience of that when I let go and when I believe and when it then was true to what I really want- it all came the way which was best for me, even known that it sometimes did not look like this in the beginning. I am aware after all, that every step I went was right and everything comes as long on my way until I have learned. And learning to trust in your own way is what gives me and gave me many times situation I wondered what happened and then I realized it has to be that way as I did let it happen. If people where mean to me it showed me where I stood and what I did or did not and had to change or just to remember of doing. They may still have a problem with me but it is their problem. This has nothing to do with me. All I have to do is think why it touched me so much and let me felt unhappy, uneasy or mad. At least then, when I found out, I started - I always start changing the facts and catching the missing link. 

So all this sound very much like everyone can do.

Which leads us back to our question. How to become a spiritual human? 

Well... YOU ARE A SPIRITUAL HUMAN. It's just we have all our ways, our times and no one is better or worse then the others. Sure some of us are blinded very hard and some less. Some of us are very far away of being aware of living a happy live is something they could build up instead of a life in fear and with negative power. This may be disturbing for many as we never believe dictators or murders can be spiritual but all have a soul no matter how dark, how far way from love and the sun. That also means that no one really is a victim and this is a truth which leads us to the question, why love people to be victims and let others tell them how to be? It's fear. Fear we learn and wrong choices we did and we fear we have to pay. Well, we always have to pay. The pice is happiness, true happiness. But some may think money and false hope is more worth. Well, then - it's their way but never has to be yours, though I like money to, but do I need it- no. 

Courage is all you need and everyone has it laying inside. It only needs trust in you- yourself instead of believing. Believing means using words, who are so little to make things of. Trust is a feeling and the energy, the flow who will make you do the step. Or with others words, this is what makes you change your life. Simple trust. 

Oh it is so complicated- not.

Enough thoughts for today.. as always

LOVE & LIGHT

Make the yletide gay oder auch- Überraschung zum Fest- a movie

X-mass time is coming up and again we long for our films we know. But what about a new one, a funny and lovely movie about two young people, falling in love and trying to grow as the families have their own idea of the realationship of them. A story about coming home for x-mass and trying to be yourself as we all know when we are away from home, we do change but parents don't or can't see it.
This movie is charming, has speed and a very funny and good storytelling. Some drama of course and some surprises. Some words spoken you never heard before and parents who are normal, but normal. A cameo from an "Enterprise" actress will enjoy you but all above this, you will watch new members of your family as those people are just brilliant and crazy and hilarious in the same time. It shows, as it plays in the USA, typical decoration and x-mass feelings from that country and will make you sure drop a tear of joy now and then. This film is kind of a secret tip, though this film should be seen of much more people no matter where you are from and how your family looks a like. Because as I said, those characters will go straight to your heart.

Refreshing and sentimental, lovely and shiny, corny and honestly- yes you should take this little risk and watch it! :-)

As alsways..

LOVE & LIGHT

Is it to earlier to ask for x-mass?

But how can this question be true? As in stores I can see all the x-mass decoration popping up as it has to be now. Still warm the weather and I am grateful for that as I work much outside. But seeing x-mass decorations with stars and white trees makes me wonder... should I give you some ideas of decoration you can put up yourself? 

Made it at home and enjoy it.
Or let somebody do it for you!

Actually why not as we already can buy all the candies and cakes and crackers and so on. The first x-mass markets have already open. So why not?!

Well, enjoy the pics then and get inspired. :-)

And as always.. let the LOVE and LIGHT shine into your heart...